FFS how does exH keep getting girlfriends?!

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The man has more red flags than a Chinese flag-waving competition.
🚩 Four children by three different women, two of whom he has no relationship with.
🚩 Two acrimonious divorces.
🚩 Two non-molestation orders to stop him harassing two of the mothers.
🚩 Convictions for drug-driving and driving without insurance.
🚩 A history of alcohol problems.
🚩 Can't seem to hold down a job and is financially incontinent.
🚩 Moves in with his sisters when he's between girlfriends because he doesn't believe "the man of the house" should have to cook, clean or do the laundry, even when he's the only one in it.

And yet, he's just moved in with yet another woman with her own children and a professional job. Why?! What could possibly be attractive about him as a LT relationship prospect? I can't imagine for a second that he's sharpened up his skills in the bedroom. The mind boggles.

FWIW I was wife #1, so didn't have any of the above history as a guide when I made the extremely poor decision to marry him.

If it wasn't for the motoring crimes I'd wonder if you were talking about Donald Trump or Boris Johnson.

Classic hobosexual. Goes from woman to woman, moves in with his sisters when he has nowhere else to go.
They are very charming and manipulative and know exactly what to say to impress a woman. They rewrite their own history and/or spin a line about how they've had problems with drugs/alcohol in the past but are clean now. Not seeing there children is always because the mother is nasty. Everyone is nasty to men like this and they do a whole "poor me" spiel.
They often prey on women who are vulnerable in some way - low self-esteem/recovering after an abusive relationship etc.
They fall in fast, make all the right moves and noises, then along comes the "accommodation emergency" where there's an issue where they are living eg. nasty landlord wants to evict them/fell out with housemates (no fault of his own of course)/living with parents or in this case sisters who finally get pissed off with him not paying his way/contributing/doing chores. This results in the man wangling his way in with the new girlfriend as he'll otherwise be homeless. Lots of emotional manipulation and so on, it'll only be for a while till I get back on my feet. And there you have it, the hobosexual has moved in.
The next stage is full on cocklodger. The accommodation emergency is followed by an "employment emergency" eg. loses job (no fault of his own)/bullied by manager or workmates and has to quit/too depressed to work etc.

The problem with them is that they are so convincing at first and promise the world.
My ex is like that. I was taken in by him at first. I was in a very emotionally unstable state as my mother had just died. Within 3 months he had moved himself in and then the drinking started. It took a long time to wake up to this and get rid of him.
After I got rid of him he went back to his parents. Soon after that he'd taken up with another woman in the village, one week after her husband of 10 years left her out of the blue. He later left her, not sure why, moved back in with his parents and in no time at all he'd taken up with yet another woman in the village who'd just moved here after a messy divorce in which all her friends (who were also mutual friends of her husband) abandoned her. My ex was straight in there....

They really are.

I haven’t heard from my friend since so I suspect he’s explained me away as crazy and she’s believed him.

These men 100% know who to target. My sister was vulnerable when she met him (younger and was recovering from an eating disorder). My friend is newly divorced after her husband cheated.

Neither of these women would give ex-bil the time of day when they are feeling strong but it seems both have been sucked in whilst they are vulnerable.

Hmm, this person just this minute popped up at random on my TikTok fyp! 😂 it’s watching! 😂

Best answer on Mumsnet!
Covers pretty much every dilemma.

Why does this bitch have any means to contact you though? Block her number. They obviously deserve each other, so just let them get on with being a pair of cunts and be glad he's not your problem anymore.

I think financially incontinent is one of the best phrases ever!

Men like this seem to be able to sniff out their next victim.

I think it means shitting your income away!

Prick Advisor 😂Please set it up. I would read with popcorn.

The dongless wonder in the photo is Andrew Tate. Another prince among men.

I once knew someone who kept getting GF’s who were single mums with their own houses and moving in within a week. Because he didn’t want to be homeless each time he became single he’d go for a certain type, and it worked every single time. The same types of women with similar backgrounds, been abused and desperate to be loved. They know who will fall for it. It’s pathetic really, on both sides.

4 children and counting caught up in all of this. They are the losers here.

If you have some contact details for her, you can make a third party Clare's Law application for her.

Then, you are well within your rights to gently request that she winds her neck in.

Addendum

Additionally, you can inform her that she's little more than a flying monkey, who you can guarantee will be royally shat upon by him in due course.

Perhaps you can kindly offer to report her for harassment. See how brave she really is. Mention it when you make the application.

My ex is getting remarried third times a charm I guess? He got with this one while on police bail for raping her friend someone sent a letter to her place of work telling her his past crimes and her place of work suggested she got a disclosure done on him so she left the job and moved away with him she works full time to support him so he pays no child support apparently this and the lack of relationship with his children is all my fault lord knows what bullshit he spouts at them but the fact is his children are inconvenient for him

She doesn't realise taking him away from his children is doing them a favour they are free from his toxic behaviour for now

Honestly they both seem as bad as each other like meets like

@RealHousewivesOfTaunton FWIW I was wife #1, so didn't have any of the above history as a guide when I made the extremely poor decision to marry him.

Well you were the first wife, so that means you will know the answer to your own question.

What was attractive about this man that compelled you to approach him and initiate a romantic relationship?

Were you married to Trump?

Sorry, couldn't help myself 🤭

He is good looking/has superficial charm/wit/good company/presents as caring and supportive initially, and/or, is gravitating to women who have low bars/low self esteem/limited options/character flaws of their own that mean they struggle to do better.

Pisses money up the wall

That photo goes a long way to explain why AT hates women as much as he does... 🌶

I love the way that you describe him so eloquently. I would love to read your review on Prick Advisor.

He must be ridiculously charming?

You mean except for the fact that Trump's on good terms with his ex and he's been with his currant wife for over 20 years. And that all his children and grandchildren love and support him (see video). Yeah, exactly the same.

Off topic but I've always found it advisable not to derive my view of the world from media outlets that use the term "her penis" unironically.

Some women are desperate.

And some men know how to prey on these types of women.

I’m thankful for things like MN where some women ask for advice before moving a strange man in with their kids (unfortunately not enough though).

If I was his script writer helping him get another woman, I’d spin it like this:

”I was so young, wild and unruly back then (rueful, wry smile into the distance). And my mum, wives and girlfriends didn’t know what to do with me - I was out of control. I feel sad that they all became angry, jealous and stopped me seeing my kids. Not that I blame them. But you’re different Stacey. You get me and understand me in a way they never did. I am older and wiser now - I’ve learned from my past mistakes and I’m not the same man anymore. I have finally met the woman I was meant to be with. I am glad I met you now and not back then…..”

I did put it in a corny way but I do think many women are attracted to that kind of narrative.

Hello, Melania! 👋🏽