To be daunted at being a single mum again.?

[MediterraneanHouse]

Just found out I’m pregnant yesterday. I’m 29 with a 7 year old. My mum said she’ll help out as much as possible which I’m really grateful for.

The baby is due late September/October.. I’d got down to a Size 8 at Xmas and now I found out I’m pregnant!

I was 22 when I had my daughter and although I had my mum’s support it’s really hard being a single mum. AIBU to feel daunted 2nd time around?

It must be daunting and it's great that your mother is supportive. Do you want the baby?

You found out yesterday and you’re already certain you’re a single mother again? I wouldn’t have made the same mistake twice.

I had my DD alone so it’s something I was very careful about not happening again.

I think it’s easier to go from one to two than from none to one. You have a routine and baby will fit in (to a degree).

Yes I’m lucky with my mum. Yes I want the baby

I am with a PP. Why has this happened again?

Where is the Father in this?

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

Did your partner just flee on hearing you're pregnant?

Single-parenting is hard, so it will be great to have your mom's support.

He’s my ex. We’re still on friendly terms but not in a relationship

Honestly, you're not alone girl and that's the main thing

You'll have your mum by your side and your little girl to be a great big sister

So you haven't got the nuclear family - you're gonna be okay. All you need to raise a baby is love, support and enough money

As this is only your second, you'll be entitled to some support, I'm sure. And maybe the dad will help?

Is your oldest's dad around? you'll get through it girl - you're gonna be a mum again, and experience the newborn smell, the scrunch! You'll get to go shopping for clothes, and your oldest will be super excited too 🥰🥰

But yanbu to have feelings at all

Edit - and congratulations 🎊

Thank you !! Yes my eldest is excited to be a big sister - she sees her Dad but not much ! I think this baby’s Dad will help - he seems happy about the pregnancy

im currently constantly burping ! 😭

We’re still on friendly terms

Clearly!

In seriousness @MediterraneanHouse wishing you the very best with this. It's good that the second Dad sounds positive.

Thank you very much - can’t believe I got down to a side 8 at Xmas and fell pregnant 😭

You just found out you are pregnant yesterday, how is she already excited to be a big sister?

How nasty. Just absolutely nasty of you.

If she were married, would you be judging her for being sad about losing her figure? Lots of women would be upset at this!

@MediterraneanHouse , ignore this woman and treat yourself to something healthy (or unhealthy 😈🤭) to celebrate - hopefully something that won't have you burping more 😄🥰

Edit - i don't take kindly to someone trying to 'pull rank' as a single parent - just because you're divorced, you're no different from the rest of us single mums I'm afraid 🙄

that’s your main concern? 😂😂

You are a ridiculous and rude person

A woman gets pregnant and stays to raise the baby and she's the problem?

Divorced, alone by choice, a surprise pregnancy, abandoned, whatever, raising a child alone is raising a child alone

And in fact, op isn't alone as she has a lovely support system

People like you just need to be ignored. Awful comment

It's not nasty, it's just the truth I'm afraid. Of course there's a difference between a single mum who had her kids in a stable relationship or marriage and things have gone pear shaped since, and someone who lacks responsibility and gets knocked up by mistake.

It's you who is ridiculous if you can't see that. What you 'take kindly' to or not is of no interest to me either, frankly!

You found out yesterday and you’ve told your mum and sorted out that she will help, told your ex and he is excited and then you say your daughter down and told her? Right away?

That is so irresponsible, never mind a second unplanned pregnancy. You told your daughter already? Not even waiting for 12 week scans or anything… wow.

You don't need to be interested in what I've got to say, you and I are thankfully very different people

There is no difference between someone who ends up a single mum through divorce and one who doesn't- what matters is how good a mum you are and how stable your life is

Sounds like the op is stable and caring and wants to do the right thing for her family

It's a shame people like you like to jump on the Internet and judge people* 🙄🙄. Nasty behaviour, I could never

Being married/being in a relationship - either way, anyone can become a single parent because a man can choose to leave at any time

• judge real people asking for help

Friendly terms is one way of describing how a baby is made

Yes, the OP is so stable she's having no strings sex with her ex and already has a child by another man. Thankfully we are very different people if that's your definition of doing the right thing!

You only found out yesterday, and you’ve already told your 7 year old?

Having sex with an ex, omg alert the press

Babies aren't always conceived in the marital bed with a dutiful wife, sometimes they're products of passion and sexual attraction, which a woman in 2025 is allowed to have, its not wrong

Did you not think it wise to sit with the idea for a while before telling everyone? You're still very young to be choosing to walk this road alone again.
Your mum might be delighted but a lot of parents would be concerned. I would be, and I have a 29yo old DC.