to think it's fine to not want to date someone because of their job?

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According to my friend I am unreasonable. Met a guy on online dating, he said he worked for the council. Didn't go into detail re what until the date. He then told me that he is one of those people that puts parking tickets on cars. Cue me very quickly deciding I don't want to date him.

Personally I think at first date stage you can afford to be picky and can choose not to date someone for whatever reason you want. I don't want to date someone who waits around for someone to go 11 mins over their parking time to shove a ticket on their car.

Friend thinks I'm being daft and 'it's just a job'.

AIBU?

You don’t owe an anyone a date. Ever.

I think your reason is pretty crappy, but it is none of my business.

that's even worse, I don't want to date someone who's happy to get whatever is going.

How long is the grace period? Because if its 10 minutes then your neighbours were actually 11 and 12 minutes over their paid for time, not 1 or 2 minutes. The problem is when people see the grace period as an entitlement. And it shows why it doesn't matter if you give a grace period of 30 or 45 minutes you will always have people who take the piss and think rules don't apply to them.

Including the female ones?

Because that is literally their job - and their performance is measured based on how much money they bring in. How would you be treated by your employer if you purposefully avoided doing your job?

Two schoolfriends went on a weekend trip to Blackpool at 16 (it was a long time ago) Got chatting to a couple of lads in the pub (it was a long time ago) and asked what they did. First lad answered "maggot farmer"

Hard no.

I don't think there is anything wrong with it - there are quite a few jobs that would put me off but don't have any particular nos, nothing wrong if you do though!

Thought I am married to a wonderful man who is a police officer and that might put lots of people off but he's the best man ever so I'd give him a chance if you liked everything else!

This.
Agree that anyone can say no to dating whoever they want.
But interested to know what hallowed jobs the OP and the 'that's disgusting job' posters do!

I wouldn't date a traffic warden.

Serial killer - YANBU, traffic warden - YABU.

Well she’s not wrong, it’s just a job. Ultimately you can decide not to date someone for any reason, but that doesn’t mean you aren’t a bit of a dick for thinking less of someone for their job.

It's a difficult and necessary job (because people are twats).

And having been a Council employee myself, it's also an incredibly dangerous job, where they are threatened a lot. Also by twats.

You would rather date someone who was happy to let their moral pay the bills rather than someone who would take any job if it meant providing?

Agree with this

No problem whatsoever

If it is not for you, just be polite about no further dates.

I would never date people in certain very risky jobs, nor anyone who worked for some organisations I have a real dislike to.

There was a funny thread here a while ago, "Would you date a bin man," and by the end everyone was convinced they wanted one because of the job security, early finish and physical labour aspect.

I would date a traffic warden if everything else was good, but I'm also not looking for marriage/kids, that situation might be different.

What a ridiculous thing to say. As disgusting as paedophiles are, in a civilised country with laws every person accused of a crime is entitled to a legal defence. Quite rightly.

Personally I think we need more traffic wardens as it seems, without them, people aren't able to stick to the rules and not park like inconsiderate toss-pots. So that job wouldn't put me off at all. In fact, I think I would be more put off by someone who dislikes traffic wardens as I would assume they drive and park like a dick!

Would you rather all the paedophiles roamed free because they couldn't get a legal rep and therefore couldn't have access to a fair trial and safe conviction? Personally I'd rather they have great rep so when the evidence shows they're guilty, they aren't likely to get out on appeal

It’s fine to not want to date someone because of their job.

But I think you’re being unfair to traffic wardens.

They provide a needed service and are just trying to pay their bills like the rest of us.

What job do you do out of curiosity?

Totally fine.

You don't have to date anyone you don't want to and you never ever need to justify it to anyone.

I work for a by and for charity

People are obviously free to date who they like but there's no need to be scornful of a traffic warden, and saying that it takes a certain person to do this job.

Many/most in London are immigrants and I expect they are just trying to earn a living as opposed to being a certain type of person.

What is your job OP?

How is that even worse? No one should have to date anyone they don't want to but this is weird logic, not everyone can afford to wait for the ideal job when there are bills to pay.

You don’t owe him anything. You either like the person or you don’t. If their job puts you off, then it puts you off.
Back when I was single I don’t think I would have cared. If I liked them as a person it would not have bothered me what their job was.