He said if I don't trust him enough to do this then ....

[Springstomind]

Partner has been asking me to send him a naked photo of myself. We have been together for a year, we don't live together. He says I want "my photo" and brings it up a lot. I have been brushing it off etc and recently told him that I don't want to risk a naked photo of myself to get out in the public as you just never know these days.
His response was that if I don't trust him with a naked photo of myself then I shouldn't trust him enough to have sex with.

Aibu?

You're a fool if you don't dump this idiot. He has abuser written all over him.

He wants "my" photo. Well talk about thinking he owns you.

It would be over for me if he can't accept no after asking once.

Gosh how have you put up with this for so long. I'd leave him now

"My body, my choice"

Repeat this each time.

I'd definitely be rethinking this relationship, he's trying to cross boundaries that you're 💯% correct to have.

RUN 🏃‍♀️‍➡️

Please stop saying he sounds like a 14, 15 year old boy. I'm pretty sure lots of us have sons of that age and have brought them up that they wouldn't act like this.

Run like the fucking wind.

I have never ever sent a guy such a photo! And I wouldn’t now. That is definitely a 🚩

Trusting him with a naked photo of yourself is not the same as the trust you put in someone when you have sex with them.

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Succinct 🤣. Love it xx

Disgusting man.

100% no 100.% get rid

Why is he so desperate for a naked photo when he can see you naked in person? That's what I would be asking.

Dump immediately.

If he wants a pussy pic he can have this one.

It's not his photo. How dare he call it 'my photo'. He sees your photo and possibly your body as his possessions. He has no respect for you and the mask is slipping after a year. Get rid.

Exactly 🤨

Don't ever take photos that you don't want to be public. The fact that he isn't respecting your boundaries and is pushing the issue is a red flag. I'd dump his arse.

He sounds a catch - he is telling you he has ownership of your body and you are his sexual property - you are not.

Two options.
Tell him NO.

Take a screenshot from Pornhub of someone else's undercarriage who is happy to display their wares and send him a cropped photo.

Personally I would go with option number one. Then I'd dump him.

I would genuinely end a relationship with someone that didn’t listen to me when I put a boundary in place.

The “my photo” made me want to vomit.

That's a lot of bush.

Utter bellend who is emotionally blackmailing you. Of course they are entirely different! You are an active willing participant who is consenting when you have sex.

Yes you may be consenting at the point of sending him a photo, but then your participation ends and he has the ability to do things with that image that you absolutely would not consent to e.g showing/sending it to his mates, posting it in the internet etc.

Sex is in the moment yet he has that image forever including if you were to break up

Personally, I'd just jump straight to the breaking up with someone who kept pressuring me to do something I clearly do not want to do

He's pushing you to do something you've repeatedly told him you don't want to do. Red flag.