To ask if you trust men, including your partner/husband?

[YourGreenJoker]

I’ve been reflecting a lot on trust in relationships lately, and it got me wondering about how people view trust specifically when it comes to men - whether in romantic relationships, friendships, or just in general.

Do you trust men, including your partner/husband? Have past experiences made you more cautious, or do you naturally trust until given a reason not to? I feel like society often sends mixed messages about men and trust, and I wonder how other people navigate that.

For those in relationships, has your trust ever been tested, and if so, how did you rebuild it? Or, if you’ve always had full trust, what do you think contributes to that dynamic?

How do you personally handle trust with men in your life?

No

I trust my husband. I don't trust men in general though.

Edited to add, it took me a long time to trust my husband but his behaviour and decency always lined up with his words. His parents were also truly decent too.

No

I trust my husband, my dad, my brother, my male friends. I don’t mistrust men generally. I think as my personal experiences to date with men have been generally good my natural inclination is to assume future experiences will be similar. I’m sure if I’d had different experiences in the past I’d think differently about it.

I trust my husband

Yes, I tend to trust men.

No, I don’t trust men at all. I do trust my DH but I keep a bloody close eye on him.

I have realised that two people at work are having an affair and the bloke is the most boring, straightest guy you can imagine. If he can cheat, anyone can.

No. The best predictor of the future is the past.

This.

I trust all the men I have in my life - personal and professional.

If I didn’t trust them, they wouldn’t be in my life.

No. I worked the sex chat lines as a very skint student and the sort of stuff men wanted to get off to made me realise that most would do anything if they thought they could get away with it.

I don’t think I truly trust anyone and I don’t think you can trust anyone. Not even in a bad way but you never know what is going to happen in life so I don’t feel I can wholeheartedly trust anyone. Interestingly the women in my family have been the ones who have been untrustworthy by having affairs etc, either that or they’re just worse at hiding them!.

As I've aged I've come to see that trust isn't actually the black and white thing people on MN often think it needs to be.

For example I have a friend I know can't be trusted in his romantic/sexual realtionships with women and I'd never get involved with him that way, but I trust him in that I know I'm safe with him and he'll do what he says he will.

Late DH was awful for a little white lie for an easy life, which infuriated me, but was completely trustworthy on the big stuff.

I know men I'd trust e.g. in financial matters, but not with my personal secrets and vice versa.

Yes I trust my husband implicitely. Took a while as I am not hugely trusting. But he worked hard to win my trust and it has not been broken in 12 years. I do not believe it ever will.

But he is a rare good egg. In general, as a people men are clearly not remotely trustworthy.

I don't distrust men any more than I distrust women. I am, I suppose, a bit wary of people in general.
But i trust my husband, dad, brother, uncles, sons, male friends as much as I trust my mum, sister, aunts & female friends.
I wouldn't have married someone I didn't trust.

I trust my son - otherwise, no

Generally yes. As far as I need to anyway. And usually more than women as men are more straightforward. Women can be absolute snakes to one another.

I trust my husband and respect him and always have. He’s a thoroughly decent man. I trusted my father too, he was decent and honest and loved me and my mum so much. I have 2 young adult sons and they too are lovely, decent and thoughtful.
This is my experience and I’m lucky, I’m sorry if somebody has hurt you and let you down.

Given that men make up half of the population, there will be trustworthy and untrustworthy men like there are women, so I don't think trust can be based on sex/gender alone. I trust my husband because he's shown me he's a good, honest (sometimes to a fault!) man, and definitely my Dad too. That said, all the evidence is clear that men are far more likely to cheat, commit crime, especially violent and sex-bases crimes etc so...yeah it's a good question!

I trusted exDH until he cheated on me with my BF
I trusted exDP until he had me over financially
That doesn’t mean I don’t trust other men
I also agree with a previous poster there’s trust about different things

I bat for the other side, so I don't really have to deal with men at all. That said...I trust the men I choose to associate with, just the same as I trust the women I choose to associate with.

In both cases, they're a tiny minority of the overall number of men and women I know. In my experience, the vast majority of people shouldn't be trusted with anything, either because they're disingenuous or just generally incompetent.

Nope

Every male family member has cheated on their partner.

Trust in what way? Not to cheat on you? Not to lie to you? I trust individuals. I trust as many men as I do women. Yes I trusted my late husband. I trusted most of the men I dated.

I used to trust my DH but then he cheated on me now I trust no one

I just anyone unless thry give me a reason not too, no I don't mistrust my husband just because he is male

He had never given me a reason not to trust him so why would I mistrust him?