If you can’t see it for yourself, could you see it for your daughter?
Imagine your daughter having sex when she doesn’t want to, because otherwise she will have to endure nastiness and a bad atmosphere?
Imagine your daughter being forced to give oral sex if she wants access to the shared car?
Imagine your daughter being brainwashed into thinking she’s in love with her abuser, and not being able to see that it is abuse?
Imagine your daughter thinking that it’s not possible to leave, or get any sort of financial security because her husband won’t allow her to?
Imagine your daughter learning that sex is something that is given or owed to someone, rather than a pleasurable way of sharing true love with someone who respects them?
You are forcing all of this onto your children, or other peoples children if you have sons and they are learning this is normal.
I wish you would call women’s aid and speak to someone about whether this is ok or not.