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To want every women in England to vote Tory at the GR

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Hurrydash · 28/03/2024 02:01

So I don't agree with Angela Rayner's description of the Tories as scum, but I get her drift and if she'd been more tempered in her language I probably would have bought in.

HOWEVER

For me - and actually should be got everyone - the only real issue at the next GE is freedom of speech/women's rights.

I see Labour as the destroyer of these and so must vote against them. The only meaningful way to do this is to vote Tory which I am reluctant but prepared to do.

Is this unreasonable?

Happy to be convinced - for real not just words - if there is evidence Labour (Starmer 1 in 1000 women have a dick) may see the light before the GE.

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WaterWeasel · 28/03/2024 12:41

crockofshite · 28/03/2024 12:30

Kier starmer not knowing the difference between a man (with a penis) and a woman (without a penis) is not a reason to dismiss labour policies.

If he will openly lie about this, how can he be trusted on ANYTHING?

Echobelly · 28/03/2024 12:42

I worry much more about the harm another Tory term would do to women.

They're leaning increasingly bonkers right wing and they'd get worse and worse. I'm sure if they're let in again they will cut maternity rights, they'll say it's to 'improve productivity - they have made no secret of the fact they think people should have fewer rights, which is never a good thing. I don't put it beyond them to come after abortion as a 'solution' to falling birth rates either.

And OK, let's say they somehow ban trans women from toilets or changing rooms. Are next years figures of sexually violence going to show a measurable drop in assaults on women in those spaces that can be attributed to that legislation? Are men or trans women who want to abuse women going to go 'Oh no, it's illegal for me to go into toilets, I'll not abuse any women' or will they keep on doing it or just assault women somewhere else. I have heard people say 'oh, so just because you can't stop all assaults on women, you won't try to prevent them in one context' - but it won't. Assaulting women is illegal. The bastards do it regardless.

It might be achieving something if these spaces were the only places men could ever get access to women to assault, but we know full well they are not, sadly.

What we will see is more assaults on women who are tall, look masculine, are butch lesbians (God knows why, but people think a butch who isn't even trying to look like a woman, must be a man), wasted police time being called to reports of 'men' being in women's spaces etc. And just rationally, statistically, I cannot see it having any measurable positive impact on women's safety, but it might have a negative one in the ways I mention above. Plus more policing of 'womanliness'. Well done.

EasternStandard · 28/03/2024 12:42

Underthinker · 28/03/2024 12:36

This point has been addressed a few times earlier in the thread, but don't blame you for not seeing it. Or maybe you did see but weren't convinced IDK. But just in case...

Since the GRA was introduced roughly 20 years ago, most of the harms of gender ideology are not enacted by laws but by policies within institutions and businesses. The government (of any colour) quite rightly don't want to be micro managing every policy by these institutions, but should only intervene as a last resort - as with the recent schools guidance.

So it is quite possible to have pro-gender ideology policies flourish under an anti -gender ideology govt (or vice versa).

True it’s the GRA legislation that provides the foundation

You can see other govs go further - hence Canada, NZ until recently and others, the SNP’s new bill which enables abuse at women but potentially stops people mentioning biological reality is a recent example

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 28/03/2024 12:44

AdamRyan · 28/03/2024 12:09

Do you live in the UK? This is just absolute nonsense. We don't have self ID. No-one has been charged for challenging a man in a woman's space. If women have been banned by organisations, we'll that organisation is within its rights to have their own policies but they will lose business if what you say happens, as women will vote with their feet and not use them.

I'm GC and definitely would not want self ID but you've been hoodwinked by scaremongering.

Voting conservative will do precisely nothing to change what's happening today so it's not entirely relevant to the thread anyway.

That poster lives in Australia, they said so upthread.

ilovesooty · 28/03/2024 12:44

WaterWeasel · 28/03/2024 10:17

Ummmm....

Yes, I've responded to subsequent posts. I still think the OP's stance is idiotic.

Wonderfulstuff · 28/03/2024 12:44

It's really interesting that people keep asking where money will come from. It would seem that we have all lived under 'austerity' for so long that many have forgotten that this is simply a political choice. We don't have to live this way.

The Tories have made the choice to cut from the bottom but we don't have to. Just like a household budget we can all choose how we spend the same amount of money and have very different shopping bags. It's also worth pointing out, austerity hasn't really worked as George Osbourne et al forecast and really the Tories should have pivoted away from it some time ago - but they haven't (one would assume as it kept generating wealth for their paymasters). Things can go wrong but to just continue doing the same thing but expecting a different outcome is somewhat short sighted.

And just to say it again, the current tax burden is higher now than it ever was under labour - we pay more for less services.

