If one spouse wants to rehome a dog, and the other doesn't, who should get their way?

[AnonAnonEmouse]

As title. Currently a huge source of tension in our home. In cases where a couple disagree on having another child say, on here the consensus is that the one who doesn't want one should get their way. Would the same principle apply here?

For the purposes of voting:
YABU - the one who no longer wants the dog should get their way
YANBU - the dog should stay

So to me it's coming across that you are the one that wants to re-home the dog.

Do you love the dog?

If you don't then it needs to be re-homed. I'm saying this as a dog lover who knows how much of a commitment it is but can also appreciate that having a dog is a massive burden if you don't love them.

If you do love the dog, then you need to think about its best interests. Can you fully commit to being responsible for its needs (and re-training) and accepting that your partner will never be committed to it and will possibly be resentful towards you about it? If you can live with that and think you can still do the best by the dog, then keep it, but otherwise I would re-home it.

If your heart is not in it or your partner's heart is not it in it then you need to decide whether your dog would be better off some where else.

Anyone who puts a dog before their relationship with another human being has left the path of wisdom.

If I’m to follow your child analogy: so the 2 people decided to have a ‘child’ almost a year ago. Turned out that it’s not so easy so one partner wants out from all the responsibilities associated and the additional load. The other partner is willing to persevere. Usually in that scenario the couple splits,and ‘child’ is with the willing ‘parent’. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Not true at all , as an animal lover I couldn’t possibly love somebody who thought animals were disposable objects .

I have a really tricky situation and would like some advice….We have had our dog for 7 years, I love this dog so much but my wife has always been a bit so so on him.
we have just had a new baby (8 weeks) and since then mum wants nothing to do with the dog (I do understand it)
I do almost all the walks and try and do as much as I can but I do work quite a lot and she’s at home with both of them.
my wife turned around and said she wants to rehome our dog and doesn’t think she can deal with both anymore..I really don’t want to!
the dog is going to stay with our amazing puppy sitter for 3 days a week at the moment to try and get her to adjust. Our dog loves the puppy sitter has his best friend (dog) there and they have a huge garden and he’s been going there since he was a tiny pup. The puppy sitter said the other day they would be more than happy to adopt Jax (our dog) this would be the only option that I would allow.
I still don’t know how to deal with the situation and would like some advice, sorry for the long post!

@Dad1212 You would probably be better starting a new thread of your own re your issue rather than posting it on this thread which is a few months old.

Ah sorry thanks!

I hope the poor dog stayed. They're not disposable