If one spouse wants to rehome a dog, and the other doesn't, who should get their way?

[AnonAnonEmouse]

As title. Currently a huge source of tension in our home. In cases where a couple disagree on having another child say, on here the consensus is that the one who doesn't want one should get their way. Would the same principle apply here?

For the purposes of voting:
YABU - the one who no longer wants the dog should get their way
YANBU - the dog should stay

try a different behaviourist?
sounds like the behaviourist has made suggestions that you cannot commit to?

It's very hard to give any sort of reasoned response when no information is provided.

what is the best thing for the Dog?

Ultimately the dog must go where he or she is loved and wanted by everyone. The dog comes first here.

There’s no way I would rehome a dog for the reasons you have given, which are all just everyday dog owner responsibilities. I would be considering getting rid of a spouse who has seemingly no idea of their responsibilities.

It would to my marriage and a lot of other posters here. People are different.

Christ, imagine admitting your marriage is so shit you'd crumble if you had to rehome a dog.

You're missing the point.

My marriage would crumble because it would change the way I thought about DH and his morals and values. He chose to get a dog and if he just decided he couldn't be arsed anymore, then he's not someone I'd happily stay married to.

Luckily he's not like that and is just as committed to our animals as I am.

The one who doesn’t want the dog. Definitely.

I rehomed a 5 month old puppy when dh was at work one day . I never wanted a dog. I’m ALLERGIC and I had HG so the smell made me sick. MIL had got it at 10 weeks old, 6 weeks later FIL had a stroke and she asked us to look after puppy while fil was in hospital and then recovering. I said no and then got home one day and dh had collected it.

I HATED it , it stank and was bitey and resistant to toilet training . I was so allergic and my asthma got bad. I told dh rehome it he said no and MIL told me I had no choice etc etc as it was dh choice not mine.

He went to work every day then had a go at me that I left the puppy in the crate (I couldn’t move some days due to HG).

I have an ultimatum one day that he had 48 hrs to rehome or I would. He laughed at me. 48 hrs the dog was gone and the locks were changed .

I dont think they have a stick up their arses, you’re just a vile person who thinks you can just dispose of an animal like it’s nothing.

What is actually wrong with you to be so angry? Do you need someone to talk to? No one can possibly be in a nice, secure relationship who spouts this much bile.

I think you need a hug as a minimum

I wish people would read these threads before getting a dog.

May I suggest you go off and read a Book of Manners ?

Cos you have none !

Oh no, Priscilla's not gone has she? She sounded lovely.

We rescued an older puppy (probably 6-9 months nobody knows for sure) and for many months I really really wished I hadn't. It was mainly my DD and I who wanted to do it but DH did agree to it too.

12-18 months was probably the peak of the horror. He chewed up everything in the house, dug up the garden, pulled me over a few times, ran off to play with other dogs, barked at cyclists and runners, humped everything in sight and the list goes on. We went to various training classes, 1:1 etc etc but it seemed to make very little impact.

There is no doubt it made my life much worse for a while but I would not have been able to live with myself if we gave him back. I was brought up that you honour your promises. DH would probably have given him back but he also agreed that we had committed plus our longstanding relationship dynamic is that I consult him but largely I have the final say! The only way I would have rehomed is if the dog was a danger or was making one of us actually ill physically or mentally.

Ddog is now 3 and we still have him. He stopped all the chewing, digging and pulling and most of the humping and honestly I think it was passage of time more than our inept efforts at training. I enjoy walking him and cuddling him. He has some ongoing issues with barking and reactivity to motorbikes, cats and some other dogs which need to be managed and I don't think he'll ever be a pub/ cafe kind of dog but I think the good outweighs the bad for me now.

Given your puppy is adolescent I would say you should give it another year because things are very likely to be better then. As others have said it's about values to a large degree and I would lose respect for someone who was willing to discard a commitment to a living being because of their own convenience.

He went to work every day then had a go at me that I left the puppy in the crate (I couldn’t move some days due to HG)

Ok, in these circumstances I would break up a marriage!

I think the dog should probably be re-homed if a good and responsible home can be found. Yes, it should have through through better, but a decade is a long time to be unhappy with your domestic situation.

Did neither of you think about how having a dog would impact on your lives before deciding to have one? The issue of holidays and how tying a dog is and the time it takes to train are obvious. RE-home the dog because you clearly can't cope as a family having one.