Furious at my lazy fuck of a boyfriend.

[ThrowingHands]

A couple of months ago, I began to notice our dog was pooing in the house and I couldn't figure out why. He's an older dog so took him to the vet to try and figure out if it was fecal incontinence due to his other health issues. Vet said unlikely. Thought we were going to have to run more invasive tests until bf announces yeah he's been doing it for weeks.

I said well what have you been doing about it? He said nothing because he's been sleeping. He works an evening shift and gets to bed quite late, and has been letting the dog shit in the house rather than wake up before 11am to see to him.

I was fizzing. Not least because he also said he doesnt clean the floor the dog has pooped on. Just picks up the poo and wipes the area with a dry paper towel if needed. Fucking gross.

I took a week off work annual leave and retrained the dog again. Basically involved sleeping on the sofa downstairs and getting up at all hours of the night to make sure the dog goes out when he needs to, and it worked. He's been fine for weeks.

Until this morning when he did it again in the house (even though the back door was wide open), and then in my car on the way to the park.

Spoke to bf and yep, he's been letting the dog go in the house again because he's too tired to get up.

I have told him to pack a bag and get to his mums. I can't even look at him right now. AIBU to tell him not to bother coming back?

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My parents had a westie when I was growing up. They're absolutely adorable. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Eww what a lazy, dirty man. Your poor dog. My dog has a bad leg so only has one walk a day. I have to get up at 3pm for his poop! My husband and I take it in turns. We would never ignore him, and let him poop onside the house. It's so gross and disgusting of him. You can do so much better. He would have made a terrible father, he'd never get up to help feed the baby. Thank your lucky stars you don't have kids with him!

This is really cruel to the dog who probably desperately tries to get outside.

This speaks volumes of his emotional intelligence. I wouldn't risk having a child with this species of human being - he's likely to just leave a child with a wet nappy on with that attitude.

We have had three months of very interrupted sleep as our elderly dog has been getting up sometimes up to every two hours through the night, if not more often.
We have just found out she has chronic pancreatitis but has probably had it grumbling along this whole time. But, we as her carers get up and take her out as that's what you do. It's bloody hard and when we've had a bad night of it, I'll sleep downstairs with her so my dh can get a decent sleep as he is the one who works (I care for our two dds who are disabled adults).
I am so glad you have kicked him out. How sad he allowed your dog to go through all of those unnecessary investigations due to his laziness. At least you can now re-engage the dog walker and your dog will be much happier. And you, by the sounds of it.

I agree. This is a dog that needs a dog walker.

Although your boyfriend is grim for letting it happen and not saying anything

Exactly, re the standing out in all weathers. I've never taken so many photos of the night sky as I have done these past few months!

Looks like you've got rid of another lump of shit. Congratulations!

Your poor doggie. Poor you too, it sounds like the last in a long list of issues. You're being extremely reasonable in putting your wee doggie first. Good for you!
I'd be getting the dog walker to come back, even if it's only for an out the door into the garden and a cuddle, if he's not up to having a big walk with other faster dogs.
Is your doggie's neurological condition meaning they can't wait as long as they used to? You might need to alter when he gets fed / walked?
I hope you get settled and into a routine that works for you both now you've sent him on his way.

You'd have to shit on the floor if you were denied access to the toilet.

Dogs are great at not pooing indoors, it's generally owner issues if they do, like having left them too long, aka neglect, even if is benign, it's still not meeting their needs.

Poor dog, they really aren't happy if they're trained, must have been desperate.

So he was just letting the dog poo in the house and let you spend ££ on vet appointments because he could just let the dog out of the house?

That's madness!! I imagine your future children would still be in nappies at 15 if left to him to potty train.

Definitely do not let him back in the house, he's not house trained!!

Well done for sending this bloke packing @ThrowingHands
I expect his mum will also soon want to send him packing!
I say be on the lookout for him pretending to be nice so that he can worm his way back in, only to start with the same behaviour when he feels he's got his feet back under the table.

Poor dog

I think YABU and should be walking the dog when you get up. But yes he was gross with the lack of cleaning and letting it carry on.

Animal cruelty is a deal-breaker for me. If he needs to get up in the middle of his night to take an animal out for a quick walk, then that is what he needs to do. I don't care if it is his dog or your dog or whatever. A dependent animal needs care and it should be provided. I have got up, taking my elderly dog out, gone back to bed many times. It is what you do, not sleep on or ignore an animal in distress. Get rid of this man.

Sounds like you already have one! Def no more.. and def get rid. Gross!

MN never disappoints. Just when you think some CF or lazy bloke can't be beaten another story comes along about more CFery or inappropriate behaviour/habits etc. Dog needs to go out? That's our job and who wants the mess in the house. Takes longer to clear up than to let the dog out.

you’re not going to finish with him are you OP?

Awww, bless you, I know what you mean (fortunately, I'm a "loony" so I could at least enjoy taking photo's of the moon on a cloudless night! 😂 ). I hope your "girl" can still enjoy life and you have her in yours for as long as possible. 🤗

You're so right to kick him out. He's obviously a lowlife. Well done OP.

Indeed. The number of "I have an abusive / cock-lodging / waste of space / useless lazy twat of a boyfriend and we have two children under five and I'm three months pregnant" threads on here is seriously depressing.

Sorry OP - yes, get rid of this idle turd of a man.

Did you read all of OP's posts? She's previously posted: "I also had a dog walker for a while because my bf admitted that 'sometimes he doesn't bother walking him' even though he's home all day and not doing anything else."
It's clear from all of OP's posts that, despite her and her exbf getting the dog together (so it was a joint commitment), whilst she has been attending to their dog's needs, he hasn't.

TBF he committed to something that’s quite implausible. He gets in an 1am. Most people don’t go to bed as soon as they get in from work. They want a couple of hours to unwind. So, then he goes to bed at 3-4am. To get 8-9 hrs sleep, he wouldn’t wake until about midday. The dog clearly needs to do its business mid morning, presumably after it’s woken and eaten in the morning. Even if he walked the dog at 2am, it may not need to go. Likewise if you walk it at 8am, it may not need to go, though it’s possible it might.

If your bf moves out, who’ll see to the dog then? Won’t there be the same problem?

The main issue is he doesn’t clean it up the dog mess properly, talk to you about it or suggest ways to solve the problem. He’s just avoided it.

Not a chance I’d have trusted this bloke and got rid of the dog walker! Mind you, not a chance I’d have gone beyond the first date with him 9 years ago i suspect

Well done you 👏🏻working nights is hard but when you take on a dog, you take on the responsibilities.