ArabellaScott · 28/03/2024 12:45

gettingbackonit23 · 28/03/2024 10:13

How does it affect you on a day to day basis though? Because I use public toilets daily and never have encountered anyone male there in all that time. Nor in changing rooms. You hear of the odd cases but they are reported on because they are unusual. Nearly all of the arguments seem to be “well, x could happen”, usually something outlandish. I just don’t understand how this can be deemed more important than cuts to education, housing, healthcare and all the other hugely pressing issues affecting women in this country.

As for prisons, under Tories, conditions in prison are worse than ever. Surely if you care about women in prison you’d care about proper funding and education in prison and programmes to reduce reoffending and drug abuse? Which you won’t get with the Tories.

i didn’t think dumb was 1970s and I wasn’t even born then but I think it’s a good description- both stupid and ignorant.

If you think this is just about toilets, you are misunderstanding enormously.

And I say that as someone who has experienced sexual assault by a transwoman in a toilet - he was standing at the sink masturbating as I came out.

I've said before, there is no way on this earth I will call him 'she'.

Whereareallthemillionaires · 28/03/2024 12:45

Labours take on womens rights is a massive flaw in their current modus operandi and I won’t be voting for them.

EasternStandard · 28/03/2024 12:46

WaterWeasel · 28/03/2024 12:40

I feel completely the opposite way.

Edited

Same

ilovesooty · 28/03/2024 12:46

Bollindger · 28/03/2024 10:19

Politics in general is not fit for purpose.
Ever Labour are saying they went AWOL...
Tory infighting has got so bad it is shocking.
Now I do think the papers have caused a lot of this, realising the power they have to create trouble, they seem to revel in this to create story's which then take on their own life.
Look at where is the POW who has now had to disclose her illness.
Just wait till they get their claws into a New Labour Govenment. The copy is already written.
Woman are born not worn. Our girls will realise they have list out as they come of age.
Also anyone remember how quickly David Cameron legalised gay marriage, rightly so, but the Trans became the lobby call, so IF Labour do legalise Trans, just what will Stonehouse do next....

I think Stonehouse is dead.

WaterWeasel · 28/03/2024 12:47

ifIwerenotanandroid · 28/03/2024 12:37

It's the 'making... the impact on... women's rights the focus of your vote is... beyond stupid' that gets me.

No, it's voting in my own interests. What if politicians picked any other identifiable group (X) & targetted them with anti-X policies as part of their GE offer? Would you expect all X's to say, "But they're taking 2p off income tax, so I'll vote for them," or, "Nobody should vote on a single issue, so I'll vote for them," or "It would be so selfish of me to only think of myself. Damn the consequences - I'll vote for them!"?

To take a silly example, suppose a political party promised to outlaw football matches in this country & to prosecute anyone caught watching football on TV/online. How many football fans would you expect to vote for them?

Ah but women are supposed to 'be kind' and budge up for everyone else - especially penis wielders. And how very DARE women even THINK about voting in their own interests?

Barquentine · 28/03/2024 12:47

WaterWeasel · 28/03/2024 12:41

If he will openly lie about this, how can he be trusted on ANYTHING?

Agree @WaterWeasel

Thekatzenjammerkid · 28/03/2024 12:47

Yawn. Same old posters pontificating about their petty obsession.

ifIwerenotanandroid · 28/03/2024 12:48

Echobelly · 28/03/2024 12:42

I worry much more about the harm another Tory term would do to women.

They're leaning increasingly bonkers right wing and they'd get worse and worse. I'm sure if they're let in again they will cut maternity rights, they'll say it's to 'improve productivity - they have made no secret of the fact they think people should have fewer rights, which is never a good thing. I don't put it beyond them to come after abortion as a 'solution' to falling birth rates either.

And OK, let's say they somehow ban trans women from toilets or changing rooms. Are next years figures of sexually violence going to show a measurable drop in assaults on women in those spaces that can be attributed to that legislation? Are men or trans women who want to abuse women going to go 'Oh no, it's illegal for me to go into toilets, I'll not abuse any women' or will they keep on doing it or just assault women somewhere else. I have heard people say 'oh, so just because you can't stop all assaults on women, you won't try to prevent them in one context' - but it won't. Assaulting women is illegal. The bastards do it regardless.

It might be achieving something if these spaces were the only places men could ever get access to women to assault, but we know full well they are not, sadly.

What we will see is more assaults on women who are tall, look masculine, are butch lesbians (God knows why, but people think a butch who isn't even trying to look like a woman, must be a man), wasted police time being called to reports of 'men' being in women's spaces etc. And just rationally, statistically, I cannot see it having any measurable positive impact on women's safety, but it might have a negative one in the ways I mention above. Plus more policing of 'womanliness'. Well done.

