To be daunted at being a single mum again.?

[MediterraneanHouse]

Just found out I’m pregnant yesterday. I’m 29 with a 7 year old. My mum said she’ll help out as much as possible which I’m really grateful for.

The baby is due late September/October.. I’d got down to a Size 8 at Xmas and now I found out I’m pregnant!

I was 22 when I had my daughter and although I had my mum’s support it’s really hard being a single mum. AIBU to feel daunted 2nd time around?

You see that's the difference and I suppose good for you if it works. But at 22 I was still at uni as I did a 4 year degree, and my mum would have eaten me alive if I'd have got pregnant. She made her views on having sex before marriage abundantly clear from when I was about 17 and there is no way on God's green earth that I'd have dared get pregnant at 22, unless I was married. It just would not have happened in our social circles and if a mistake did occur, a clinic would have been booked. I cannot imagine having a mother that condoned having children out of marriage and to be honest it's not something me or my peers would have contemplated either. We were very, very careful.

To be in the same boat again at 27 would have just been beyond the pale, I would have been disowned! I think pps are right, I just can't get my head around families different to mine, but growing up in the 80s and early 90s hell would have frozen over before I had an unplanned pregnancy, the shame alone would have been unbearable.

@MediterraneanHouse don't think you've answered about scan? Just trying to get my head round the timeline here.

How do you know you're 13 weeks if you only found out a couple of days ago? That wouldn't be enough time to arrange a scan surely.

And surely you wouldn't tell your 7yo dd before you'd had a scan and checked everything was ok

Had my scan today - 14 weeks pregnant and baby’s due the same week as my 30th birthday 😭

but a few weeks before my daughter turns 8 😊

My mum has been telling me I’m pregnant for weeks 😭 - so she’s coming out for a meal with me and my girl to celebrate tonight 😊

First of all you're upset because you're not a size 8 any more, and now because the baby is due the same week as your birthday. I hope your baby never finds out what an utter inconvenience you think it is.

I’m not really upset that it’s at the time of my birthday - but iit’s altering our family plans - in a really good way 😊

Also now I’ve got used to the news that I’m pregnant - I don’t care about being a size 8 jeans anymore - I’d rather leggings and a tummy any day 😊

i was actually 21 when I got pregnant with my daughter and on my 22nd birthday I had a few friends round and was showing off my huge 8 month pregnant tummy 😭

I’m actually 29 now so the baby’ll be due around my 30th birthday and a few weeks before my daughter turns 8 😊

when my mum suspected I was pregnant for the second time she just said she can’t wait til I get a big bump 😭

You will be fine op. Ignore the comments from posters here who are clearly stuck in the fifities

Thank you ❤️

Ive kept all my maternity clothes from when I was pregnant first time round and loads of my daughter’s baby stuff - I’m really looking forward to having this baby 😊

After the baby’s born I’ll be a single mum to a newborn and an 8 year old so don’t think I’ll have time for sex and a third baby 😭

Congratulations OP. It's great you're all so excited about it!

Not surprised to read some of the knobby comments in this thread. It may be 2025 but single mums are still shameless jezebels in some people's eyes 😂

Thank you so much 😊

When the baby’s Dad came to stay for a fire days after Xmas I never expected to be sitting here in April 14 weeks pregnant 😭

But I realise how lucky I am to still be in my twenties with a beautiful 7 year old daughter and expecting my 2nd baby 😊

My daughter’s now sitting next to me on the sofa and has already asked if I can feel the baby kicking 😭

Call me cynical but I don't think this was an accident.

Yeah I don't know why people do this.

Yeah. I think I'm even more cynical than you!

My mum suspected I was pregnant a few weeks ago when she saw my bloated tummy in leggings - she said in front of my daughter - there’s a baby in your mum’s belly 😭 - I said to my mum and daughter there’s a chance I might be pregnant but it took me a while to take the test !

Righto 🙄

Not even hiding it. 🫣 Hardly seeming daunted by the prospect.

My daughter is the same age. I would have joked too much chocolate instead. Does the father know this was planned?

Both you and your mother sound incredibly immature.

I was saying I felt sick in the mornings and had really bad indigestion- I couldn’t hold my burps in! - so I couldn’t really hide my pregnancy symptoms.

We had a really magical time when the father stayed for a week or so after Xmas/New Year and he’s really pleased I’m now pregnant 😊

Because it’s his first baby he doesn’t realise some of what’s involved with pregnancy/babies -like the fact I now need maternity bras! 😭

Your seven year old daughter would not, or at least should not, have identified those as pregnancy symptoms though

Ffs, wind your necks in people. OP is a grown woman having a much wanted baby that's clearly being showered in love already. That's much more than some kids have, even kids born into conventional nuclear families.

My daughter didn’t identify them, my mum said she thought I was having a baby in front of my daughter when I was burping and complaining of indigestion