FFS how does exH keep getting girlfriends?!

[RealHousewivesOfTaunton]

The man has more red flags than a Chinese flag-waving competition.
🚩 Four children by three different women, two of whom he has no relationship with.
🚩 Two acrimonious divorces.
🚩 Two non-molestation orders to stop him harassing two of the mothers.
🚩 Convictions for drug-driving and driving without insurance.
🚩 A history of alcohol problems.
🚩 Can't seem to hold down a job and is financially incontinent.
🚩 Moves in with his sisters when he's between girlfriends because he doesn't believe "the man of the house" should have to cook, clean or do the laundry, even when he's the only one in it.

And yet, he's just moved in with yet another woman with her own children and a professional job. Why?! What could possibly be attractive about him as a LT relationship prospect? I can't imagine for a second that he's sharpened up his skills in the bedroom. The mind boggles.

FWIW I was wife #1, so didn't have any of the above history as a guide when I made the extremely poor decision to marry him.

My sister’s ex is exactly the same.

Sofa surfs, massively in debt, works a very low paid job, doesn’t drive and barely sees the kids.

Another friend coincidentally came across him on a dating app and was so excited about this amazing new man she’d met. Showed me pictutes so I filled her in.

He’d invented a whole new persona that didn’t include his ex-wife and three children, claimed he couldn’t drive because of the trauma of being in a horrific accident (lies) and completely lied about his job.

He’d also killed off his perfectly alive parents as he knew that if the relationship got serious (and all if his do within weeks) that his parents would rat him out.

Honestly, if I hadn’t seen his face in the pictures, I never would have believed she was talking about him.

Those women are telling themselves “I can fix him.”.

It’s the triumph of hope over experience.

The new g/f sounds like a great match for him! But sorry you have to deal with this.

Abusive and/or manipulative men are often very very good at selling themselves and telling a story.

My ex's latest GF approached me in the supermarket a few weeks ago to say that 'they' were sick of me preventing him seeing our girls and they'd be at my door 'very soon' and I better let them see the girls. She was openly gobsmacked when I pointed out that the girls are university age adults and don't live in my house any more...

Clare's Law does allow the Police to disclose things that didn't make it to court, incidents that resulted in no charges etc.

And there are 2 restraining orders - they will be disclosed.

As she's got kids, I'd let the Police know and leave it up to them.

The pool is very small once you get older and have kids. Most of
the men have left their other families ( unlike women who keep the kids but just lose the man) so there's always baggage.
keep them all at arms length until the kids have left home

My friend has just married someone who has been married 3 times before. He seems lovely and they are very happy but you have to think one of them has some issues somewhere.

Give thanks that you eventually dodged a bullet. Be grateful that he is no longer your problem. Enjoy that your life is (hopefully) better and more true than this terrible person who leaves wrecked lives in his wake. Live your life and rock on.

I was wondering the same. Presumably he's 'getting' these girlfriends the same way he got her?

But 'getting' is the easy part. It doesn't sound like he manages to keep any of these women.

Well he’s your ex so weren’t you his girlfriend once? 🤔

@C1N1C

you could try reading her posts!!

she was young, only 20, didn't live with him before they married, admits he had the chat etc.

not the same as wife 68, lots of kids with different woman & being told what he's like, knows drink/drive issues etc

its just not comparable.its really not.

Are they a lot younger by any chance OP?

@ARichtGoodDram

😂😂😂I'd loved to have seen her face!!

Man sues 50 women over posts made about him on “Are We Dating The Same Guy?” Facebook groups : r/OnlineDating (reddit.com)

This has happened. I think it's a brilliant idea but the guys weren't too happy!

Because some women are desperate, and just ‘settle’. The pool of available men out there is pretty small. Also some women have a history of getting with unsuitable men - their spidery senses are none existent. The fact that he keeps having to move on with someone else sounds like the women realise further into the relationship how crap he is, so I suppose it’s just he gives off a good first impression.

Does he seek vulnerable women or women with low self esteem?

Prick Advisor!

@RealHousewivesOfTaunton I've never seen that pic before but he looks about as well endowed as a Ken doll.

Let him get on with it he`s not your problem now.

Low standards on both sides. The women he is getting may have low self esteem and perhaps not much going for them, so they're willing to accept this loser, at least initially. However, you notice they are not willing to stay with him long, which tells you they are not as pathetic as him.
My asshole ex found a girlfriend very quickly. I'm told she is somebody who is willing to accept him because all the other men she's had were even worse. I find that depressing and feel a bit sorry for her. Otoh, she knew what she was getting so it's on her. Anyway, not my circus, not my monkeys. You need to think of it that way. Your ex will continue to live his loser's life just as he always has, but it's got nothing to do with you now. You're free of him, so don't let him take up too much space in your head.

@notameangirlhun That’s really sinister. If someone’s a convincing liar and maybe lies to some friends, or they cover for them if they meet you, it’s so hard to know. We all like to think we’re good judges of character but con men are convincing.

My ex husband was constantly and continuously abusing me and our children while living with a lady who was a psychiatrist.
I have since got to know her, she is lovely. But she believed all his lies as she was vulnerable herself. That was until he turned on her and her children.
People's want to be loved and needed is so great that they often just don't/carn't see the red flags.

Prick Advisor!

😂

He must be very charming, love bomb, and target empathetic women with saviour complex

Am I meant to regonise the man in the photo?
He is revolting with no penis whatsoever.

🤔very confused.
Move on OP

I love Prick Advisor!
There are actually FB groups dedicated to warning women about pricks. I see somebody has already mentioned that.
There are also websites which out cheaters and abusers.

I hate those kind of answers.
I would if I was she, and I bet you would too.