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Middle-aged professional women doing drugs on the weekend

542 replies

Snookerfan · 02/03/2025 22:12

Is this common now? I was invited to a house party Saturday night and snow was being done quite openly, there were also Mary Jane vapes and Ecstasy passed around.

These were mainly mothers with adult grown sensible families. What is going on, am I totally not with it?

Was it always this way or is this scene infiltrating a different demographic now?

We always knew people like this did this, but was it this open and accepted?

I didn’t partake, still a great night.

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MidnightPatrol · 02/03/2025 22:19

Whats a Mary Jane vape?

I don’t know anyone really doing this, but we are at the ‘I want to go to bed at 9pm’ phase of parenting.

ItsCalledAConversation · 02/03/2025 22:22

lol at “snow” and “Mary Jane” are you a 1970s Miami drug dealer?

Party sounds fun. Not unheard of, unusual where I’m from though. Kids all out of the way or were there kids in the house?

ilovesooty · 02/03/2025 22:22

MidnightPatrol · 02/03/2025 22:19

Whats a Mary Jane vape?

I don’t know anyone really doing this, but we are at the ‘I want to go to bed at 9pm’ phase of parenting.

I assume she's referring to a cannabis vape.

Snookerfan · 02/03/2025 22:24

ItsCalledAConversation · 02/03/2025 22:22

lol at “snow” and “Mary Jane” are you a 1970s Miami drug dealer?

Party sounds fun. Not unheard of, unusual where I’m from though. Kids all out of the way or were there kids in the house?

Kids in their 20s and no longer living at home.

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EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 02/03/2025 22:26

Were they Sex People Elaine?

RedVelvetIcing · 02/03/2025 22:26

Urgh. They sound embarrassing.

Snookerfan · 02/03/2025 22:26

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 02/03/2025 22:26

Were they Sex People Elaine?

No sex please, we’re British

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Strawberryfruitcorner · 02/03/2025 22:27

And here’s little old me worried about having a coffee after 4 pm 🤣🤣

healthybychristmas · 02/03/2025 22:28

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 02/03/2025 22:26

Were they Sex People Elaine?

This really made me laugh out loud.

StMarie4me · 02/03/2025 22:28

Strawberryfruitcorner · 02/03/2025 22:27

And here’s little old me worried about having a coffee after 4 pm 🤣🤣

Me too!

GoldenSunflowers · 02/03/2025 22:31

Is it a new group of friends, or old friends starting new habits? It’s never happened at the parties I go to. Or maybe I’m too clueless to notice.

SinnerBoy · 02/03/2025 22:32

Strawberryfruitcorner · Today 22:27

And here’s little old me worried about having a coffee after 4 pm 🤣🤣

OMG!! As long as it's not espresso

paulyispoorly · 02/03/2025 22:35

Do you mean a lost Mary vape?

Whatarewecomingto · 02/03/2025 22:35

Snow & Mary Jane 😂Is this the 70/80’s

I’m a middle aged (I think?! Mid 40’s) mum and no I don’t see this at parties, just champagne and other booze…rather boringly…I did all of the above in the 90’s though and got it out of my system, couldn’t be arsed these days, barely drink

CaravaggiosCat · 02/03/2025 22:35

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 02/03/2025 22:26

Were they Sex People Elaine?

Haha classic!

friendlycat · 02/03/2025 22:36

I certainly haven’t seen anything like this amongst my friends and honestly would be appalled.

If anything old friends who used to smoke are quite judgmental now towards anyone who still does and that includes normal vaping.

The only thing I’ve noticed is that now the children are all older and independent, some friends are more likely to enjoy wine more than perhaps before. Where as they might have just had one glass they’re more open to say three glasses etc.

ThePoshUns · 02/03/2025 22:36

I thought a Mary Jane was a sensible shoe?

Panterusblackish · 02/03/2025 22:37

Can they get me some speed? I need a boost

I only have 1.5 days off per week and I have to fit in the housework, life admin, meal prepping and cook a roast. When are they doing their chores, when?!

If you ask about the speed could you also ask for some tips on household management, these ladies are clearly doing it way better than me if they are free to live it up with Molly on the weekends.

Pigeonqueen · 02/03/2025 22:38

I think in certain circles it’s always been like this. You need some different friends!

stanleypops66 · 02/03/2025 22:39

I've been around people (acquaintances) who were seemingly 'respectable', 'middle class' people with professional jobs (headteachers/ solicitors etc) and they were all snorting coke and taking e's. They're all parents though kids weren't there. I was a bit surprised and I didn't think I was naive.

I did it all when I was late teens/ early twenties but would never touch it now. I wouldn't want to but even I if I did I could lose my career.

mondaytosunday · 02/03/2025 22:39

No. Wine seems to be the drug of choice with my friends, but only one drinks to excess.
Mind you who really knows? But no one is doing it publicly (plus too expensive).

PonyPatter44 · 02/03/2025 22:42

Sounds like a load of performative wank. Middle aged, middle class druggies are deeply tedious. You probably need some new friends.

JohnofWessex · 02/03/2025 22:52

The issue I suggest is a bit like Child Pornography and the devastation that the supply chain causes

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Muffintopgalore · 02/03/2025 22:53

I cannot bear to be around people on coke. Absolutely insufferable.