DP refuses to acknowledge my birthday on social media

[BrightLJ]

It was my birthday yesterday - me and my DP officially got together around this time last year so this was the first birthday he was properly ‘with’ me for for.

He made the day really special, thoughtful presents, a nice day out with a lunch somewhere I have always wanted to go to.

For DP’s birthday a few months ago I did a big post on my insta grid, with photos of us and a loving caption.

I thought DP would have done the same for
me yesterday. It got to early evening and I still
hadn’t been tagged by him or noticed anything on his profile so I asked him if he was planning on doing this.

He said no, that he has wished me happy birthday in person and that he didn’t see the point in posting something publicly when he’d spent all day with me. I said it would mean a lot to me if he did but he again said no and that he isn’t really a social media type of person and always felt these sort of posts were unnecessary unless the two people were apart.

I was admittedly a bit frosty with him after this and the evening didn’t really go as planned, he was meant to stay over at mine but said he wasn’t feeling great and went home.

I’ve messaged him today to say I was a bit hurt by him not posting and that it felt as though he wasn’t proud of us. He’s basically replied to say again he’s not that type of man and it isn’t something he will ever do.

Am I unreasonable to ask for this, it’s a minimum expectation in this day and age surely?

I don’t think this can be real. Someone like this in real life would be hard work 😂

Thing is, he probably regrets not putting it on because you’re in a mood about it and not because he wanted to put it on & so next year when he puts it on, it will be because you’ve told him to & surely that’s worse than not putting it on at all?

My friends bf never put any comments on her posts and eventually got a massive bollocking off her and now he puts a heart on everything & it’s just so cringe because he’s been coerced into it for an easy life.

Oh for goodness sake - he did everything you could expect a partner to do and more - and you are griping because he did not put it on social media so you can show off/gloat to others. If I were him I would run for the hills.

Nails it.

Do you take photos of your food and plaster it all over social media too OP? You do don't you? Bet you also get upset if your plate hasn't received x number of likes. It's all bullshit OP.

I feel for him. Poor fella.

Ahh OP you've given yourself away now with being a bit too OTT on your creative writing project 🤣

The irony that Tattle's main aim is to rip and expose the shit out of social media posters...

JFC.

Really? Undying love posts on SM are 90% fake attention seeking rubbish for people in shitty relationships.

A relative of mine, unfriended 50% of her family from Facebook because they didn’t post anything on her page when her Dad died. What they DID do, was text her, send a card and flowers. But that wasn’t good enough. Ridiculous.

Probably get a bit of a grip. Why on earth would you sit next to your partner or be in the same vicinity as them, on their birthday, when theyve made a fuss over you, gifts, a thoughtful day together… would then sit and post a montage of happy birthday.. on social media… for what? Likes?

maybe open your eyes to what a great guy you’ve bagged and enjoy an actual real life together instead of social media

Probably why she's an ex...

(Why are you ruining a relationship for public fakery?)

Unfortunately I believe it.

My brother's friend (this man is in his late 40s), he got upset as someone didn't like a post of his on Twitter(x). A grown man, upset, over something as pathetic as not getting a like in the bullshit world of social media.

The damage being done to people's mental health over this fake world is scary.

Poor guy, hopefully either you’ll grow up or he’ll be able to meet someone less immature.

You’ve over egged it now. This is a wind up post. Why do people do this?

This surely is not real. You are coming across worse with every post op.

Indeed.

Maybe it's a maturity thing? I'm ten years older than you and was an enthusiastic early adopter of social media. Facebook launched just as I started uni. By the time we graduated we were all living our lives out on Facebook. We're all over it now.

(Yes, yes, I know, Facebook is has-been and it's all about TikTok and Instagram now, yadda yadda. But the principle of social media is still the same.)

After a while most people grow out of it.

I wonder why any man would bother with you and your absolute “I’m a princess bullshit”, do men a favour and stop dating.

Agreed!

Just that bit too far……

Get a grip OP - I am so with your partner on this.
Social media is not real life and you are just validation seeking. You’ve now probably pushed your DP away with your ungrateful and childish response to his efforts for your birthday.
Respect your partner’s boundaries in future and maybe take some time to reconsider your priorities in life 🙄

This is just so sad, you don’t need a social media post to validate your life, I know lots of people your age and they would just cringe at this sort of behaviour.

Poor chap!

You sound like a fucking nightmare!

What a sad thread, you’ve had a lovely day in person on your birthday!

I thought DP would have done the same for
me yesterday. It got to early evening and I still
hadn’t been tagged by him or noticed anything on his profile so I asked him if he was planning on doing this.

Bastard men. Still haven't evolved to read our minds...

Take this from a married woman who is (I assume!) a similar age or younger than you - this is not how women who men want to commit to behave. Try not to be an exaggerated stereotype of a crazy, unreasonable wife whose husband has to come home with a dozen roses to make amends for sneezing in the same room as her, especially not a year into a relationship. Men put up with relentless browbeating from women they've been married to for thirty years and share grandchildren with because they're too weak to even contemplate life on their own, not because that kind of behaviour was what they were looking for when they were young men. I'd be surprised if you and your boyfriend are together long enough for this to be an issue again.

OP with respect, grow up. This is why social media is so damaging, your partner did actual nice things for you in real life but because you can’t show it off (your own words!!) you are disappointed in him and then instead of being a grown up and talking about it, you’re going to let him stew. I am not much older than you and believe it or not, lots of people have their whole lives without social media.