Furious at my lazy fuck of a boyfriend.

[ThrowingHands]

A couple of months ago, I began to notice our dog was pooing in the house and I couldn't figure out why. He's an older dog so took him to the vet to try and figure out if it was fecal incontinence due to his other health issues. Vet said unlikely. Thought we were going to have to run more invasive tests until bf announces yeah he's been doing it for weeks.

I said well what have you been doing about it? He said nothing because he's been sleeping. He works an evening shift and gets to bed quite late, and has been letting the dog shit in the house rather than wake up before 11am to see to him.

I was fizzing. Not least because he also said he doesnt clean the floor the dog has pooped on. Just picks up the poo and wipes the area with a dry paper towel if needed. Fucking gross.

I took a week off work annual leave and retrained the dog again. Basically involved sleeping on the sofa downstairs and getting up at all hours of the night to make sure the dog goes out when he needs to, and it worked. He's been fine for weeks.

Until this morning when he did it again in the house (even though the back door was wide open), and then in my car on the way to the park.

Spoke to bf and yep, he's been letting the dog go in the house again because he's too tired to get up.

I have told him to pack a bag and get to his mums. I can't even look at him right now. AIBU to tell him not to bother coming back?

Thank you. As you can probably tell from the tone in my posts, I woke up to this realisation a long time ago and the resentment has just been building since then!

How is he (boyfriend not dog) with other household stuff? Does he cook, clean, do laundry? Or is a useless man child in areas other than dog.

But that can't work if he's not getting in from work until 1am and not going to bed until 4am. So you need to change what you both do.

You need to walk him before work and make sure he poos.

The OP can end the relationship for any reason she likes including a dispute over the care of the dog.

He does do that. I go to bed earlier than him on weekends/on his days off, and he never let's the dog out before he comes to bed so I am the one getting up in the middle of the night. I started letting him out at 9pm before I went up.

So why are you on here asking if you know he's a dickhead?

This entire story is absolutely vile. That poor dog. He deserves better.

He had those working hours when we first got the dog and agreed to it. As I said in my previous post, I was walking the dog before work but now I dont because the dog has health issues. I still take him out into the garden to do his business but if he doesnt need to poo, then he won't poo!

Phew !!

Well rid lovely.👋🏼 Good decision 👏🏼

This is just the latest in a long line of straws on the camels back!

Many dogs need a walk to stimulate their bowels to make them poo - that's why so many won't (or can't) go in the garden.

Either one of you needs to get up and walk the dog, or you need to get a dog walker to come in and do it.

If he's as useless as you say, and you get rid of him, who will let the dog out while you're at work?

The irony of being shamed by the dog walker, but NOT by the dog shitting on the floor due to his laziness.

Just to reiterate this is just a recent issue, since the dog was diagnosed with neurological issues and has become a lot less mobile. He never did his business in the house before then.

Yeah make it permanent. What an unattractive lazy shite.

I agree with this.

I'd be fuming at him for being a dirty bugger and not cleaning up properly. That's absolutely diabolical.

I wouldn't however be mad at him for not being able to get to sleep as soon as he finishes work, or not waking up before 11am when he had been on nights.

When you get a dog you have to accept that age is a factor that will eventually mean they're not able to hold it in as long, or even go on command.

Our own 15 year old boy has had a very regular routine all his life but now struggles to open his bowels in the windows of time where he has access to the outdoors, and it's just simply because all his bodily systems are slowing down with age. He does have accidents. It's not incontinence, it is just how his body now works.

We have to adjust his feeding schedule either earlier or later now to accomodate for the fact he might not need to go within 2 hours of eating now as was his regular but might need 3 hours or even 4 and somebody needs to be in for him.

If we aren't in we get a dog walker or a friend to let him out.

This.
I also mentioned in front of his mum that he had stopped walking the dog during the day and he was so angry with me and embarrassed 🤷‍♀️

If the dog has neurological issues and isn't very mobile, maybe you need to look at his overall quality of life. Is he on medication or painkillers and getting veterinary support?

Your boyfriend sounds useless but equally if the dog is used to being taken for a walk in order to poo, then someone still needs to take him out, even if it's just for a potter to some grass.

He's lazy, disgusting and cruel. Dogs find it distressing having to poo in their living quarters.

Aww I'm sorry to hear your 15yo boy is struggling. That's what I'm trying to explain to my bf. He's had years of uninterrupted sleep but he needs to make adjustments now for the dog getting older. It's not the dogs fault.

So he KNOWS he's wrong but just wants you to deal with it silently. What a prince!

Stick with the dog, not the man.

YABU. I'm really confused about this and why everyone is up in arms about your BF. Why aren't you taking your dog out properly in the morning before work, after you've had a full nights sleep?
But instead you expect your BF to get up a few hours after he's going to bed to do it?
Why is he lazy/guilty of cruelty but you aren't?

Granted the cleaning up with a paper towel is absolutely rank.

Bf needed to arrange a dog walker then as he was responsible for the mornings ?

Just get rid of your boyfriend permanently then! Move on to better things.