Would your husband…

[Sunflower8710]

I had accidentally put something in the dustbin today, needed it before bed (11:30) I told my husband who told me to go get it. It’s pitch black, almost midnight and the bin is at the end of the drive.

Would your husband ask you to go retrieve the item or would he go get it?

@KThnxBye "I don’t have a husband, but my partner would go and get it, without me asking. I’d likely have a little rage at myself about being stupid and he’d pop up with it before I’d had chance to get my shoes on, and I’d then be vaguely annoyed at him because I’m not incapable and now I have to feel silly for putting something in the bin and a bit guilty he had to go out for it, even though I never asked him to."

I can SO relate to this! 🤣

Why do you think he should go @Sunflower8710

But thinking about it, I don't think I ever have asked OH to make me a cup of tea! We've offered but not asked

I'm always asking dh to make tea. I lay in wait until he goes into the kitchen and shout "Are you putting the kettle on"? Fait accompli. Never fails.

Why wouldn't you get it yourself?

Why can't you go and retrieve the item you yourself actually chucked out (u less you've already changed for bed etc and your DH has not)?

I'm going with vibrator or diaphragm.

He would totally tell me to go get it 🥴😅

If some jobs around the house are men's jobs.

Doesn't it stand to reason that some jobs around the house are women's jobs?

I don't get this I'm a little helpless woman who can't get something out of the bin in the dark attitude.

I would just have gone to get it. Wouldn’t have crossed my mind to ask dh to get it for me.

Good grief, do women really despise each other this much? Why are you lot sicking your Chihuahuas on people like @Startrekkeruniverse (who I've never talked to and isn't known to me, for clarity)? Why are so many of you seething in uncontrollable rage because someone has a different life experience or opinion than your own?

What's the obsession with tearing each other down, and this race to the bottom competition of "durr, my husband hasn't emptied the bin since the battle of Hastings so you should delete your post!!!ONE!1!ELeVEN!!1".

For reference, if Mrs Frogpole put something in the bin then realised she needed it there wouldn't be a moment's though or discussion, I'd just go and get it - not that she's incapable or even phased about getting her hands dirty, it's just not a very nice job and I'd rather do it myself so she doesn't have to. When we've heard a noise in the night I go and look to see what it is.. because I couldn't just lay there waiting to see if anything bad happens to her, and also because there's a 18" difference in height between us and a 150lb weight difference, at which point it's just a matter of utility.

Whilst I'm sure that makes me guilty of itsism and means I'm an ismist, you really shouldn't be acting this way to each other. This isn't the oppression Olympics.

It is the Purge tomorrow?

I`d never ask. Just do it yourself.

My husband would get it 100% sure.

If I’d put it in the bin, my mistake, I’d go and get it. I wouldn’t even ask husband. If he had put it in the bin he’d be digging it out himself.

My husband would.

I’m worried for your mental health that you live in so much fear you wouldn’t walk to the end of your drive after dark. That really is something you should address.

What’s the back story, why are you scared to go to the bottom of the drive at 11.30? Is it a rough area? You put it in there, you needed it.why can’t you go and get it, doesn’t feel like a blue Job to me?

if I asked my husband to get it, he would , but I’d just go and get it myself and not expect him to do that, but I’m not scared to go to thr bottom of my drive at night.

If I was already for bed and he wasn’t I’d ask, otherwise I’d do it by myself. If we were both in bed and I just remembered I might ask, but I think I’d get an ‘oh my god have you legs suddenly both fallen off, oh they haven’t, off you pop’ response.

@Startrekkeruniverse that all sounds pretty limiting to me….what if you were home alone?

I wouldn't ask.

If it didn't jump up and down waving it's arms about, he probably wouldn't see it anyway.

We would have a 'I'll get it' 'no don't be daft I'll get it' and then he would go, as he was always going to, and I was always going to let him 😆

Bank holiday Monday so bins won't be collected today

I would get it myself, of course!

Mine would go an get it because I'm absolutely terrified of spiders and the bins are very spidery. He is nice like that.

No. He'd go. He does all that type of thing. Anything dirty, heavy, dark or unpleasant, never a question in his mind that I'd do it. And there is no way I'm going to insist otherwise on principle.