FFS how does exH keep getting girlfriends?!

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The man has more red flags than a Chinese flag-waving competition.
🚩 Four children by three different women, two of whom he has no relationship with.
🚩 Two acrimonious divorces.
🚩 Two non-molestation orders to stop him harassing two of the mothers.
🚩 Convictions for drug-driving and driving without insurance.
🚩 A history of alcohol problems.
🚩 Can't seem to hold down a job and is financially incontinent.
🚩 Moves in with his sisters when he's between girlfriends because he doesn't believe "the man of the house" should have to cook, clean or do the laundry, even when he's the only one in it.

And yet, he's just moved in with yet another woman with her own children and a professional job. Why?! What could possibly be attractive about him as a LT relationship prospect? I can't imagine for a second that he's sharpened up his skills in the bedroom. The mind boggles.

FWIW I was wife #1, so didn't have any of the above history as a guide when I made the extremely poor decision to marry him.

Why do you care?

I mean this gently but why do you care?

Maybe the women are as bad as he is.

Like attracts like.

Because my DC keep getting introduced to random women and it's chaotic for them. Because these women take it upon themselves to vocalise opinions they've formed of me and my parenting based on one side of a very wonky story.

Sorry, desperate in what way? If you mean in terms of wanting a relationship, I strongly doubt that's true. Most men are always looking for a relationship or a partner if they don't already have one, whereas women don't have this same drive and are happy to stay single for long periods of time.

Not your circus....

Sounds like no one has actually stuck around long term if there have been many 🙄

I’ve thought this for a while about my SDs ex. He’s got two kids by two different women, one of which he’s not allowed to see AND he’s an alcoholic crack head and looks like he got hit in the face by a shovel

Pissing money away?

Omg! I love the idea of this!! I'm already composing in my head my review of my narcissistic, coercive controlling exH!!

They probably don't know.

Presumably pisses money away…

In this situation, YOU are the red flag.

Because sadly, so many women are desperate or just lied to. I have an ex boyfriend who slept with his brother’s girlfriend and then told his brother what a great girl she is, which prompted his brother propose to this girl. This ex boyfriend was smirking as he told me and a friend of mine all about it. I never spoke to him again after that. Yet he is now shacked up with some poor woman who attends family functions with him while he and his brother’s wife smirk at each other across the table. There are family jokes about how this guy and his brother’s wife are just like a couple. Ha ha… Can you imagine if my ex’s partner knew?

My ex husband, a complete cock lodger, found a new place to lodge his cock shortly after I divorced him. This time he managed to talk this woman into selling her house and buying a larger house in both their names. His only contribution was the financial settlement he got out of me. She pays for everything, just like I did. Their fights are exactly the same as ours were (my child tells me all about it). He says we broke up because I’m a psycho. She’s quickly finding out why I left him.

I also wonder how they do it. It’s lies. They lie to women about their past and the reasons for previous breakups. This is why we need to look at facts - women with small children don’t divorce their husbands for no reason. Sadly, people often have to learn for themselves.

There are some women who are attracted to a 'masterful' man. It could be that they interpret dominance for love, control for 'looking after'. Women want to be cared for. They fall in love with the idea of being looked after. They will give in to anything, telling themselves that is what they want.

When he gets bored, or the current woman starts to recognise what he really is, he moves on, tries his luck again.

To him, it is cheaper than employing a housekeeper, maid and gardener.

She is already making excuses for him and believing everything he says.

Won't be long before the penny drops and she gives up the idea of having a masterful man for her to care for.

I've got a friend with a man like this. She's intelligent, funny, caring and selfless. She gives him chance after chance. He repays her by pushing the boundaries further. Countless people are telling her to leave him. But she won't. I don't know how he enhances her life.

He shits out ten pound notes in his undies with no control

I mean, he was a walking red flag when you met him, you just didn’t see itt at first. Probably much like his other exs.

You keep making excuses for yourself but presumably you were together for a while before you married or at least before you had children. You also had more than one child with him. So at best you were naiive and at worst, stupid. You got out of it though so should be proud of yourself for that. For your children you can talk about relationships, instill confidence and work on their self esteem in the hope they don't make the same mistakes you did. You also can't police his time with them but by providing the loving home that you are they will be able to talk to you.

Some women think they can be the one to 'save' the loser. They can't and shouldn't but there you go. Not everyone has healthy rolemodels when it comes to relationships. She has low to no standards.

Nobody has mentioned pheromones here… some utter arses can be chemically appealing to some women, in spite of the long list of red flags. Might go some way to explain how they seem to never run out of new partners they don’t deserve.

Sadly some women are drawn to bad fellas, it’s a turn on 😩

clear he must be good bull###t story with every single one of them. Let them learn on their own experience
But

why do you care?
Live your life ☺️

He sounds like he’s got cash to blow and you fell for it once

'why would any woman shag this idiot'

• woman who has shagged that idiot

Good shag, charming/love bombing and hides the red flags well?