to think it's fine to not want to date someone because of their job?

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According to my friend I am unreasonable. Met a guy on online dating, he said he worked for the council. Didn't go into detail re what until the date. He then told me that he is one of those people that puts parking tickets on cars. Cue me very quickly deciding I don't want to date him.

Personally I think at first date stage you can afford to be picky and can choose not to date someone for whatever reason you want. I don't want to date someone who waits around for someone to go 11 mins over their parking time to shove a ticket on their car.

Friend thinks I'm being daft and 'it's just a job'.

AIBU?

Spot on & 100% agree.
That said OP can date/not date whoever she likes for any reason she likes.

Although reversed, I’d not date someone who thought like that about people doing their job and working to earn a living. For me, it says more about OP that that’s her reason. OP owes nobody a relationship (of course!!). But I’d probably have kept my opinion of why I wouldn’t date him to myself as it isn’t pretty, is it?

Would you date a police officer? It's the same thing. They are enforcing the law. He's only giving people tickets who park illegally, and it's for the council and not some seedy private rip off company.
It's fine to have your issues with stuff like this but you've just added another box to tick (must have job I approve of) as well I assume soh, nice looking, want same things in life, similar beliefs, etc etc. Good luck finding love 🤣🤣

@Melonjuice As the OP said, these grubs charge for one minute over. And as she said, a woman with a baby in her arms and breast half out was running to the car and stood there crying as the maggot wrote the ticket. Anyone who does that to another human being is nothing but shit in the sewer. There is EVERYTHING wrong with it. These maggots should get a decent job instead of gleefully seeing a desperate mother with breast half out crying in the road.

This is crazy. You know lawyers rotate so they have to take turns doing these type of cases- to have a functioning legal system everyone needs representation.

That is absolutely no true. There is no 'rotation', a lawyer can refuse any client for any reason. Of course everyone has the right to be represented, that also means though that any lawyer has the right to reject to represent that client. And, we also, in a fair society, have a right to reject dating a lawyer who would choose such a client.

Hold on, you don't want to date someone who is cracking down on arrogant pricks who think they can make things more dangerous for kids, other drivers, pedestrians and cyclists by parking illegally? Or who think that they don't need to pay the £1.90 because they think they are better than that, even though it funds essential services?

Do you know where those (well deserved) fines go? To support maintaining the roads, to public transport? Taking the pressure of child and social care?

Absolutely choose who you date, but I think your choice is misdirected - not exactly a finance bro or an oil baron destroying the world is it?

It’s fine to date who you want. But I don’t care about traffic wardens because I always park correctly.
If you pay to park and don’t park illegally why would you care.

Have twice been given tickets for incorrect reasons and I think most wardens are proper little shitebags. If one was fit enough I might waive my principles but someone doing this job would give me the absolute ick.

#notalltrafficwardens 😆

Because they give out tickets to hit targets and they often give out incorrectly and cause stress and upset as people have to get them cancelled.

I wouldn’t date a copper no. They have very high rates of domestic violence in their relationships.

Definitely fine to exclude him for whatever reason you like! I got chatting to someone on online dating years ago who had worked as a shop assistant for the last 4 years. I’m ambitious career-wise and just knew I wouldn’t be compatible with him. I told some friends and they thought I was being awful. The same friends that when I told them I’d been on a date with a Japanese man said that they would never date someone Japanese because he wouldn’t be tall enough!

Well you do you obvs.
My observation is thar without traffic wardens there would be chaos.

At least they are working

I wouldn’t date anyone with anything to do with the Army or a bailiff (doesn’t aline with my values), or a policeman or a Fireman (I have anxiety and couldn’t cope with the risk of their job).

but a traffic warden? It’s just a job.

Your dad was disgusting for acting like that; but I wonder what you're supposed to do when the space markings genuinely cannot be seen because of sand, snow or whatever.

Are they expecting you to get a spade to clear the sand/snow, so that you can (by trial and error) find where the space is? Or should you just not use the car parks at all?

Yes, this is my issue: when they give out as many tickets as they can to hit targets, regardless of whether they're justified or not.

I was talking to the manager of a shop the other day, who was parked outside the shop (pedestrianised area, plenty of room to get by) for three minutes, whilst she unloaded a car full of stock. The warden knows her car and that she works there - and could surely see the car crammed to the roof with products - but he still gave her a ticket. She had all the faff of appealing and was successful in getting it quashed, but it's just a huge waste of everybody's time - plus many vulnerable people would just pay up without appealing.

This is why so many people hate traffic wardens - not because of the ones who clamp down on blatant selfish arrogant people.

At one point there was a fast track for 'academics' to become police officers. When I joined you had to have several o'levels and highers( like A'levels). You also had to sit an exam

I think anyone can not date anyone for any reason they like.

I can’t stand this idea that somehow dating has to be inclusive, nope.

Well you could still end up in a long term relationship with a traffic warden or similar. You could get married to someone with ‘the perfect job’ who then gets made redundant and the job centre force him to take a job as a traffic warden after being on JSA for a while and not finding the perfect job. Jobs are fluid. People love careers all the time. So whilst you can be picky whilst looking now you just never know what’s around the corner.

It's fine.

I wouldn't date military, people who cut down healthy trees, housing estate developers and several other occupations. We just wouldn't be compatible.

So is emptying the bins or would you prefer to live knee deep in your own filth?

Date or don’t date whoever you like.
People should park properly though.

People always say that they wouldn't date Police on here. My DH is a Police Officer, and he's one of the most decent men I have ever met. He has helped people out several times when he's not on duty (like breaking up fights). My friends in the Police are lovely too. It's a thankless and very stressful job.

It's fine to have that criteria, but I think that also makes you a bit judgemental tbh - doesn't look good on you

Why? Inbuilt misogyny?