FFS how does exH keep getting girlfriends?!

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The man has more red flags than a Chinese flag-waving competition.
🚩 Four children by three different women, two of whom he has no relationship with.
🚩 Two acrimonious divorces.
🚩 Two non-molestation orders to stop him harassing two of the mothers.
🚩 Convictions for drug-driving and driving without insurance.
🚩 A history of alcohol problems.
🚩 Can't seem to hold down a job and is financially incontinent.
🚩 Moves in with his sisters when he's between girlfriends because he doesn't believe "the man of the house" should have to cook, clean or do the laundry, even when he's the only one in it.

And yet, he's just moved in with yet another woman with her own children and a professional job. Why?! What could possibly be attractive about him as a LT relationship prospect? I can't imagine for a second that he's sharpened up his skills in the bedroom. The mind boggles.

FWIW I was wife #1, so didn't have any of the above history as a guide when I made the extremely poor decision to marry him.

Only you can answer this as you fell for him!

You see it on MN all the time.

Some women seem to move a new bloke in before the bed's barely cold from the last one.

It's the kids I feel for.

Because women are sold a myth that they are nothing without a man.Our society is to blame.having said that a lot of men now out up with pitches not to be alone and to be dads

Put up with

Bitches

Oh god, that’s an awful situation - she sounds pretty terrible too, tbf. Who tells the ex-wife, mother of his children, that they’re not parenting right?!

Maybe he’s met his charmless match in this one? 🤔

Anyone can get a girlfriend as you can play a part for a short amount of time but he can’t keep them!

@Daleksatemyshed you’re probably right re DC. A person I know chased a married guy with kids, prior prison time and about to go back to prison( she was aware of all this). Zero redeeming qualities. On the other hand she was single, no kids, great job, great family, objectively very attractive but very low self esteem. She got pregnant, dude in jail for many years. A one night stand with a random guy would have been better.

Well... how would the women find these things out, unless he himself tells them? They wouldn't til it's too late! The designer gear and new cars will no doubt not be a red flag to some.

Your rapist comment is worrying. Do you think any of the latest g/f’s children are at risk?
If not I don’t think she’s likely to listen to anything you say and she’ll have to learn like his ither g/fs.

I know, but it's so depressing.

Because their are a lot of very desperate women with low standards in the world have you read the threads on here about how peoples husbands and boyfriends act. It's actually embarrassing

@DonKedik similar lack of doing:

It wouldn't show up on a Claire's Law search. I told the police that I wasn't going to pursue it as conviction rates are so appalling and I need to conserve my mental health for parenting my children. It's on the NMO paperwork though.

My ex H though nowhere near as grim as this has always had a woman in his life which is a total mystery to me. I was wife no 1, he then married the woman he left me for and had 3 more kids with her, we had 1 which brought his total of offspring to 4. When no 1 with new wife arrived he then stopped the already tiny and intermittent payment to our child. She then left him and didn't take the kids but he still managed to get another woman. She died and he soon found a replacement and the last I heard he was onto a successor for this woman. I just think there are some really desperate women out there who are lonely and fall for the highly edited narrative of these men's "my sad life and all the terrible women in it who have made things so difficult for me with their madness" .

Both, but mostly dong 😁

He tells them what they want to hear!

Women love a bad boy.

There are Facebook groups called ‘are we dating the same man .’

You said it yourself- he can be very charming.

I don’t have an ex like this luckily enough but I know a couple of men with similar histories in my local town..I don’t get it . Sometimes it’s a lot to do with personality I think. Extremely manipulative personalities.

A lot of women desperately want a partner at all costs so will take anyone passable that wafts a bit of fake charm at them.

You must know this. You must have met people like this.

Don't forget if he's your ex-h he must have got you to be his gf at one point!

He sounds a bit like my ex so if there anything alike he will be charming with the gift of the gab. With multiple crazy exes and likes to paint himself as the victim! They always seem to land on their feet too.

Is he a charismatic narcissist?? Able to get the women but not keep them??