To be annoyed that he's obsessed with walking everywhere?

[Rizzo8]

Or am I the lazy one?

My partner and I went on holiday earlier this year and he wanted to be in quiet accommodation away from the busy area. So we stayed in a place that required a 25 min walk into town every day. In the end it was lovely because it was an island.

Now he's moved house, location is again a half hour walk into town. If I want to take the bus he hates it, so I usually just get the bus if I'm by myself

Last week we went for a long weekend and stayed in a flat 30 mins outside the centre. We walked back in the evening but in the morning when I said I wanted to take the bus (with my 2 bags) he gave me a hard time! Saying if I didn't want to walk now could I walk and do all our other plans later. I was properly annoyed and told him straight taking a bus is a normal thing people do every day and that's what we'd be doing. Which we did.

I just don't understand this behaviour at all?

Does he have a sedentary job? I'm at a desk all day so pottering about all day is a treat for me. Riding a bus is not.

@ODFOx it depends. Some weeks he is out every day and others he works from home

Even when out and about he never takes transport. Says 'i never take the bus' like it's an achievement. I'm not much looking forward to winter.

At least he’s walking to a known destination , my DH just walks without a care in the world when we go away and he walks fast so I just lag behind shouting where are you going !

I would always rather walk 30 minutes than take a bus but I wouldn’t say either of you is unreasonable. Walking is free, decent exercise and can be good for well-being- so for me it’s a win- win to walk half an hour. But it doesn’t mean it’s always the ‘right’ thing to do!

For a walk up to 30 minutes then, no, I wouldn't bother with the bus either.

Not enough information to judge. How far is the walk? How long does the bus take including the amount of time you have to wait for it and how frequently does it come? How much walking is involved once you get where you are going? Is it chucking it down raining or a nice day? Is this walking the only exercise you will get in the day? Are you pressed for time? In general, though, more walking can only be a good thing, irrespective of your age or fitness level.

I live in London so walk or take the tube but wouldn't take a bus as by the time you wait for it to come, then it gets stuck in traffic, then it stops every few hundred metres, you can almost always walk where you are going faster. According to my Garmin watch, I walk about 10km per day. That's walking kids from home to the tube, tube stop to school, back to the tube, tube to office, popping out of the office at lunchtime to buy lunch, walk back to tube at the end of the day, then tube home. I don't think of that as exercise, that's just life.

I would always walk 30 minutes rather than use a bus, for sure.

The thing that bothers me most is him arguing with me when I want to take a simple bus ride. I feel bullied for wanting to do a normal thing.

Last weekend I had a very heavy bag and an additional bag. Walking 30 mins to our destination would've been uncomfortable and he wasn't rushing to help me carry a bag.

In that situation, you tell him, "that's fine if you'll carry the bag. If not, I'm getting the bus." You do you. Let him do him.

I live rurally and there’s only a couple of buses a day and the routes are limited so I’d be waiting a long time for a bus. I either walk or drive.

I generally walk anywhere that is an hour or less away on foot. It’s good exercise, and I see stuff I wouldn’t notice on public transport. I have a rucksack that goes pretty well everywhere with me. I only take a bus for that kind of journey if it’s very late at night or particularly foul weather. But a bit of rain doesn’t stop me. What have you got against walking?

I wouldn't get a bus for a 30 minute walk. Anything under an hour is walkable. But he should have helped you with your bags

Was it actually bullying? If so the bus vs feet argument is the least of your worries. It's normal for some to catch the bus. It's normal for others to prefer to walk.

Well if where I was going was 25 or 30 minute walk then yes I would absolutely walk rather than take the bus!

I detest walking. It’s very odd, as I enjoy most cardio and work out quite a bit, but walking is just…dull.

However, that’s not the point. He can walk wherever and whenever he wants, but he doesn’t get to dictate that you do. Just say no. Stop debating it, say no and get the bus. Let him do as he pleases.

Also, if you’ve two heavy bags, any half decent partner would be helping you carry one.

I walk absolutely everywhere I can, it's free easy exercise. I'd have expected my husband to carry a heavy bag though

I wouldn't get a bus for the sake of a 30 minute walk.

You should've handed him your bags though.

I'd rather walk than take a bus for a 30min walk, too.

It doesn't sound like he is obsessed with walking everywhere, but actually, a brisk walk every day is a great habit to get in to. Even a slower walk - especially when you are on holiday - sounds much nicer than waiting for a bus then sitting on said bus.

YABU to say he is obsessed, when he is just doing a pretty normal thing.

Yeah people raise a good point about the bags!

Early in the relationship he couldn't get enough of carrying my bags without being asked. It's slowly stopped happening of late.

I'm with you OP. I do walk everyday, I have dogs, but I hate walking if I'm trying to get somewhere, especially if there's a quicker way to get there, which is usually by bus.
Your partner's attitude would annoy me too.

It is when he won't drop it after I state clearly the bags are heavy and I'll be talking the bus.

He then starts coming over weighing up the bags, arguing his case for walking and rolling his eyes about it

I don't think that's on tbh. I did the walk with him the night before I just want dont want to do it always. I already stated I wanted to take the bus and it isn't for him to talk me out of it.

He sounds really controlling tbh. Why does he always get to choose where you stay & how you get there!

@yeesh I chose the last place.

The first example he chose. But yes overall he's lovely, however he would love for things to be his way or the high way sometimes!

Generally I would walk if it’s only 25/30 minutes but if I were carrying heavy bags, I would likely get the bus.

I prefer to walk to places. You see more and it builds exercise into your daily routine.