Old guy purposely tapped my bum with his walking crutch

[Wickedclimber]

Had a 'disagreement' with an elderly man today, who was utterly vile and told me that women should be in the kitchen.

Afterwards he came over and tapped my arse with his walking crutch, whilst mumbling "got over it yet?".

AIBU in thinking this is totally inappropriate?

I know if I had seen him do it to someone else, I would have stepped in as a safeguarding officer.

Where were you?

At church.

Which I know is going to start a whole different conversation.

I'm quite mild tempered but I would absolutely have read him the riot act. Loudly. In front of everyone. I'm livid for you.

If I’ve been there I’d have remonstrated with him. You can’t strike someone with a walking stick!

I imagine that you were too gobsmacked to retort!

What an unpleasant experience for you. I don't see this as a safeguarding issue unless there is a vulnerability you haven't mentioned, but this man certainly needs telling not to behave like that. Can you do it, or would it be better to bring it up as a church matter?

Can you talk to the priest there? They will have a safeguarding team. Stay away from him going forward.

To be clear, he didn't do it hard enough to hurt.

But it made me feel awful.

I just said, loudly "don't ever do that again." I was quite shocked.

Unfortunately I am the safeguarding lead.

My vicar is going to be contacting him.

Good for you standing up for yourself. What a knob!

What was the disagreement that led to this?

How rude. In a house of god! Anywhere would be rude tbh.
I'd tell the vicar/church leader. It's bang out of order to be verbally and physically harassing people. Especially somewhere which is a quiet place for peaceful contemplation.
If he's a regular then surely he could be barred or threatened with the police if he doesn't behave?

Turn the other cheek

It's given me a laugh.

It's his version of a pointy finger.

How did it start? What was the disagreement about?

🤣 Sorry, OP, I would have been furious with the old git but this comment really made me laugh!

How did that subject get broached in the first place? There seems to be a lot of bum related posts today

Not just inappropriate...it's assault.

For those asking, I'm one of the Lay Ministers. I was leading and preaching today.

He approached me after to tell me how (bloody) annoyed he was because women shouldn't be leading services, they shouldn't be doing communion, they shouldn't be going to college for ministry training....

Have a word with yourself.

Some really unnecessary stupid comments on here. Sorry that happened OP. He sounds like a complete misogynistic old fool. Definitely report to the Vicar or Diocese. Unacceptable to be spoken to like that in your line of work.

Oh good grief, that must have been very upsetting. Good that your vicar is Having a Word. What do you want the outcome to be?

Give over

Um, no.

Why? I don't think the poster was joking.