AIBU to try and stop DD driving mammoth journey?

[sunnyday2025]

DD 17 passed her driving test last month. She has a small old car and is driving herself to school and back.

She has just announced that she is going to drive 7 hours (each way) to pick her brother and his mates up from university for Easter.

The journey is pretty much motorway the whole way there and I am terrified. We don’t know anyone she she can stay with either to break the journey up.

Her plan is to drive down one day, stay over and come back next day. Nothing I can say will sway her from doing it.

So many things worrying me
her car is old
never driven a lengthy journey or driven on a motorway for more than an hour
her brother and mates distracting her

If she is insistent on doing it how can I ensure her journey is as safe as possible?

Well done, I wonder whether she was secretly more concerned about it than she let on and 'letting' you tell her no was the out she needed?

Do you have a more reliable car you can put her on the insurance for?

Great idea! Your daughter really does need to listen to you over this, and if she won't and you have to take the keys away or disable her car, then so be it.

Good outcome so far OP.

Me and some friends (all female mid-40s) were talking recently about how, in some ways, we feel more anxious driving now than we used to when young. It's not that we're unconfident, just we're more aware of what can go wrong.

as if by some tragic coincidence, in today’s news….

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14507185/teen-driver-killed-friends-years-prison.html

I hope you're planning on showing her this OP, although I daresay she'll claim to be a much better driver, etc., etc.,