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Whatismypasswordthen · 16/04/2024 12:23

I know what the Tories are and no, I don't like it. But I'm a woman, I have daughters and I come from generations of women who've been abused and dismissed because of their sex. I want better for my girls but I can't do it on my own. I need a government who will (at least give lip service to) supporting me. Am I a Tory? no. But the last thing women need is to be fighting their own government for basic recognition, so Tory it is.

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2024/apr/16/uk-culture-secretary-urges-ban-on-transgender-athletes-competing-in-female-only-events

UK culture secretary urges ban on transgender athletes competing in female-only events

Lucy Frazer calls on sporting officials to draw up ‘unambiguous’ guidelines on gender identity

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2024/apr/16/uk-culture-secretary-urges-ban-on-transgender-athletes-competing-in-female-only-events

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EasternStandard · 18/04/2024 16:51

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 18/04/2024 16:47

What is really fucking rude is using the argument 'violent men will assault you anyway' in somehow defending men using women's spaces.

I’m wondering if those who believe this have daughters

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 18/04/2024 16:51

An assumption that she wouldn't have made if you hadn't used the term regular male apologist posters to counter what she said.

I wasn't countering what she said.

AdamRyan · 18/04/2024 16:51

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 18/04/2024 16:47

What is really fucking rude is using the argument 'violent men will assault you anyway' in somehow defending men using women's spaces.

The truth is not rude. I've been assaulted by a man when I was alone with him in a female space. I've had a man follow me into the ladies in an isolated park while I was out running. And I've observed multiple men using the ladies in a services just because it was less of a walk than the gents.

None of those men were trans. They were just men, entering women's toilets because they wanted to.

BIossomtoes · 18/04/2024 16:52

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 18/04/2024 16:47

What is really fucking rude is using the argument 'violent men will assault you anyway' in somehow defending men using women's spaces.

That’s not rude, it’s factual. And nobody’s defended men using women’s spaces, some of us don’t really worry too much about sharing them with trans women.

AdamRyan · 18/04/2024 16:52

EasternStandard · 18/04/2024 16:51

I’m wondering if those who believe this have daughters

I'm wondering of those who think it isn't true have had some kind of charmed life Confused

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 18/04/2024 16:53

BIossomtoes · 18/04/2024 16:52

That’s not rude, it’s factual. And nobody’s defended men using women’s spaces, some of us don’t really worry too much about sharing them with trans women.

This

EasternStandard · 18/04/2024 16:54

AdamRyan · 18/04/2024 16:52

I'm wondering of those who think it isn't true have had some kind of charmed life Confused

What isn’t true?

Men are the more violent sex class it’s why I want single sex spaces

BIossomtoes · 18/04/2024 16:54

AdamRyan · 18/04/2024 16:52

I'm wondering of those who think it isn't true have had some kind of charmed life Confused

I’m wondering why those who think it isn’t true want to safeguard against it. It’s kind of illogical.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 18/04/2024 16:55

Oh we know it's true, we just don't think it's an excuse not to have adequate safeguarding measures in place. The argument minimises it. If my friend decided to get a new alarm system I'm not going to say 'oh but burglars are going to burgle you regardless, and burglars don't bother me anyway when it comes to my house'.

All this has already been explained.

AdamRyan · 18/04/2024 16:55

OK. Let's say you stamp your feet enough that the government legislated to say all public toilets are now strictly birth sex only.
Do you think that would stop any of the examples I've given from happening?

EasternStandard · 18/04/2024 16:56

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 18/04/2024 16:47

What is really fucking rude is using the argument 'violent men will assault you anyway' in somehow defending men using women's spaces.

Rude might not be the word

But I share your strength of feeling on reading those posts

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 18/04/2024 16:56

A Tory Government is definitely not a friend of women.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 18/04/2024 16:56

I’m wondering why those who think it isn’t true want to safeguard against it. It’s kind of illogical.

No one has said it isn't true. You are having to resort to making things up.

ginasevern · 18/04/2024 16:57

AdamRyan · 18/04/2024 16:27

So to get back to the point, are the Tories going to protect your toilets?

More likely to get raped by a Tory MP in the toilet than a transwoman.

EasternStandard · 18/04/2024 16:57

BIossomtoes · 18/04/2024 16:54

I’m wondering why those who think it isn’t true want to safeguard against it. It’s kind of illogical.

Again what isn’t true?

Everyone is acknowledging the violence of the male sex class let’s do more to protect women from that

Not let them in anyway

AdamRyan · 18/04/2024 16:58

ginasevern · 18/04/2024 16:57

More likely to get raped by a Tory MP in the toilet than a transwoman.

😂
That is probably true - thanks for the laugh!

EasternStandard · 18/04/2024 16:58

AdamRyan · 18/04/2024 16:58

😂
That is probably true - thanks for the laugh!

Ag yes rape laugh a minute let them all in

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 18/04/2024 16:59

More likely to get raped by a Tory MP in the toilet than a transwoman.

Both have a common denominator.

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 18/04/2024 16:59

Nobody has said rape is a laugh a minute 🙄

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 18/04/2024 17:00

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 18/04/2024 16:59

Nobody has said rape is a laugh a minute 🙄

Gave a poster a laugh though 🙄

AdamRyan · 18/04/2024 17:00

EasternStandard · 18/04/2024 16:57

Again what isn’t true?

Everyone is acknowledging the violence of the male sex class let’s do more to protect women from that

Not let them in anyway

Noone is "letting them in". It's a public toilet. People choose where they go. Some trans women have always used the ladies, they aren't going to stop because the government tells them to. And some men have always assaulted women in public toilets- they are even less likely to care about the law given they are there to commit a crime in the first place.

SamanthaJayneFrances · 18/04/2024 17:00

I want to keep women's spaces safe and after reading all this info I will look into the Labour party's policies as I was wondering whether to vote for them but now you have me thinking.

EasternStandard · 18/04/2024 17:01

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 18/04/2024 16:59

Nobody has said rape is a laugh a minute 🙄

I don’t think you want single sex spaces either?

Do you think males are the more violent sex class?

EasternStandard · 18/04/2024 17:02

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 18/04/2024 17:00

Gave a poster a laugh though 🙄

Yes for some reason. Anything but use the law for safeguarding on this thread. Why? Confused

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