Abroad....Should have stayed at home

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Just that really. Here in Gran Canaries with husband and teenage son (15). Husband is happy sitting in the shade reading his book. Teenage son is complaining he wants to be at home and I'm really fed up. I'm such a people person and love getting a bit dressed up in the evenings. So far, every evening we've been back in the room by 8pm (after my evening walk on my own as Husband and son want to chill out in the room on their phones etc). Am I right here in feeling peed off. For context this isn't the first year this has happened but I think this is the year I've really had enough. WWYD not now but in the future.

Eating at 6pm is for toddlers. Seriously that is ridiculous.

Tomorrow, don't eat before 7:30 and then tell DH you are not ready to go to sit in a room for the rest of the evening. If he won't make the effort - just go out on your own. My suggestion would be to always have a book in your bag (or a Kindle). That way you won't get the awkward feeling of just 'being' somewhere. You can go to restaurants, cafes, sit by the pool, on the beach, on a wall, in a bar - anywhere and you have something to 'do' and not feel self conscious.

DS is just being a teen but DH is being selfish.

When you go for your next evening walk tell them you’ve met some fun people and stay out and enjoy yourself. Teenagers well, they’re peak teenager on holiday sometimes but your husband sounds like a fun sponge.

I'd be pissed off with DH, that's really not ok.

DS not so much, that's just typical teen behaviour. I definitely needed my parents to drag me out for dinners on holidays etc. Always had a nice time eventually but you need both parents on board.

Go down and watch the entertainment on your own. No one will care that you are sitting at a table for one.

What first poster said

I'd fuck off out alone

Life is short

Hi Op
that doesn’t sound great, though I do like some chilled nights on the balcony with some nice wine and nibbles. I am a regular visitor to GC, if you want to say roughly what area you are in I can recommend some lovely restaurants and some nice chilled bars. Try and make the most of your holiday- at least you have the weather!

Oh dear that's abit shit. What a waste of money.
You need to ditch them and go on girls hol or solo. Do not let them dictate.

God middle aged men are dull
What kind of role model is he for your son!!

Thank christ I ditched my ex
Hols witn my teens now are amazingly fun.
We leave our phones inside and go out without

We just came home from a vacation all inclusive and dinner started at 19. And the kids club closed at 22 so impossible to get DS home before that. My DH is like you, he needs people, love to dress up etc. I force myself but I would rather read a book like your hubby 😄. Anyway, he always goes out on his own on holidays and with friends at home. He's happy and Im happy, to each their own.

You clearly have different ideas about how to spend holidays.
I wouldnt want to sit on the phone in a hotel room but I wouldnt want to dress up to go out in the evening (presumably to eat/drink) either.

Come to a compromise. Talk! Some folk like to chill and relax on hol, particularly if they have stressful jobs. If you like painting the town red try to go on holiday with a pal who has a similar view.

Agh annoying. Just did an activity holiday with my teen and was much better as they had other teens as part of a group. We also got some beach. If you want different holidays I would be tempted to go with a friend or on your own.

I'd hate to dress up and go out to spend time with strangers. It sounds like your holiday expectations are mis-matched but one shouldn't trump another. You need to compromise.

@AinmEile

you miss out on so much though!

I wonder if they chose the holiday together or it was just OP's choice and the other two were expected to toe the line?

What do you enjoy on holiday?

Fucking hell, I went with children and even with the time difference, jet lag etc we stayed out and about til af least 8 most evenings and a good bit later than that the last few nights once we'd adjusted. More like the City that Never Wakes Up for your husband 🙄

What utter twats

Leave them. Go for a nice meal on your own. Order a delicious cocktail.

Have a Shirley valentine holiday

Make a plan for an evening or day-a place to go, somewhere different to eat, Book a bit later, 7 or 7 30. Make an expedition. Have an adventure. The trick sadly is to work out where you want to go first, to avoid the 'I don't know' discussion. Next year, take a mate.

This is true but I don't get why dh doesn't want to spend any time talking. Sounds like he is avoiding any kind of connection. Early dinner. Back to the safety of the room and the phone. Killing time til the holiday is over?

Oh that's crap OP, half the fun on holiday is coming back from the beach and then getting ready to go out for drinks and dinner, it's your holiday too! Tell them there needs to be a compromise somewhere or else it's not fair, you might as well have stayed at home and watched the telly..

Surely a glass or two of wine and Bridgerton on Netflix is the answer here?

Or maybe that just me...

Dinner needs to be 7.30-8pm really

Yanbu to not want to be married to someone who is addicted to his phone.

Book weekends away with your friends. Have some things to look forward to for you!

Go out, have a few margaritas and shag a good looking waiter OP 😉