To occasionally be in pyjamas when in laws come over?

[Thebakingqueen]

Dhs parents ring us every Saturday and Sunday morning to see what we're up to. They always want to come over early. They often turn up earlier than arranged. They ring at 8am.

I got fed up of always worrying about being ready and having the house tidy (it's not a shithole just lived in). I was fed up of feeling harassed every weekend to be honest too, so I decided they'll have to take me as they find me. It's the weekend and I want to do things at my leisure.

On a couple of occasions I've still been in pyjamas when they arrived and mil has commented negatively or laughed at me.

If I've been upstairs showing and getting dressed mil wanders upstairs to find me.

Aibu to do as I please in my own home?

I’d move and not tell them where to!

You rebel 😂
Unless I am actually leaving the house on weekends I don't get changed out my jammies at all (or I put a clean pair on if they're grubby).
Wear your jammies with pride.

I’d block their number until a more reasonable time of the day. And absolutely, if they turn up earlier than planned it’s definitely not unreasonable to still be showering or in your pj’s. As for MIL coming upstairs to find you, I’d definitely be putting a stop to that - how rude!

YANBU - maybe aim to let them catch you naked, or doing your exercises in the nude. Hopefully that’d stop them trying to find you in the early morning….

I'd put a stop to the 8am ringing for sure. If you don't answer the phone, do they just turn up?

I was going to say Yabu & get dressed! But they’re coming over way too early

Sorry, your ILs phone every Saturday and every Sunday at 8am and come round both days of every weekend?

I'd have committed a murder by now.

You are definitely not being unreasonable. My family are more than welcome to come over anytime, but they take me as they find me.

What time are they turning up?
How far away do they live?
YANBU to be sick of it but YABU to have let it become a thing in the first place!

They don't just turn up but if we asked them to come at 10 they will turn up at 9.30. Or even earlier.

They've been known to turn up before 9am.

Every Saturday and Sunday is too much. I couldn’t be dealing with that and would feel totally smothered.

I was going to say YABU but they “come upstairs to find you”.

Definitely LTB and enter witness protection.

Oh my god? Every weekend?! I’d have left many moons ago.

Oh yes. Mil wanders into my bedroom asking if I'm decent.

I would sit in bed in my pjs and refuse to move. How the hell have you put up with this, they sound awful

Wow, I wouldn't put up with that.
Invite them over for lunch at say 1pm, or afternoon for tea and cake. Don't answer the phone or door to them at 8am. Ffs.

YANBU, your in-laws are rude. As for coming to look for you, MIL is seriously overstepping there. Just ask her to give you some privacy.
How long have you been married?
Honestly, just be frank, firstly with your DH - tell him they are seriously a boring you and ask him to get them to back off. Failing that, tell them yourself.

My MIL was similar. I asked DH to sort it , or I would. I am much scarier than him. He fixed it.

We wouldn't be up at 8 am a weekend without plans. We wouldn't open the doors.

Buy a doorbell which can set to silent mode (we have one - it's brilliant!) and don't answer the phone.

After the summer youngst dd's Saturday activity moves to a weekday. No more need to leave at 9 am. We always leave Sunday at 8 am for church.

I am going to enjoy late Saturday morning - and every one in my way will be asked to move!

I think this is too much OP - coming over first thing and then coming to find you upstairs! Lock your door and if they turn up more than ten mins before the agreed time let them wait!

Yes they do smother us. I've told dh to ask them not to ring so early but he's too soft.

We don't usually see them Saturday and Sunday but they ring both days to ask. If dh doesn't answer they ring me.

I don't want to go around in pyjamas with visitors but feel if they keep rocking up early on the weekend it's tough luck.

EVERY Saturday and Sunday ? !!!

Good grief you want and need to put a stop to that ! who did you marry ? him or his parents.

Don't answer the phone until 10am or the door if they just turn up.

What would she do if you replies with “No, Doreen I’m starkers”?

Why would your DP be happy with his? Don’t you go out, or enjoy the morning together, or just chill? Why would he want his parents round every weekend. Honestly, I can’t get my head around this at all.

Do you have kids or do they literally just come and find you in your house?

You can both not answer the phone. They are not permitting you any privacy. It's only going to get worse unless you stop it now.