Over heard DH on the phone

[Misschananderlerbongg]

I really am genuinely wondering if I’m being unreasonable.

Just overheard DH on the phone and it was clear at the other end his friend was talking about the fact his wife had just had a boob job. They’re not close friends.

DH then said ‘I can only dream, that would be amazing’.

Then ‘every Man I know that paid for it had said it was a great investment, money well spent, no one has regretted it’. He’s brought this up with me before.

Then ‘oh I know it’s a no go here, she wouldn’t go for it’ in a very sad voice.

‘It needs to be initiated by the woman, I can’t bring it up’. Then what a lucky guy you are type chat.

This has made me very upset for a few reasons:

1. I have small boobs, but have breast fed 2 kids and think they’re in pretty good shape
2. it’s major surgery and he’s seen me go through major medically required surgery
3. HE has put on weight, I have not and I never comment on it and wouldn’t dream or commenting on it
4. He never compliments me or makes me feel sexy, and now I know he doesn’t like my boobs.

But I’m tired and emotional and keen to understand if I’m in the wrong? It just feels like a betrayal to talk about my body like this 😔

I can't believe that 5% think YOU are being unreasonable. It is a betrayal of the worst kind. I'd start having conversations with my friends about how much weight he's gained and do it so that he can overhear you. See how he likes it!

Seriously op you are married to a cunt.
Who the fuck talks about their wife like that?
Someone who despises them that’s who.
He talks about you like you would talk about a machine. A washing machine, Hoover, cooker etc. Some sort of devise made specifically for the sole purpose of pleasing him.
I would absolutely list all his faults and tell him how correcting them would please you,
Hair transplant
fat reduction
Penis enlargement
permanent body hair removal
Botox
fillers
Wrinkle reduction etc etc.
My dh has never, ever criticised my body.
He tells me he loves me and that I am beautiful.
He has my back and I have his.
I was once with a horrible, controlling man. He put me down. I told him a few home truths and he didn’t like it. He cried when I left him.
You are worth more than this op.
Do not wait for him to change. He has shown you who he is.

What an idiot. Never mind you have given him beautiful children he expects you to be Laura Croft. Think I would be looking elsewhere. How bloody dare he. Ooohhh so angry. Why did he get with you in the first place. Definitely attack him verbally and tell him fat ain't a good look either.

I was quoting the OP..

Helpful.
I'm sure in a similar situation you would have put your fingers in yr earholes and hummed very loudly

Probably just a man's talk - shouldn't eavesdrop.

Personally I'd have a boob job at his expense.

I would be upset too. I have breastfed 2 kids also and they resemble two wind socks now, I make wee jibes at myself saying…once I lose the baby weight I am getting a boob job to perk these puppies up…my hubby without missing a beat ‘there’s nothing wrong with you’ I would be a little devastated if he agreed to be honest 😢

What a cheeky so and so. I would bring up Penis enlargement. 😆

Have a "phone call" with one of your mates... And in his earshot say how lucky your mate is for having a fella with a six pack and massive dick and how that's not happening here.
People can lack empathy until they're on the receiving end.
Don't go getting a boob job unless it is something that YOU want.

I am married a long time and I no longer look like the 7st7lbs that my husband married. He developed excema that was triggered by stress.
Thank goodness his skin cleared...my menopausal weight less so.😁.....but we have always kindly championed each other....and definitely bent the truth when asked pointed questions.
I could no more hurt him, than I could myself.
His imperfections are mine to mind and cherish after 30 years.
None of us are perfect and aging can be harsh.
But aging is such a privilege.

The OP'S husband is vile, absolutely vile.
She deserves so much better.

The fat farm comment made me lmao brilliant! I would be done with him, such a disrespectful things to be saying

This is such a lovely post💐

what a horrible conversation to overhear OP, I hope you are ok. I actually used to want a boob job and said this on a few occasions to my DP, probably more to gauge his opinion. He just used to respond and tell me I didn’t need one as he loved me as I am, I don’t feel like I need one anymore, you don’t need a boob job, you need a man who loves his woman.

🙄

Pretty sure men don’t have phone conversations about boob jobs and dream of this….

Yeah people should be allowed to say shitty, hurtful, disrespectful things as long at they're in private! It's deffo the OPs fault for overhearing him being a bad nob head!

hmm. I’d be tempted to pretend to be on the phone to a friend of mine when he was in earshot and say similar but about him and his weight gain.
I bet he doesn’t stay quiet about overhearing that.