Surname etiquette after marriage

[Gc1992]

Please help. My middle name rhymes with my fiancé’s surname so it sounds silly together. Keeping my surname and adding his on as a double-barrelled name also doesn’t sound right. I could change my middle name. Is this unreasonable? I can’t emphasise enough how silly the two names sound together! 😂

You could keep your own name or both choose a new surname together.

If I was to marry again I wouldn't change my surname, I would keep my maiden.

For the years I was married I never felt that the name was mine. It just felt borrowed.

Upon divorce I changed back to my maiden name and that confirmed to me how much using my married surname just didn't feel right.

How often do you use your middle name.

Or just keep your own name. Its reasonably common now.

You could just keep your own name?

Does it matter that much? Will it be read out loud a lot? Honestly I think I'd just live with it, it's hardly ever going to come up.

Assuming you both want to share a surname, could he take yours, or you make up a new name based on both your surnames? But how often do you actually use your middle name that this would bother you?

Yeah, or just keep your surname, I did and a lot of women I know have as well.

This.

How often do you use your middle name other than writing it on forms? How often do you ever say your full name out loud? If it's an issue just continue with your maiden name.

do you use your middle name a lot? If not, I really wouldn’t worry. Just use whichever surname you like.

Keeping your own name would certainly be easier than changing your middle name!

I have been married over 20 years and kept my name so it's not a new trend.

Or you could do the easiest thing and just keep your name.
Your fiance presumably is also welcome to change his sutname
yo yours but I expect that would be considers too much hassle.

I just kept my own name, didn’t double barrel but DC surname is double barrelled, they can choose later if they want to drop one surname.

Does your surname rhyme with his middle name? If not problem solved he should take your surname!

Just keep your old surname. Much easier.

Keep your own surname - that of your own parent.
A married woman doesn't need to be named after someone else's parent. This is and always was ludicrous.

21 years of marriage I still mainly use my maiden name. I prefer it :) Our children do have their Dads name. I like my name, I love my husband but my name means a lot to me (no idea why!) My husband did offer to change his name but I just felt that it was his identity too so why should he have to change!

You do what works for you. I choose my dh name as I have a child and I need to keep my Facebook name separate from my married name. It worked for me. You choose what works for you

Keep yours or he changes to yours

Is your middle name Helen?Is his surname Melon?

I married fairly recently. We have both kept our own names.

It's really not an issue. No one says all three names. Decide if you want his name or not.

My friend married a man whose surname was the same as her first name. She changed her name..

She now married to someone else and has changed it to his. Marriage number three.

Do you use your middle name on a day to day basis? I can see why you'd want to keep your own name if so.
If not, for the number of times you'll hear your full name out loud with the married surname, it's not worth worrying about.

Fucking hell. Patriarchy alive and well in here, clearly.

I have a friend called Jennifer Penelope and her married surname is Kenny. So she is Jenny Penny Kenny 😂 she’s the one that points this out!