Over heard DH on the phone

[Misschananderlerbongg]

I really am genuinely wondering if I’m being unreasonable.

Just overheard DH on the phone and it was clear at the other end his friend was talking about the fact his wife had just had a boob job. They’re not close friends.

DH then said ‘I can only dream, that would be amazing’.

Then ‘every Man I know that paid for it had said it was a great investment, money well spent, no one has regretted it’. He’s brought this up with me before.

Then ‘oh I know it’s a no go here, she wouldn’t go for it’ in a very sad voice.

‘It needs to be initiated by the woman, I can’t bring it up’. Then what a lucky guy you are type chat.

This has made me very upset for a few reasons:

1. I have small boobs, but have breast fed 2 kids and think they’re in pretty good shape
2. it’s major surgery and he’s seen me go through major medically required surgery
3. HE has put on weight, I have not and I never comment on it and wouldn’t dream or commenting on it
4. He never compliments me or makes me feel sexy, and now I know he doesn’t like my boobs.

But I’m tired and emotional and keen to understand if I’m in the wrong? It just feels like a betrayal to talk about my body like this 😔

I'd tell him I heard the conversation, I'm feeling pretty deflated and upset now then shut up. See what he says.

I would hope he'd reassure you but I suspect he'd attack and say you were ear wigging.

I'd be very upset by this.

I would also wonder however how much was bravado on the phone to an acquaintance and how much is how he really feels.

Speak to him.

Goodness, what a grim concept “investment” in physically upgrading your wife.

OP I’d be upset, your body is a wonderful thing and doesn’t need changing. You should be proud of it.

I can't imagine a man who loves me speaking about me like that.

Eavesdroppers rarely hear good things.

What a disgusting excuse for a man.

Id ask him why he talks this kind of shit with men who not only enjoy fondling plastic, but would pay a lot of money for their wife to undergo major surgery so that they could fondle plastic.

Tell you heard him.

Ask him when he is going to a fat farm to sort out his obesity. Then leave it hanging.

Talk to him about surgical penis enlargement.. Tell him you could go abroad and get joint surgeries....

“so, DH I heard you talking to your friend about boob jobs. I am upset that you feel it is ok to talk about my body with someone else. I feel betrayed. I want you to properly take that in, and there isn’t to be a repeat.”

YANBU to be upset. I can't imagine my DH talking like that to anyone but I'm pretty sure I'd be furious.

Omfg what an absolute W*** your husband is. You do not need to justify why this made you upset- how utterly degrading and insulting. I’d be rageful.

Don't blame her.

Ewww what a loser. Disgusting attitude.

Ask him when he's going to have liposuction and a dick enlargement. Shame they don't do personality transplants.

It's sounds like he was giving it the big I am with his mate. But the 'investment' comment is grim as he didn't just agree with the other guy, he had to go further.
'I'm sure if you could invest in surgery to make your cock several inches longer...it would be money better spent from my POV'
maybe you should tell him that?

I would be furious but would also buy him a penis enlarger and tell all his mates.

Why don’t you just talk to him. He could well have been doing the “yeah, yeah, yeah, I agree ….” Whilst was thinking “go away”. We have all done that. Your DP loves you and hasn’t asked you to change, so just ignore this

It’s a bit petty but…

When you both get into bed tonight, tell him you’ve been thinking about this for a while. But you’re unhappy with him being fatter and that he has got a small manhood and you’ve been faking enjoying sex with him for ages. Say it seriously. When he gets offended, tell him you aren’t serious but you over heard the phone call and you’re upset with him.

I would definitely be fuming if I heard DH talk about my body that way.

He's an arse and just upset that he now has the biggest boobs.

You already know he likes fakes boobs so this isn’t news. Honestly, it may be a preference but he chose you and is happy with you.

I’ve had a boob job, because I had incredibly low self esteem (they didn’t grow correctly), but I’d be so upset if I overheard this conversation. Then I’d bring up his weight gain…. But then I’m petty like that 🤷‍♀️

He sounds charming!

This one, with knobs.

Ask for a boob job, recover, then ltb! That will teach him for being so shallow.

Tell him to spend it on himself

Not when there a sexist dickheads about.