He said if I don't trust him enough to do this then ....

[Springstomind]

Partner has been asking me to send him a naked photo of myself. We have been together for a year, we don't live together. He says I want "my photo" and brings it up a lot. I have been brushing it off etc and recently told him that I don't want to risk a naked photo of myself to get out in the public as you just never know these days.
His response was that if I don't trust him with a naked photo of myself then I shouldn't trust him enough to have sex with.

Aibu?

It’s gross. I’ve been married to Dh for 15 years and no way in hell would I send him a naked photo of myself.

It’s not that I don’t trust him. I do. But I wouldn’t even have a photo like that on my own phone. There’s no guarantee that someone couldn’t somehow access it. It’s the same reason I unplug the nanny cam that Dh has set up to watch the dog when we’re out for the day as soon as I walk in the house. Because sometimes I may walk down the hall from the bathroom half naked and I can’t ever guarantee what happens to those images once they go out to a home security app.

Tosser. There is no 'his picture'. Just say 'very well, let's leave this here then. Goodbye'. You don't want someone who tries to manipulate you around sex. That's not ok

Tell him that you are no longer going to have sex with someone who won't respect your boundaries anyway, so he can consider himself dumped.

He's right, you should immediately stop having sex with him and kick him to the kerb.

He definitely isn't husband material is he? Can't believe he even has the cheek to ask.

Honestly, OP, this should read: “EX kept insisting on nudes, so I dumped his ass”

😂

Well I wouldn't trust him, so he would be right about that. And then he would be gone, because he is also an idiot.

Totally agree with him anyone male or female putting pressure on their partner for this should not be trusted. I hope you decide to dump him and move on ... don't give in to this controlling and worrying behaviour.

He's right! Get rid!

He’s not your partner, he’s your boyfriend and an abusive creep

Tell him to ask his mother for one.

Say this:

”It doesn’t hurt you to want.”

If more people remembered that, think of all the money and grief and suffering and heartache they’d save.

Op, if by chance you do stay with him, please be aware that he may be a voyeur and could have hidden cameras in his bedroom and bathroom as a back up plan if you say no to sending him photos of yourself.

He's absolutely right - you should probably stop having sex with him 🤢

"The fact you're trying to coerce and manipulate me into doing something I don't want to do shows I shouldn't be having sex with you. Buh-bye."

I'm all seriousness. Someone who doesn't respect your boundaries should not be getting access to your body.

What on earth are you doing with this absolute arsehole? He belongs in the fucking bin.

That's awful way to bully you.
What else does he do that is bullying or controlling that makes you walk on egg shells or guilt trips you

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@Springstomind don’t do it that is not how a nice man behaves xx

@PickAChew

yeah I was expecting a lovely pussy shot, and it was just all buy with a snaky bit of pussy, so disappointing!

Gross creep. I wouldn't trust him not to take one without your knowledge since he's so shit about boundaries.

He is correct. You shouldn't trust him enough to have sex with him. He is coercive. and coercive people are untrustworthy. If you give in to this thing you don't want to do, which would be bad enough, what other boundaries is he going to insist you give up?

Jettison. Immediately.

So many red flags!

I've been with my husband 16 years and still wouldn't send a naked photo, he's asked once, I said exactly the same as you and his only response was "fair enough" and never mentioned again.

But you'd do it if you love me...

Write on a large piece of card
YOU ARE AN ARSEHOLE
CONSIDER YOURSELF DUMPED.

Take a photo of it
send him that.