To ask if you trust men, including your partner/husband?

[YourGreenJoker]

I’ve been reflecting a lot on trust in relationships lately, and it got me wondering about how people view trust specifically when it comes to men - whether in romantic relationships, friendships, or just in general.

Do you trust men, including your partner/husband? Have past experiences made you more cautious, or do you naturally trust until given a reason not to? I feel like society often sends mixed messages about men and trust, and I wonder how other people navigate that.

For those in relationships, has your trust ever been tested, and if so, how did you rebuild it? Or, if you’ve always had full trust, what do you think contributes to that dynamic?

How do you personally handle trust with men in your life?

Also I think men are less likely to tell everyone they've been cheated on. As a woman, my female friends and colleagues would tell me if they caught their H cheating. I doubt I'd ever hear about it if most of the men I knew had unfaithful wives.

I trust men as much as I trust women. I generally give people the benefit of the doubt until they show themselves untrustworthy.

I’ve been a married woman (twice), for over 50 years. I always trusted both, and neither betrayed that trust.🙂

I trust myself to get through whatever life, and people, throw at me these days so I'm actually not sure it matters whether I trust DH or not anymore, I know I will be ok even if he does turn out to be a faithless bastard. Fwiw I do think he's basically a decent person, I believe he wouldn't purposely hurt me and I feel secure in our relationship but I'm also aware that things change, people can behave out of character and we can never really know another person inside out so nothing is ever 100% guaranteed in life.

I only trust the men in my family, plus two of my colleagues who are older/ retirement age.

No.

Even my brother told me not to trust men.

I do not trust men in general. I trust my partner wholeheartedly. There is nothing I could do to make him hurt me, he doesn't shout or call names. But also, he would stop at nothing to protect us.

I don't trust him to get up when he says he will though.

To be fair, your clients were a self selecting bunch of sleazy pervs who may or may not be representative of the male population as a whole.

No

I don't trust men.
I have one male friend who is married and has a baby with his wife. Our friendship is truly platonic and he is an incredible human, just a really genuinely beautiful person. Any other men I know are sleazy or dishonest or creeps or abusive or some other bad thing, but this friend does actually give me some faith.

I trust my husband completely and utterly.

I'm an introverted empath so pick up a lot, quickly about people - I trust my instincts whether it's a man or woman.

Generally, I offer casual trust to almost everyone I encounter. I reserve the right to withdraw trust too. But I am quite pragmatic, and at nearly 70, and long married, I rather think we are both a bit old and too feeble for romantic betrayals. I can still be disappointed though.

I think I would bet high that DH has never cheated on me, as I have never cheated on him.

I cannot believe the not my Kevin mentality on here

@coxesorangepippin , after a point, not my Kevin becomes a reality. When you're a senior, it becomes fairly clear that sexual cheating is a chap's pipedream. Worry much, much more about their financial probity.

I trust my brother. No other man.

DH is sufficiently Luddite that any sex fantasy site would have to phish him, and because of his work, the cyber-security would block. And IRL, DH doesn't meet many women; those he does could generally prop for Wales.

I don't distrust men any more than I distrust women. I am, I suppose, a bit wary of people in general.

Yeah, sadly this. You only know people as much as they'll let you. I have had friends lie straight to my face. Seen men I trusted cheat on their spouse. Women the same. I know I don't really know anyone.

I trust my OH!

No. I don't trust women either. They're even worse.

No. Don't trust my husband . Definitely don't trust my Dad or brother. Don't trust my Uncle. Don't trust any of my brother in laws actually.

I trust my husband, my Dad and the majority of my male friends have shown themselves to be trustworthy and act with integrity. I had my fingers badly burned by a long ago Ex who let me down and betrayed me in the worst way, but I haven't allowed that individual to influence how I view all men moving forward.

Is it not incredibly exhausting to distrust 50% of the world? I don't trust my BIL very far, and my dad is nearly 92. I know my uncle would stray sexually given an opportunity, and did frequently, but he remains married and his family is solid. It's often not straightforward. Uncle is kind, generous and fun if you're family, but probably dangerous and deceitful if you are female outside that ring.

I don’t think there’s a single man or woman I trust absolutely. People can always let you down.

These kind of threads infuriate me. Your trust issue is with yourself not anyone else male/ female/ them/ they/ hamster. Imagine the cr*p a guy would get if they spouted this. Think of our sons ladies and the world they are growing up in, people thinking it’s ok to spout this nonsense! Do you have sons? Maybe think about it?!