My DH has changed my baby’s name….

[Lilysienna1]

… or at least, he’s TOLD everyone a different name. I’m pretty sure I am not being unreasonable. This is more of what would be a reasonable response. Because right now I’m ready to LTB.

I have recently given birth to our 3rd and final baby. I had a difficult birth, and have just got home from hospital after a 10 day stay.
As we did with previous births, we’ve not allowed any visitors and as I’ve been so unwell, I’ve actually only bothered with my
phone to snap a few photos, in between sleeping and feeding etc. Not announced the birth on social media, and only spoke with my mum and sisters.

I arrive home today and started opening cards and presents that family and friends (from DH side) have dropped round. All with congratulations on the birth of ‘Georgina.’

This would be lovely, if her name was Georgina. However, it isn’t or at least it wasn’t. We had agreed on Emmeline. Georgina was a top contender, but I just didn’t love it as much as Emmeline. DH had not expressed how much he loved the name Georgina - he was very much ‘I like all the names on the shortlist. You can choose.’ Which I did. Emmeline.

so of course, I confront him on it. We didn’t share any names with friends and family, so I knew they hadn’t just taken a wild guess. He looked a bit sheepish and said ‘I was going to tell you. I just don’t think I can imagine calling her Emmeline. Georgina is a better fit.’
Oh and ‘Everyone agrees’ he said. (his mum then basically)

‘I was going to tell you’ doesn’t really cut it here does it? I will admit neither of us were really using her name in the hospital, we were calling her ‘little bean’ which was a silly but sentimental name we had for her when she was just a bump. But of course I’ve said Emmeline a few times and I’m sure he has as well.

He said he was really sorry, but ‘everyone’ was asking for a name and he felt he had to make a decision (that we had already made) and so he ‘went with Georgina.’
He says he can understand why I am upset but as we both like Georgina, why can’t we use it. Seeing as she doesn’t ‘feel like an Emmeline.’

if this had been discussed, then sure, we both have to feel comfortable with the end name, but that decision can’t be with one parent alone, behind the other ones back. He says I was too unwell to really decide. Yes, I was unwell. But perfectly capable of a conversation.

oh and his mum has already ordered ‘Georgina’ a personalised baby blanket 🥴

That's just to incorporate both patents' preferences tbh. In ideal scenario this covfefe wouldn't have happened at sll.

I know an Emmalyse in case you want to tweak it a bit. Pronounced Emma-lease. I’ve always liked it but also like your pick.

You could send out a mass email from the new parents apologizing for paternal brain malfunction occurring during the traumatic postpartum events.

Nope. Don’t do this OP . Anyone slightly scientifically minded will think she is called Amylase ( as in salivary amylase). There’s been enough name drama in her little life without the need to carefully pronounce the name to avoid that interpretation.

Then again Germolene and Amylase work together quite well…

Emmeline it is then. I would first get the appointment to the office by myself thank you very much and I would also text to everyone that that is her second name. He can always call her her second name. And jolly grandma too.

Some really unpleasant comments about the proposed names- truly, how does this help? This post is not at all about the name, but about OH going against OPs wishes behind her back, in cohoots with his mum, when she was recovering in hospital about difficult birth.

Completely agree with number 1. Very few of my friends could even name my siblings.

Congratulations on the new addition, OP.

I am so sorry OP, what a horrendous thing to happen. Utterly awful.
Please do check ASAP he hasn't registered the birth already. I feel terrible for you.

If he has registered the name you can change it, I think you have a year to change your mind.

What are your other children calling the baby? I would start with them, get them used to your new name.

Both of these names are tarnished for you now.
The easiest way to move forward is to tell everyone she isn't yet named and think of a new name.

my dd has a personilised blanket for her own dd with the wrong name on it - they changed their minds a couple of times. People jumped the gun and got stuff made - but they aren't going to stick to a name due to a blanket

Stick your name OP.

My blood was boiling for you when I read the OP. Fuck his mum and her blanket, don’t let him try to use that to force you to keep Georgina.
he knew he was being shady and that’s why he didn’t tell your family.

maybe the baby’s name isn’t going to be Emmeline but I’d sure as hell not go with Georgina now either.

oh and he can tell everyone too

For some mothers her baby is important, maybe not for you, but you do you.

It's outrageous. Like really, really bad.

Txt his family and tell them you have no idea why he told them the new DD is called Georgina, and her name is actually Emmeline. There. Job done 👊

???? OP hasn’t tried to unilaterally rename the baby behind DH‘s back.

What‘s your point?

This happened to me I was Emily and my dad dad changed it to my name now 😂

OMG! Did he register it?

I would not agree to Georgina. He does not get to decide unilaterally like this. Twat.

I'd just like to say my husband was trusted enough when I asked him to go and register the births of both our babies , and got both right . He had them both written down .

@Lilysienna1, how are you doing?

I commented earlier, but am still dumbfounded that he took advantage of your poor state in hospital to sneakily change the agreed upon name and broadcast it behind your back.

His selfishness and sense of entitlement are massive, as is his disregard/disrespect for you. He couldn’t care less about your feelings or the shock of receiving congratulations from everyone on the arrival of little ‘Georgina’. Mind boggling is an understatement.

If his mother had a hand in this, it is disturbing that pleasing her is his priority.

Firstly, Emmeline is a beautiful name! What is your dh playing at? Id be horrified if mine did that, i presume he never wanted the name you chose?

Lots of people haven't decided when baby is born , midwife just writes on wristband " baby surname" . There is loads of time to register baby afterwards . No one needs to decide until after baby is born .
One of my sons had to wait a week because his dad was overseas when he was born .

@Lilysienna1 Hope you get your little bean registered as Emmeline, if that's the name you want for her! Love the name. ❤️