For wanting to hang out with my good friend without her baby all the time?

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Don’t get me wrong her baby is very cute. I understand having to bring a newborn or a baby that is very small and still breastfeeding. But her baby is soon 1 year old and takes bottle. I understand she is very proud of her mini self and wants to show her off. But it also becomes distracting when we meet, baby is more awake and craves more attention, and conversations being interupted by a baby is not my cup of tea. Also not sitting in a restaurant having a baby that gets fussy and feel like i have to help out with baby, its like i become a co parent with her.

Not fun at all. Espacially since her partner is at home gaming or whatever while she brings baby. I understand that she can’t hang out as much as before and i understand that. But kinda sad when i see her off all sudden posting out with her partner and another couple and they at a restaurant without baby. I just miss my friend and our conversations. Also when baby is around it all becomes centred around looking and talking about baby. I don’t want to come out as rude i just wish one time to get some alone time with her like good old days.

😆😆🤣😂 thank you for brightening up my evening.

@OhBabyItsWindyOutside oh i XD
i feel like since they are very in love with their baby even asking for one on one time would idk? Open up a window for them talking shi behind my back to other friends. And take high offence.

Because she’s her Mum and she doesn’t want her to be. 🙄

@daliesque yea, it sucks to always carter around their baby/kids needs when haning out..
I didnt sign up for this. I luckly have another mom friend who loves one and one time, even she dosn’t like when other mums bring their kid with them when she hangs with other ppl. Because you can’t alway enjoy yourself around friends when baby needs attention

@PrivacyPussyPasta it does becomes that when every time baby has to come to. But i see her posting when she is going out on cafe without her baby

YNBU to want time alone with your friend. But her baby is still small and it might not be something she can easily offer atm.

I have a friend like this. It is really annoying. I say this as a mother myself.

YANBU. I have two kids and hate meeting up with friends with anyones kids in tow. I like my adult time to be adult time.

Yanbu

This baby is getting into toddler territory so either her days of bringing them to restaurants and coffee shops are numbered or else you will literally not be able to have a conversation at your meet ups.

My first husband refused to babysit as part of a way to isolate me from my friends. I'd keep seeing her. Babies are only tiny for a short while

I didn’t really leave my daughter much before she was two. I just didn’t really want to. You’re not very empathetic.

I would always ditch my baby for a friend who suggested doing something fun, not so much to just sit around in a cafe.

Can’t you suggest an actual activity for making memories together as friends? You aren’t making any memories sat around in a cafe making small talk.

Maybe she has limited opportunity/desire to be out without her baby, and she doesn't want to spend it on coffee with you? I hated being apart from mine at that age and there needed to be a very good reason for me to leave them. A childless friend who just didn't want to share my attention wouldn't have been a good enough reason. Maybe you're just not compatible any more?

The hostility from a lot of the responses on here is very telling.
Many, if not all, parents think that you should worship their child and that you should be grateful for an audience with their mini me.
Just leave it in her court if she wants to arrange something proper. Otherwise let the friendship slide.

@Martymcfly24

when baby was newborn its something else because she just sleeping but now baby is waaay more active and needs way more attention than before. Im not fan of holding babies since im not good with kids. So i dont like to feel like im babysitting with her every hang out

This. You may have to be happy with less meet ups if you want them to be baby free

Why don’t you suggest an evening night out? Dinner and/or drinks? Surely she won’t bring the baby to that?

@Notellinganyone not everyone enjoys every hang out with baby talk and having to play with their friends baby or kid. Or hearing about babys bed time routine ect

has she left the baby with someone else before? just asking because alone time might not be an option now. ds is ok now with dh but only 2 months ago he would have been screaming the house down if i was away for a extended amount of time. i only started going out without him 1 month ago

@motherofbabydragon yea she has left baby with both set of grandma and her partner before

That is really annoying, that she is willing to leave her baby for other things but not to have one on one time with you. I would step back from this friendship.

Sounds like her partner won't look after the baby.

@ouch321 ye not all parents are like that tho since i have another friend with a kid but she still enjoys adult time. But some may become very obsessed with their child that makes one on one time imposobible because they want friends to love their child as much as they do and be part of every hang out

@KimberleyClark feeling like im not worth priotizing one on one time, since she priotizes other people instead. And when we hang baby has to be part of it.

We’re definitely not all like it! I’d let the Manson Family babysit mine for a night off :) lol