FFS how does exH keep getting girlfriends?!

[RealHousewivesOfTaunton]

The man has more red flags than a Chinese flag-waving competition.
🚩 Four children by three different women, two of whom he has no relationship with.
🚩 Two acrimonious divorces.
🚩 Two non-molestation orders to stop him harassing two of the mothers.
🚩 Convictions for drug-driving and driving without insurance.
🚩 A history of alcohol problems.
🚩 Can't seem to hold down a job and is financially incontinent.
🚩 Moves in with his sisters when he's between girlfriends because he doesn't believe "the man of the house" should have to cook, clean or do the laundry, even when he's the only one in it.

And yet, he's just moved in with yet another woman with her own children and a professional job. Why?! What could possibly be attractive about him as a LT relationship prospect? I can't imagine for a second that he's sharpened up his skills in the bedroom. The mind boggles.

FWIW I was wife #1, so didn't have any of the above history as a guide when I made the extremely poor decision to marry him.

Sadly, he is charming and lies like he breathes.

Mystery solved.

I don't like to diss my own sex but women can be a bit daft sometimes. A man has a string of ex's and a string of DC but as long as he tells a woman she's different, that's she's the one, too many women will believe it because they want to. We should have an app, something like trip advisor, where we could review men like your ex, maybe if enough women rated him 1 star, not worth the effort some women would listen.

I've often thought the same thing. They'd probably cry GDPR or something though.

^^ There’s your answer, OP, he’s telling her a load of garbage and she’s believing it.

Let me guess, in reality, you’re bringing up the children, doing all the parenting work and paying for everything they need?

But there must have been a few red flags that you ignored and then went on to have kids and marry him?

I’m sure he got a lot worse over the years but I find it hard to believe there really was no sign at all that he was a selfish prick.

But I agree it is so frustrating seeing women ignore the huge red flags you mentioned. Like you say with so many years of him being so useless all the evidence is right there for them to see. It’s odd that they can still somehow convince themselves that he isn’t the problem.

@RealHousewivesOfTaunton there's a ghastly web site called UK Punting where "men" review sex workers. If they can get away with it I think we're in with a chance

Many years ago I learned the hard way that if someone has a lot of crazy exes, you should probably look at the common denominator. But he was charming, and hot. I was young and naive.

I suspect that she heard his version of them long before she got the opportunity to put your version across and, therefore, believes him.

I know one like this, he's a serial abuser, emotional, financial, a rapist and paedophille, he's also ugly as sin! He got convicted last year and put on the register for 10years, year he still managed to get another woman pregnant before he went to prison. When the woman was told of what he was convicted with she replied I know! So what can you do about that, she chose to have another baby and put her other children at risk for this piece of shit. I just don't get it!

He's probably going for women who set the bar really low.
It's sad that women accept men like this, but it happens so often.

Yes I definitely ignored a few, but I was 20 and we didn't live with eachother before we got married.

So you’re the mythical crazy ex wife who is ruining their perfect new family with your badly behaved children. The source of all their problems and the only thing they ever row about because their relationship is brilliant otherwise.

Hahaha, why do so many women buy the crazy ex story?

😂😂🤣

Yet you were with him OP so there must have been something there or why marry

Send her this link.
With all your red flags listed so well.
Do it for sisterhood.

Some women would rather be with a piece of shite male ,rather than have no man at all.

Serial shite men with ''falling pregnant'' common, quite soon into the 'relationship'.

Lots of people are desperate, they would rather live a life with a loser than be alone.
this is why my ex also has a new partner ….

How did you fall for him OP?

You fell for him, you tell us 😜

Desperation, low standards, and the delusion that she'll be the one special, beautiful and magical enough to fix him. With a healthy dash of charm, lies, sob stories and manipulation from his side.

Basically two people with Main Character Syndrome coming together to bask in their Main Characterness until it implodes.

I don’t think the new women are aware of any of his history. Also there are people who are so desperate for company that anything with a pulse will do.

He puts a spell on them.

How is it possible? Love bombing and pretending to be someone else, then presumably the mask slips and he's back to his sister's.
Thank goodness you're not with him any more.
You'd think he must have some sort of je ne sais qua or whatever? But I guess some people might just be blinded by the idea they need to be in any relationship so they won't be alone.
If he's a rapist, would that come up if someone did a Clare's Law application on him?
What an absolute fucking tool. He certainly doesn't deserve a relationship, except with someone exactly as awful as himself!

@PeloMom I think with some women it's not anything with a pulse, it's that they're getting older and any man who can get them pregnant will do. It's fine to want a DC but not to give your DC a crap father, you can leave them but sadly your DC don't really get that choice

They have poor boundaries, and low self esteem, and he appeals to them somehow.