To ask if you trust men, including your partner/husband?

[YourGreenJoker]

I’ve been reflecting a lot on trust in relationships lately, and it got me wondering about how people view trust specifically when it comes to men - whether in romantic relationships, friendships, or just in general.

Do you trust men, including your partner/husband? Have past experiences made you more cautious, or do you naturally trust until given a reason not to? I feel like society often sends mixed messages about men and trust, and I wonder how other people navigate that.

For those in relationships, has your trust ever been tested, and if so, how did you rebuild it? Or, if you’ve always had full trust, what do you think contributes to that dynamic?

How do you personally handle trust with men in your life?

I think that we truly can never know anyone and all humans, in the right/wrong conditions can do awful things.

I don't trust sexist women (there are a lot of you)

Surely it’s ridiculous to ‘trust men’ just as it’s ridiculous to ‘not trust men’. Men are people and some are trustworthy and some aren’t.

I think it’s a very rare man who hasn’t cheated on a woman. Most women have experienced unwanted sexual harassment at the very least. I’ve never had a relationship where the man hasn’t used his greater strength to intimidate me once or more times, or worse. No I don’t trust men. We can’t afford to trust them because they are the ones who harm us. Frequently.

Your poor husband.
He's guilty before he's done anything

I trust my husband or I wouldn't be married to him.
I didn't trust my ex husband so I left him and divorced.
My life is too precious to waste on a bad man.

There's a very short list of men I trust. My boys (they're quite sweet), my manager at work, and my personal trainer. My manager at work and PT are both happily married and have strong moral values (and are both really professional).

No.

My work involves me seeing/reading a lot about what many men really think about women. It’s quite disturbing.

Nope...

Your poor husband.
He's guilty before he's done anything

^

Yup

Sounds like research for an article. No interaction from OP I see.

No

I trust my husband,I trust our sons, I trust my son in law. I trust my husband's best friend, the father of our goddaughters. Other men. NO. not at all. not all men are bad, but I do not trust until proven trustworthy

I have a handful of male friends that I trust to be good friends - these are friendships that have stood the test of time. I feel safe in their company, and with each of these men there is an abundance of humour and good conversation. They are loyal friends, and do not take advantage of me in any way.

However, I DO NOT trust men to make good husbands or partners - generally. I do not trust them to be honest, faithful, or take their partners needs into consideration, etc. I believe in relationships that more often than not, men are fundamentally selfish. This is what I have experienced over and over, and what I have seen and heard the majority of the women in my life also experience. And therefore I DO NOT get involved with men romantically or sexually anymore. Life is much, much better since I made this decision.

I've experienced mixed results when it comes to working with men. Some have been brilliant, including fantastic male bosses - others have been utterly appalling (again, including male bosses, notably one of whom I reported to the police for assaulting his partner).

Yes, I generally have a lot of trust and assumption that somebody is generally good when it comes to most people. I don’t specifically expect or assume men I meet might be bad any more than I assume the women I meet might be. But I think I’m very fortunate in having been raised by excellent men, having many solid male friends and colleagues, and having never had a bad relationship, even a bad date, or any experience of sexual harassment, so I’m going by what I know.

Once something goes up sense goes out of the window.

I tend to trust people unless I have a reason not to.
I don't really differentiate between women and men.
Do you know the trust equation?
Trust = reliability+intimacy+authority ÷self interest
I think it's an interesting way to think about trust

I trust my partner not to cheat. He is very accountable at all times. I don’t trust him to have my back or put me first. Probably of all
the men I’ve known throughout my life I have only trusted a couple. Non of whom have been related to me, all of them are twats.

I trust my husband and my brother. I trusted my dad. Ihave several male friends I trust.

My dad was a wonderful man, who was raised by his uncle, also a wonderful man. I didn’t know my other grandfather but he seemed like a decent man too.

I think this raised me with the expectation that men are trustworthy, a belief that has sadly been undermined multiple times, sometimes very badly.

I trust my current DP but he is very different from most men I know and has never acted out of integrity.

I trust that the men in my life are good people because that's what I can see and experience day to day. I'm talking less than 10 men though, and they include immediate family and friends.
I trust that my daughter will have the possibility of meeting a nice man in the future and don't see any reason why this shouldn't happen.

What this says about my faith in males as a whole I don't know? I think that there are lots of lovely men in this world, and also lots of not so nice ones. I don't really associate with that many. It would depend on my circumstances as to whether I'd be willing to trust a random man.

Let's just say that as I like to keep on the safe side in general, if I had to be somewhere in an inclosed or isolated space I'd much rather be in the presence of a woman. I also am fine for the men in my life to basically be family members friends' husbands and my husband's friends. I don't really care for making male friends.

I'd say that men as a sex pose more of a risk than women but I wouldn't be without the men in my life for anything!

What do you mean by keeping a close eye on him?

I generally trust men to behave in a fairly normal way ie I don't expect my boss to attack me in the office. I don't give much thought to how they might behave outside of the situations I see them in.

I trust my husband because I think if you don't, it would be exhausting. And if it turns out I shouldn't trust him, oh well, it is what it is. No point worrying about something that hasn't happened yet and might never happen.

I don't trust anyone 100%.

We can't control what others do, and we can never know what the future holds. I believe everyone is capable of fucking up in the 'right' circumstances.

My husband has never given me a reason to doubt him yet, but I also know that many people are completely blindsided, I am aware that it could happen to anyone. I think it's a pretty realistic view of humans.

I'm not very trusting of people in general. Of those I do trust there are definitely more men than women. I generally distrust women more than men.
I find men to be fairly straightforward to deal with whereas women are more scheming and plotting and dare I say it bitchy.

(Why is bitchy a bad thing aren't dogs loyal and loving/trusting?)