to think it's fine to not want to date someone because of their job?

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According to my friend I am unreasonable. Met a guy on online dating, he said he worked for the council. Didn't go into detail re what until the date. He then told me that he is one of those people that puts parking tickets on cars. Cue me very quickly deciding I don't want to date him.

Personally I think at first date stage you can afford to be picky and can choose not to date someone for whatever reason you want. I don't want to date someone who waits around for someone to go 11 mins over their parking time to shove a ticket on their car.

Friend thinks I'm being daft and 'it's just a job'.

AIBU?

I think its absolutely fine to have whatever criteria you wish to have, but accept that other people do too.

i think you are being unreasonable.

I think people can have romantic relationships or not for whatever reason they want (consenting adults etc) no one should be obligated to provide a relationship.

It’s totally reasonable to not date someone for whatever reason.

Yep, I agree. I wouldn't judge anyone for dating someone who tickets cars, I just don't personally want to.

What was his education level?

It is more sensible to see if this is likely to be a temporary job that he could move away from, or he would be stuck doing it and similar jobs.

It's fine not to date someone for whatever reason you want. But you are being a bit silly to harbor these feelings towards parking wardens. Someone needs to do this job or there will be mayhem on our streets. My partner has multiple tickets a week and always has grievances with the wardens when he is the one who can't be arsed to find a proper parking spot.

I also couldn't date someone who got multiple parking tickets every week this would drive me nuts financially!

I wouldn't date a traffic warden either. YANBU .

I'm so with you OP!!! Absolutely disgusting job 😖

Yep, which is why we have separate finances so I don't need to concern myself with it unless he borrows my car. Unlike a person's job, parking tickets is something you find out quite late in a relationship. So cut your losses now, I guess

I think it's fine.

When I was doing OLD I was certain I'd never go near armed services or police.

Why is it? If people didn't park like twats, they wouldn't get a ticket.

Actually disgusting jobs are defence lawyers for paedophiles and the like.

I feel sorry for traffic wardens. A very tough job and not one somebody with other options usually chooses. I am in London and most wardens here are from ethnic minorities and they also have hideous racism directed at them.

I would not think less of someone for doing the job.

I have no problem with parking attendants. We have to have them because people are lazy self centred arseholes.

You can choose not to date someone for what ever reason you like. When I was dating prior to DP, I purposefully filtered people out based on their job as I wanted to date another professional.

You have the right not to date someone for absolutely any reason or no reason at all. It's entirely up to you!

I think it’s fine to stop dating anyone for any reason. Gets a bit different once kids and finances are involved.

I also think traffic warden is a perfectly normal job and a ridiculous thing to judge someone about.

You can turn down anyone you like as long as you're not insulting about it.

It's a necessary job tho even if nobody likes being ticketed. I wouldn't put it in the gambling/ tobacco industry category.

I've yet to encounter a ticket inspector that wasn't fighting the urge to goose step up and down the pavement whilst looking to slap a ticket on a car, so no I wouldn't entertain the thought of dating one!

I don't think it's a disgusting job. It's one of those where it's necessary but feel it takes a certain person to do it. I couldn't morally live with myself sticking a fine on a car of someone who is 1 minute over the grace period, which has happened to a couple of my neighbours (one was 1 minute over. One two minutes. Both had parked in a 1 hour bay outside our house. One ran outside with a baby in her arms and boob almost hanging out and they proceeded to put the ticket on her car with her stood there crying) without feeling bad. As another poster stated, I believe we need the police but I wouldn't date a police officer.

It’s fine to date who you want.
but I’m generally unsure whether you are a snob or someone who thinks rules are for other people and no one must be curtailed in their selfish disregard for rules.
I genuinely can see no other reasons why you wouldn’t date someone who enforces parking rules.

You can date who you want but I think you're being a bit precious here. Traffic warden is a legitimate job and without them people would take the absolute piss parking wherever they want with no consequences.

I wouldn't date one either. Likewise police, armed forces, gym/PT instructor.

Very different where I live, but it's not very diverse here. I do not condone racism of course, just don't want to date a traffic warden.