Is he entitled to be pissed off with me

[Tootiredmummyof3]

This morning wake up to a arsy text from DH. Basically pissed off with me because I didn't give him oral laser night. I was feeling really dizzy last night and still don't feel great this morning.
I didn't reply but then text me 3 minutes later saying he'd taken the car to work. He knew it wasn't well last night and he didn't check if I felt up to walking to school or ask me to drop him off at work.
I texted him thanks for taking the car when you know I'm dizzy. No reply because what can he say.
I know I'm not being unreasonable to be annoyed with him but is he also unreasonable to be pissed off with me?

No, he’s being a total dick.
He’s punishing you for not giving him oral.
Thats awful!

He sounds vile. How can you tolerate that treatment. Imagine putting that kind of thing in a text. Cringe. Him taking the car is annoying. Can't see why you are with him.

Yes he’s an arsehole so yanbu on that

should you be driving if you feel dizzy though?

edit to add - if you are often unwell he should be helping with the school run

He's a self-centred arse.

But should you be driving if you're feeling dizzy?

So he is punishing you by making your life infinitely harder when you’re ill because you refused to perform a sex act that he wanted and you didn’t? And you are unwell?

And you have to ask if he has a point?

No OP he doesn’t have a point. He’s an unreasonable and abusive bellend. More to the point why can’t you see this?

You probably shouldn't be driving if you're dizzy. But that aside, sulking over sex is never attractive or reasonable.

What am I reading?! “I don’t fancy it” is plenty of reason not to have any type of sexual contact let alone not feeling well! Is he unkind and entitled in other areas of the relationship because this isn’t painting a good picture of him! In fact, I’d say this is abusive behaviour.

OP trying to coerce someone into a sexual act once they've said no (by persuasion, or manipulation etc) is not OK (ans actually illegal). Even if you'd said 'nah don't fancy it right now' he would be in the wrong but the fact you were ill, not into it, and he still wanted this anyway, is pretty disgusting. Can you imagine wanting someone doing something intimate with you while struggling not feeling well? His behaviour is awful.

Your husband needs to learn about consent and that it is not his god given right to demand sexual favours. This is a very concerning behaviour

What a disgusting man.

That's the last blow job my partner would EVER get from me

He sounds vile.

If the rest of your relationship runs along these lines then think about ditching this piece of shit.

Punishing you in this way is a form of abuse. He knows that by being horrible and ‘arsey’ you’re less likely to refuse him next time. Your needs aren’t important at all because he’s a coercive self-serving shit.

Childish behaviour from the man. You do not drive when you are dizzy. It's dangerous, illegal. I had 2 spells of vertigo years ago,was not allowed to go to work or drive. A friend had dizziness cause unknown,had to give up both work and driving.

That's abusive behaviour..

You don't need an excuse to not give him oral

Tell him to suck his own c…
Absolute bastard.

That all sounds so romantic.

Your husband is a vile pig.

No is a full sentence.

You don’t need to have any reason or excuse not to engage in sexual activity.

And there is absolutely no reason under the sun for your partner to be annoyed that you have said no.

He’s a pig.

Your husband is gross. Get rid.

Another day, another post about a vile disgusting piece of shit.

So he'd rather you were coerced into doing performing oral sex even though you weren't prepared to give enthusiastic consent?

In the eyes of the law that's called rape.

Punishing you for not catering to him sexually is domestic abuse.

Gross behaviour

Emotionally abusing you.

Raise the bar! Do not accept this behaviour from a him.

why do women settle for vile men like this?

No one should be driving if they keep feeling dizzy