to think it's fine to not want to date someone because of their job?

[Terracata]

According to my friend I am unreasonable. Met a guy on online dating, he said he worked for the council. Didn't go into detail re what until the date. He then told me that he is one of those people that puts parking tickets on cars. Cue me very quickly deciding I don't want to date him.

Personally I think at first date stage you can afford to be picky and can choose not to date someone for whatever reason you want. I don't want to date someone who waits around for someone to go 11 mins over their parking time to shove a ticket on their car.

Friend thinks I'm being daft and 'it's just a job'.

AIBU?

I’d never date anyone that works for the police in any capacity, ditto the armed forces. But those are the only two job related hard lines for my dating life.

If I met someone who was put off by my job I would think I had a lucky escape.
Red flag

The only thing I’d say, is that most people don’t do it because they love it but because they need a job. I agree it’s very annoying, but I’d rather that then someone who works in something that damages children for example. It also depends on his attitude towards it. It might put me off too, so I get it. But if probably do one more date to check it all out.

Date who you want - it’s purely up to you and no-one else’s business

Dunno I think they do an important and thankless task tbh.

I wouldn’t be concerned by the job as much as lack of ambition. But perhaps he’s fallen on hard times and it’s a stopgap. So I’d given him a chance. But if his long term plan is to be a traffic warden then no I’d not fancy that.

Traffic wardens are hated

But if people paid to park like they should then they wouldn't get a ticket

I think you were a bit hasty to say no due to his job if you liked his company

As someone said lawyers who get off perves and paeds are scum imo not a traffic warden just doing their job

When I was dating I would also discount police and armed forces. Total clash of values so never would have worked. I have friends who are both and we get on great but on a romantic level it would be a dead end for me. I also discounted unemployed artists who wafted around doing ' therapies'. Triggered my PTSD from a hippie childhood 😂. Date who you like!

I don’t know why everyone is so down on traffic wardens.

As per a PP I wouldn’t date polis or military. Or an estate agent.

He's in his 40s and had been doing it for 6 years because he likes being outside. To be honest I never framed it like that just wasn't for me.

And my point really was why does it matter? It was a first date, and I didn't owe him anything. But my friend seemed to think I owed him a second date.

Your rules, your criteria, your love life.

What's your issue with PTs? I think that could be quite useful.

It is fine for most reasons because it won't work out if you're not all in. But you accept that it may be your loss.

So, you think it's reasonable to go over the time you have paid for when parking? Does that apply to other activities with parameters? 1 minute, 11 minutes or 111 minutes, it's all the same; takingvthe piss, but "it's only a couple of mins"...
And that by-laws, civil law and criminal law can be flexed according to your wants and needs?
Or are embarrased to date a traffic warden?

Every single one I've encountered, whether they are married, in a relationship or single, has been a total sleaze. I've yet to come across the exception that proves the rule.

Wow

So much for innocent until proven guilty. Why do you think people accused of a crime shouldn't have a lawyer? Wouldn't you want a lawyer if someone accused you of a horrific crime you didn't commit or would you say the accusation is so horrible you should be denied a defence?

A certain person? There are vindictive people in all walks of life.

Could argue your friends were 'certain people', if they knew it was an hour parking only, but couldn't be bothered to timekeep/thought the rules didn't apply?

Either way, you're absolutely fine in your decision not to date him again. Got to be happy. But the poster calling them disgusting was ridiculous.

Most PTs shag their clients. Most women with PTs will tell you that.

You’re fine OP. I’d do the same. I also don’t date guys in certain roles and I don’t date guys in low level low-paid jobs. Don’t pay attention to the women here crying about it and don’t pay attention to your friend.

It’s fine to not want to date someone for literally any reason. You do not owe anyone your time, energy or the company of your lady bits. If you decided that you only wanted to date bald snake charmers named Horace who baked excellent banana bread, that would be your right.

Hey, we're an important part of the justice system I'll have you know.

Someone's gotta defend them, may as well be me

YANBU, you can choose not to date someone for whatever reason you want.

I wouldn't care if somebody didn't want to date me because of my job, any more than I wouldn't care if someone didn't want to date me because I'm fat or a single mum or because I have loads of tattoos. A preference is a preference.

As pp have said you can choose who to date / not date .
Personally I like traffic wardens a road near has double yellow lines on both sides because its narrow but the amount of people think its ok because they are only going to the shop / post office/ cake shop / bookies and will 'only be a minute ' but they completely block the road meaning cars have to divert half a mile in the wrong direction to get round them.

The only jobs I can really understand people not liking is if your a veggie/ vegan not wanting to date a butcher or someone that has a allergy dating someone that works with the cause.

@Terracata That sounds stressful for your friend but I don't see the moral point in this case or why they should have felt bad, it wasn't an emergency, she just timed it wrong and had had the grace period over what she'd paid. If people are counting a grace period as the actual end point that's not really the parking guy being harsh

OP you don't owe anyone a second date. Just decline politely if asked.