Edited

All of these points have been answered so many times. Anyone who's interested is recommended to hit 'Talk' & then 'Feminism', where these discussions take place. There's at least one thread there which explains it all for newcomers. Sorry, I don't know which one it is, but I hope someone who does will link to it from here.

Suffice it to say that as someone who's actually worked in dealing with sexual violence, I disagree with Echobelly.

PoundlandColumbo · 28/03/2024 12:48

Iwasafool · 28/03/2024 12:31

I was told on a thread that it isn't just about description it's about having to sit on a lavatory that a man has sat on. When you compare that to the other stuff we have to worry about it is clearly a top priority isn't it?

You're clearly not understanding the importance of this issue. If we allow men to self-ID as women then women (i.e. adult human females) no longer exist as a class of people. We can no longer expect our sex-based rights to be upheld. We can no longer campaign for new sex-based rights. Because we don't exist. It's bigger than lavatory seats.

Thekatzenjammerkid · 28/03/2024 12:48

@WaterWeasel how the hell is voting for this load of scammers ie the tories furthering women’s interests and those of their daughters ?

LakieLady · 28/03/2024 12:49

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Transpeople can't win when it comes to which lavatory to use imo.

Friend's trans child was barred from a pub in the most humiliating manner when they used the female toilet. They were using the women's because they'd been beaten up by some transphobes when they used the mens' some weeks earlier.

StaunchMomma · 28/03/2024 12:49

Oh, do feck off!

Those Tory bastards couldn't care less about women's rights! They care about nothing but themselves and the rich people they work to take care of.

They are literally playing you for your vote and I will not fall for that shit.

willWillSmithsmith · 28/03/2024 12:49

Although I’ve voted both Tory and Labour in the past (I’ve no loyalty to either party), I have literally no idea who to vote for this time round. Definitely not Tory and I don’t want to vote Labour either and I don’t want to waste a vote. I’m genuinely flummoxed.

horseyhorsey17 · 28/03/2024 12:49

Oh hi Tory PR person!

Of course you're being unreasonable. Nobody in their right mind is going to vote Tory - although I suppose there may be a few people who get off on corruption on a massive scale, rivers and seas full of shit, wrecked public services, and women and kids living in poverty.

CaribouCarafe · 28/03/2024 12:50

horseyhorsey17 · 28/03/2024 12:49

Oh hi Tory PR person!

Of course you're being unreasonable. Nobody in their right mind is going to vote Tory - although I suppose there may be a few people who get off on corruption on a massive scale, rivers and seas full of shit, wrecked public services, and women and kids living in poverty.

Guess there's a kink for everyone 😉

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 28/03/2024 12:51

fishfingersandtoes · 28/03/2024 12:33

Completely unreasonable. What do you think the Tory's have done for women?
They've got rid of sure start, driven the NHS into the ground, underfunded schools to a point where or children are being taught by non specialists in schools that are literally falling down and I mean literally (a school local to us is building wooden structures inside dodgy buildings so there's time to get out of the roof falls in). They've brought in Brexit, they fucked us all over while they were having parties during COVID, they have overseen a huge decline in living standards with the CoL crisis.... I could go on!
And you think because they're willing to exclude trans women from things that makes it all ok?
Smh

All of this.
I felt much more supported as a woman under Labour when my kids were little, the Sure Start centres were brilliant for example, lots of support for new mums.
The NHS didn't feel so broken either.
Tories being good for women?
Ha, that's a laugh.

WaterWeasel · 28/03/2024 12:51

Whereareallthemillionaires · 28/03/2024 12:45

Labours take on womens rights is a massive flaw in their current modus operandi and I won’t be voting for them.

It really is - I wonder why they won't do the simple thing and be clear that they are not in thrall to genderism? If all of the Labour voters on here are correct and it matters so very little - why are Labour unable to get rid of it?

WaterWeasel · 28/03/2024 12:53

Thekatzenjammerkid · 28/03/2024 12:48

@WaterWeasel how the hell is voting for this load of scammers ie the tories furthering women’s interests and those of their daughters ?

Where did I say it was?

WaterWeasel · 28/03/2024 12:54

LakieLady · 28/03/2024 12:49

Transpeople can't win when it comes to which lavatory to use imo.

Friend's trans child was barred from a pub in the most humiliating manner when they used the female toilet. They were using the women's because they'd been beaten up by some transphobes when they used the mens' some weeks earlier.

A good argument for third spaces then, no?

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