I know his secret… thread 2

[Waffletots]

Hi everyone

I’ve been told to create a second thread as the first one is full https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5226374-i-know-his-secret-but-how-do-i-play-this?page=1

I am off to see my parents this morning and will update later.
Thank you so much for all of your support, looks like I’m going to need it!

Good luck. You’re doing so well.

Good luck, you've had a horrible 24 hours

Thinking of you OP, you’re incredibly strong 💐

I admire your will and determination and that you value yourself enough to have got him to leave. His silence is deafening. If he was innocent he would be shouting from the rooftops.

I followed your last thread but didn't comment, I do hope you are doing ok considering the circumstances. He doesn't deserve you or his children. You're doing so well x

Read most of your thread yesterday and didn't comment as you had alot of support and good advice already, but just want to send love and say I think you're handling this incredibly well.

I am so sorry this is happening to you x take care lovely xxx

I agree, the fact he hasn’t tried to call or talk about it with you says a lot! Keep strong OP, glad you have family members there with you.

Good luck OP, you have handled this amazingly so far. I'm really sorry you are going through this at what should be a happy and exciting point in your life

Have you heard from him? I think you’re amazing truly x

I honestly hadn’t thought of it like this, my mind is scrambled! Of course you are right, I don't know how he can just leave it knowing I have our little one to take care of and I’m having another baby any day now, I suppose he is showing his true colours now isn’t he? It really hurts. I honestly believed we were so happy.

Read your thread yesterday, what an asshole. Glad you have immediately thrown him out. Hope your family give you all the support you need/deserve.

Not a word from him? Not even asking after his 3 y/o? What a prince.

Not a single word! I was trying to tell myself that was a good thing so my brain could have a break but as someone mentioned above, if he was innocent he would be wanting to make that known but he’s just given radio silence. I haven’t tried to contact him at all either, I have nothing to say.

Only just seen your other thread op.

Just want to say I am so sorry. And what an absolute cunt he is.

I am glad that you have people and support around you x

Thinking of you OP, I'm 19 weeks pregnant with my 2nd and I've found your story so heartbreaking. You've been extremely strong and brave.

The way he's been completely silent makes me think he knew this was coming - either she's been threatening to for awhile, or she's told him she's done it this weekend before he could talk to you.

Either way, he's both a cheat and a coward and everyone will know it.

Good luck to you with everything and I hope the birth goes well xx

That silence really is deafening. He doesn't have a leg to stand on and he knows it. I'm so sorry. Of all the times for this to happen.

Are his parents still around?

You are truly amazing OP. I am so sorry you are going through this. Please be kind to yourself x

You and your little ones have been on my mind since I read your first post yesterday, you are an amazing resolute woman and thank God you have so much family support.
I hope the cheating bastard realises what he has thrown away, something precious he will never get back.
Take care of yourself Waffle, we are all thinking of you.

As I was proof reading my post I noticed autocorrect had changed 'bastard' to 'custard'. Good job I checked, I will not have custard maligned!

To be fair, I’m not sure how he can proclaim innocence if you’ve the evidence.

the silence isn’t pleasant, not even an aapology. It makes me think he knew she’d told you. But at 38 weeks pregnant it is heinous.

We don’t have much to do with his parents, they live two hours away and I can count on one hand how many times they’ve seen my child and there hasn’t been any plans made to meet the new baby. I’ve tried with them lots of times but they simply don’t seem interested in being grandparents (they weren’t the best parents to my husband if I’m honest… which probably explains a lot!)

Op, was this baby planned, the one you’re pregnant with?

Thank you for making me laugh for the first time in two days!!!

I also read but didn't comment on your last post but just wanted to say I am thinking of you. You have made the right decision and I'm so glad you have support around you. You sound very strong, although I'm sure it doesn't feel like it right now.

Genuinely unbelievable that he hasn't even been in contact, to apologise apart from anything else! You and your children are better off without this spineless man, OP.

Yes the baby was very much planned, we always discussed a smallish age gap and I was tracking ovulation etc. he was really happy when we got the positive test, this is why this is so hard to comprehend, I thought we were on the same page and he was happy.

Stay strong, @Waffletots, sending huge hugs to you and best wishes for a positive future to you and your little ones. 💐

Which says at that time he had no plans to leave the marriage. It’s unlikely that changed in the last few months, but he was already having an affair at that point.

its shocking behaviour. But the no contact, when you’re 38 weeks pregnant and he has one child is just really odd behaviour.