He said if I don't trust him enough to do this then ....

[Springstomind]

Partner has been asking me to send him a naked photo of myself. We have been together for a year, we don't live together. He says I want "my photo" and brings it up a lot. I have been brushing it off etc and recently told him that I don't want to risk a naked photo of myself to get out in the public as you just never know these days.
His response was that if I don't trust him with a naked photo of myself then I shouldn't trust him enough to have sex with.

Aibu?

He sounds like a twat. I'd get rid.

This is such a dick move on his part. I’d dump and move on to someone who respects your decisions and doesn’t try and guilt trip you into doing things your uncomfortable with.

Time to find a new and better boyfriend. Wave bye bye.

No - is a complete sentence.

Yep hes a twat. Get rid. Hes a blackmailer too yuk. Dont send him pics.

Eugh why is he pushing your (sensible) boundaries like this?

Anyone who pestered and emotionally blackmailed me for sexual things I said no to (be that a photo, a particular act or whatever) would be my ex. Yuck.

His response was that if I don't trust him with a naked photo of myself then I shouldn't trust him enough to have sex with.

He's right. You shouldn't trust him at all. Get rid.

Dump immediately

Time to find a decent boyfriend.

"I've told you no. You ask again, pack up and fuck off"

And stick to it.

Coercive bullying cunt.

Exactly this.

Dump and check his phone for photos taken without your consent. He clearly doesn't respect boundaries.

He’s a dick to ask and he’s definitely a dick emotionally pressurise you into doing something you don’t want to do. Please dump him.

Absolutely agree with him and say it's best you split.. And mean it.

No

Bin 👎

Run ➡️➡️➡️➡️➡️➡️➡️

@Springstomind What are you doing with a fourteen year old boyfriend?

ooooh noooooo! He sounds controlling and proprietorial over your body, this is an enormous red flag. I’m sorry to say that this sort of thing will get much worse if you move in/get married or have kids. The way he says he wants HIS naked photo without acknowledging your bodily boundaries and respecting your “no”. Would you want someone you love to be with someone like this?

‘My photo’ - sounds pretty presumptuous. Don’t like the fact he isn’t taking no for an answer. Not a good sign at all.
Yanbu

I bet he's got a collection of " His Photos " from previous victims, don't add yourself to the pile, tell him he is right, you don't trust him at all and dump the sleeze.

Under no circumstances send him a photo. Just don't cave. I would dump him to be honest. He sounds immature and a bit shady.

Ugh. No is a complete sentence. He sounds about 15.

No no no no no

1, considering your body to be his (the my photo comments)
2, asking for a photo in the first place (is he16??)
3, the pressuring you
4, the emotional manipulation (trust comments)

This is not a nice man, he doesn't respect you, he doesn't care about your feelings. This is not a person you want a relationship with

Tell him you want your picture first.

Then dump him and delete the picture (not that I'd expect him to send one).