To be daunted at being a single mum again.?

[MediterraneanHouse]

Just found out I’m pregnant yesterday. I’m 29 with a 7 year old. My mum said she’ll help out as much as possible which I’m really grateful for.

The baby is due late September/October.. I’d got down to a Size 8 at Xmas and now I found out I’m pregnant!

I was 22 when I had my daughter and although I had my mum’s support it’s really hard being a single mum. AIBU to feel daunted 2nd time around?

She never said her weight was her main concern. Some people need to check there reading comprehension.

I agree with people. This is one of the saddest things I've read in ages.

The bullying of a pregnant woman by sanctimonious people who have accused her of being careless, having sex outside of marriage, having sex with more than one man, getting pregnant, feeling daunted, not caring about her unborn child, claiming benefits (benefits exist for a reason - also is she? Does it matter), caring about her body, expressing nerves. It's vitriolic and and shameful; a horrible example of women on women. The attitudes are archaic. I'm stunned.

And some people need to check their grammar 😂

Back again as it's lunchtime and I've access to WiFi 😂

I can't believe that you think the term strong role model relates to physical strength, there's so much more to it than that. The men you have in your life are teaching your daughters how they can be expected to be treated by men and your sons how to behave towards women. If there are no male role models, then these lessons are never learned and the cycle of irresponsibility perpetuates. Can you really not see that? This country is an absolute mess as it is, and bringing more kids into less than stable environments as the OP appears to be doing is just crackers. There's nothing misogynistic about wanting women to make good choices for themselves and their unborn children.

Christ imagine one of them becoming a single parent or worse still taking their child to Mcdonalds 😭😭.

So I made a typo. At least I did a better job picking my spouse than you and am not a single parent.

But my upgrade is sensational 😉.

Love how @MediterraneanHouse has set us all going at each other then disappeared. Her last comment was about being a size 8 again. And just pointing out she never responded to questions about the timeline of finding out one day and telling everyone including 7yo dd the next day.

Wow. This is a dick comment.

It is. And I don't think that way typically but it's the logical continuation of where this poster was going if you read her posts. She thinks she's a superior single parent as a divorced person than the op, who was never married to her baby's father.

Massively dick thing to say though. Not saying people have been great about the OP but below the belt, yeah?

Thank you to everyone who’s sent kind wishes - I’m actually 13 weeks pregnant- my mum suspected I was pregnant a few weeks ago but I put feeling sick in the mornings down to something else. Now I’ve had time to get used to the idea I’m really happy about it - Baby’s Dad’s thrilled “cos it’s his first baby. 😊

Funny thing is my daughter randomly about 2 years ago she thought I’d have a baby soon - so it was great to tell her I’m finally pregnant!!

The baby’ll be due around the time of my 30th birthday 😭 - but we had a little celebration last night with my baby’s Dad, my mum and daughter so I’m really looking forward to having this baby 😊

And I don’t care any more about my Size 8 jeans - am already in elasticated leggings!

You seem to get on with the baby’s father - why are you not in a relationship with him? Or does he just not want to commit as this way he gets the best bits and gets to be a ‘Disney dad’ without doing the slog of child rearing? Are you ok with this?

I was doing to her what she was doing to op. I don't actually think less of anyone who is a single parent.

I read it this way

Not a nice comment no, but meant to show the commenter how awful her comments are

I'm really happy for you! 😄

I sometimes toy with the idea of having one more, by donor

But then I think no, I go back and forth 😄🙈

But I truly think that the little family that you have will be perfect for both your dd and this new baby

Sometimes things are meant to be, and sounds like your dd almost manifested her little sibling

❤️

Oh God, you again? Can you not pootle off to your one child and give it a rest? @Bigcat25 is actually quite right, I should have chosen better, but I was young and didnt know myself as well as I do now, interestingly I made that choice just before my 30th birthday also 😁. I'm not offended by that comment as its the truth. I can't say that I have regrets because my sons are amazing but I would have been happier married to someone else, no doubt. Unlike many on this thread, I don't have an issue with people telling me truths.

Look, I don't think my comments have been awful, just candid. I can't believe that anyone would think the OPs situation ideal. But hey you do you, and you continue to encourage women into poor choices.

We were in a real last year then sp

We were in a relationship last year - it ended in the autumn but he stayed over a few nights after Xmas

We had a lovely night last night celebrating the baby and we’re going out for Sunday lunch together - me, him and my daughter .. so we’ll see what happens 😊

Haha thank you and I think she did! 😊❤️

Not sure why everyone is congratulating the OP?
Who is going up support this baby financially?

Myself and the father both work

To be fair, it's not causal sex that's the problem, it's going ahead and having a child outside of a stable relationship (when you're already a single mum) which is contentious.

The OP doesn't come across as particularly mature when her first concern (complete with crying emojis) is having just got down to a size 8.

Fair enough and I can see this perspective, but I just think it's sinking to that level. X