DP refuses to acknowledge my birthday on social media

[BrightLJ]

It was my birthday yesterday - me and my DP officially got together around this time last year so this was the first birthday he was properly ‘with’ me for for.

He made the day really special, thoughtful presents, a nice day out with a lunch somewhere I have always wanted to go to.

For DP’s birthday a few months ago I did a big post on my insta grid, with photos of us and a loving caption.

I thought DP would have done the same for
me yesterday. It got to early evening and I still
hadn’t been tagged by him or noticed anything on his profile so I asked him if he was planning on doing this.

He said no, that he has wished me happy birthday in person and that he didn’t see the point in posting something publicly when he’d spent all day with me. I said it would mean a lot to me if he did but he again said no and that he isn’t really a social media type of person and always felt these sort of posts were unnecessary unless the two people were apart.

I was admittedly a bit frosty with him after this and the evening didn’t really go as planned, he was meant to stay over at mine but said he wasn’t feeling great and went home.

I’ve messaged him today to say I was a bit hurt by him not posting and that it felt as though he wasn’t proud of us. He’s basically replied to say again he’s not that type of man and it isn’t something he will ever do.

Am I unreasonable to ask for this, it’s a minimum expectation in this day and age surely?

I've only read the OP and none of the numerous replies but surely for the love of God you are not being serious?

Beat me to it.

You sound like seriously hard work so I very much doubt he’s “punching” on the personality front.

3,878 people have voted, 99% voted you are unreasonable. Yet you are still insisting you are right. Oh we had such a lovely day but he didn't praise me online so I just can't be happy. Now I will make him suffer.You sound so childish and entitled. I really hope he sees this giant red flag. My teenagers are more mature than you. 🙄

Omfg….sounds from his reaction that you might have blown your chances with this guy and have to say if he finishes things with you I could see why. I wouldn’t want to date someone who’s so bothered about impressing others, getting the likes on social media, etc. it smacks of shallowness and insecurity and is not a good look. You don’t sound well suited.

This has got to be a wind up 😂

If not, YABVU! He deserves better. Social media isn't real, who cares if your DP "acknowledges" it. Grow up.

grow the fuck up

So he didn’t wish you happy birthday on sm. he now says he should have /will in future due to your sulking Pmsl

tho equally he may not be with you in a years time as you sound very hard work

Lolz 99% unreasonable. This must he a wind up.

So he's grown up since then. You and your friends need to do the same.

I’m with him on this one

I think it’s a bit bonkers so he did nice thoughtful things in person but because he doesn’t plaster it online it doesn’t count. Maybe you are just incompatible Id be mortified with the storyboard of love.

Get a grip! He deserves better.

This is hilarious

Wind up thread. It can’t be real

OP if you are serious, which I suspect you're not, you are completely and utterly deranged. My adult DC are younger than you and do not live their lives through social media. This is NOT normal.

This is the nuttiest thing I've read on mumsnet for a looong time.

Im very close to the same age as you, also i work in social media.

The problem you have here is ur boyfriend spent the day with you and planned nice things for you, but ur focused on external validation instead.

He shouldnt be buying u flowers for not doing something like this. Its all very childish.

What adult even does this, it's not 2010 anymore 😐

Ok. This changes things.

In my opinion you are emotionally abusive and controlling.

You need to work on yourself before being in a relationship.

I hope he shoves those flowers so far up your arse they could cut your head off and use it as a table centrepiece - it’s the least you deserve for being so utterly nauseating.

Apparently that's old fashioned these days. 😂

This sounds nasty and manipulative. Love is not a game. He deserves better.

Grow up. Social media isn't real life.

Looking at OP's username, it's not the attitude I'd have expected from a Court of Appeal judge, I have to say.