DP refuses to acknowledge my birthday on social media

[BrightLJ]

It was my birthday yesterday - me and my DP officially got together around this time last year so this was the first birthday he was properly ‘with’ me for for.

He made the day really special, thoughtful presents, a nice day out with a lunch somewhere I have always wanted to go to.

For DP’s birthday a few months ago I did a big post on my insta grid, with photos of us and a loving caption.

I thought DP would have done the same for
me yesterday. It got to early evening and I still
hadn’t been tagged by him or noticed anything on his profile so I asked him if he was planning on doing this.

He said no, that he has wished me happy birthday in person and that he didn’t see the point in posting something publicly when he’d spent all day with me. I said it would mean a lot to me if he did but he again said no and that he isn’t really a social media type of person and always felt these sort of posts were unnecessary unless the two people were apart.

I was admittedly a bit frosty with him after this and the evening didn’t really go as planned, he was meant to stay over at mine but said he wasn’t feeling great and went home.

I’ve messaged him today to say I was a bit hurt by him not posting and that it felt as though he wasn’t proud of us. He’s basically replied to say again he’s not that type of man and it isn’t something he will ever do.

Am I unreasonable to ask for this, it’s a minimum expectation in this day and age surely?

Ridiculous to ruin a lovely day over this. I feel sorry for him.

You do get not replying now is emotionally abusive and controlling don’t you? That yiu made a fuss he did it, you still blame him and you are punishing him

he isn’t punching at all poor man

Maybe it’s a generational thing. I wonder what she OP is. If below 25 then it might just be that they’re young. I’m 37 and don’t feel this would be a thing in my age group.

What the Fuck did I just read?

@BrightLJ
🙄

This

Eww this has given me the ick about you OP. How cringey and pathetic. I do an inward eye roll every time I see your sort of posts on social media, and think why are you telling us? Tell the person! It's so performative and immature.
But crack on, I see he's given in to you so maybe you're made for each other

I’ve replied don’t worry, he will have to do a bit more grovelling when he next sees me but nothing some flowers and chocolate can’t sort!

Now I know this is definitely a wind up!

After reading your updates, it baffles me why you would be happy now he’s said he’ll post in future. That wouldn’t seem sincere to me and I’d know he was just doing it because I wanted him to and not because he wanted to.

We’ve been together 20 years and have never wished each other happy birthday, anniversary etc on social media…we do that in person. I always think those that post lovey dovey stuff on socials are the ones who are unhappy off them. I’ve seen it quite a few times where it’s been gushy stuff and they’ve ended up broken up.

Your username is a bit of a misnomer to me.

What do you think? Do you think you should reply or do you think you should continue with your immature games?

Oh do one.

@BrightLJ
Do you engage at all in the real world?
Or is your mental and emotional intelligence and growth based on internet interactions?

Ok this is definitely a wind up!

Ewwww.

snorts OP asks if she’s being unreasonable, gets told she’s being unreasonable and is so embarrassed that it didn’t go the way she thought it would that she lashes out and tries to insult everyone as she flounces off.

Bless ya heart, @BrightLJ. You’ll grow up one day.

I think you give OP too much credit. I don’t think sincerity is the name of the game, everything’s performative.

Very true!

I would be mortified if my bf put pictures of me on sm when it’s my birthday!

You asked if you were being unreasonable, you got an overwhelming YES, our work here is done - you are so welcome.

I feel a shark jumping. No one is that shallow surely? I fear there are such vacuous people around though, sigh.

lol you’ve made yourself look a right dick op 😂

I'm just so glad I don't live in your world where so much importance is placed on ridiculous facebook/insta posts, which is purely for the benefit of others.

It's actually pathetic @BrightLJ