To be annoyed that he's obsessed with walking everywhere?

[Rizzo8]

Or am I the lazy one?

My partner and I went on holiday earlier this year and he wanted to be in quiet accommodation away from the busy area. So we stayed in a place that required a 25 min walk into town every day. In the end it was lovely because it was an island.

Now he's moved house, location is again a half hour walk into town. If I want to take the bus he hates it, so I usually just get the bus if I'm by myself

Last week we went for a long weekend and stayed in a flat 30 mins outside the centre. We walked back in the evening but in the morning when I said I wanted to take the bus (with my 2 bags) he gave me a hard time! Saying if I didn't want to walk now could I walk and do all our other plans later. I was properly annoyed and told him straight taking a bus is a normal thing people do every day and that's what we'd be doing. Which we did.

I just don't understand this behaviour at all?

He can't MAKE you walk, any more than you can make him take the bus. There is no point in having a huffy, miserable walk. Just say "no problem - you walk, I'll catch the bus and I'll see you at home."

If he gets shitty about it, that's another problem.

That does sound rather sweet. I’m having difficulty reconciling that with letting you carry two heavy bags by yourself - and apparently even taking said bags off you to tell you how they weren’t heavy and then giving them back.

Can he get a bit fixated on things? As in for him it's not ok to spend the busfare if you can walk?

TBH if i had to walk with heavy bags i'd refuse and get a bus. See you later.
Theres a difference between a leisurely stroll and being a pack mule.

Exactly! Most of the time he will be really thoughtful and sweet. Then suddenly gets huffy about a stupid thing like this.

I think it's something to do with anxiety or noise like a PP suggested - but maybe he doesn't want to say that outright.

He even used the phrase pack mule! 'youre a pack mule today'

I've accepted my lot as the family donkey. I like carrying stuff for my DP. Perhaps he could embrace being a pack mule?

This. Especially the part about turning back. My dad used to march ahead so I won't put up with it. My trick is to dawdle if DH marches ahead. Particularly somewhere mildly scary or new. So he suddenly discovers DD and I are nowhere to be seen and panics. We know where we are, and have a phone and a map and just wait for him to find us.

It's Pavlovian.

He even used the phrase pack mule! 'youre a pack mule today'

Well now you know how he sees you.

A bit of a donkey

After that insult I would be riding the bus out of his life permanently