My DH has changed my baby’s name….

[Lilysienna1]

… or at least, he’s TOLD everyone a different name. I’m pretty sure I am not being unreasonable. This is more of what would be a reasonable response. Because right now I’m ready to LTB.

I have recently given birth to our 3rd and final baby. I had a difficult birth, and have just got home from hospital after a 10 day stay.
As we did with previous births, we’ve not allowed any visitors and as I’ve been so unwell, I’ve actually only bothered with my
phone to snap a few photos, in between sleeping and feeding etc. Not announced the birth on social media, and only spoke with my mum and sisters.

I arrive home today and started opening cards and presents that family and friends (from DH side) have dropped round. All with congratulations on the birth of ‘Georgina.’

This would be lovely, if her name was Georgina. However, it isn’t or at least it wasn’t. We had agreed on Emmeline. Georgina was a top contender, but I just didn’t love it as much as Emmeline. DH had not expressed how much he loved the name Georgina - he was very much ‘I like all the names on the shortlist. You can choose.’ Which I did. Emmeline.

so of course, I confront him on it. We didn’t share any names with friends and family, so I knew they hadn’t just taken a wild guess. He looked a bit sheepish and said ‘I was going to tell you. I just don’t think I can imagine calling her Emmeline. Georgina is a better fit.’
Oh and ‘Everyone agrees’ he said. (his mum then basically)

‘I was going to tell you’ doesn’t really cut it here does it? I will admit neither of us were really using her name in the hospital, we were calling her ‘little bean’ which was a silly but sentimental name we had for her when she was just a bump. But of course I’ve said Emmeline a few times and I’m sure he has as well.

He said he was really sorry, but ‘everyone’ was asking for a name and he felt he had to make a decision (that we had already made) and so he ‘went with Georgina.’
He says he can understand why I am upset but as we both like Georgina, why can’t we use it. Seeing as she doesn’t ‘feel like an Emmeline.’

if this had been discussed, then sure, we both have to feel comfortable with the end name, but that decision can’t be with one parent alone, behind the other ones back. He says I was too unwell to really decide. Yes, I was unwell. But perfectly capable of a conversation.

oh and his mum has already ordered ‘Georgina’ a personalised baby blanket 🥴

Oh, Louisa Clementine is lovely 😊 I’m glad you’ve settled on something and that it’s going down well. Congratulations on your new baby!

I had dd1 when I was living abroad and the tradition was for the first dd to be named after MiL. Her name was quite difficult to pronounce for English speakers so we decided to call her after MiL's dm who hadn't had anyone named after her and of whom dh had been very fond. Anyway I had a difficult birth and when my MiL visited in the hospital she picked up dd1 and said 'my little MiL's name'. I was fuming! Luckily dh told MiL what for and dd1 had the name we chose.

Louisa is one of my favourite names 😊

Emmeline just sounds exactly like Emily

What a lovely solution ♥️ well done OP

Congratulations! Louisa Clementine is a beautiful name choice
Hooe you’re well and family are too with new wee baby

My husband couldn't remember what we'd agreed for our 3rd child, I was always having to remind him. Can you make a social media post with new babies name and his mum will just have to change her order.

For our third child I sent out thank you cards with the stock message inside, something like Thank you for your kindness on the birth of our daughter Georgina Anne May from George and Betty ..... we'd had a boy and we are not called George and Betty! Sorry this has no relevance.

Whatever you decide to do your baby girl will be perfect, names are given so much thought but do you really ever give much thought to all the people you already know and their names. They just are. Your little girl will be lovely with either name. Although if you think her MIL has decided this make sure she is an Emmaline! Your DH surely has a say too but not MIL!

Two of my favourite names. Beautiful x

This is the kind of carry on that's making my Ancestry family tree research complicated 🤣

That's a happy ending. Never tell people your name choices.

If he can do it so can you make your appointment to register the birth and put Emmaline on her birth certificate and order a blanket with her real name on it! I would 😜 congratulations on your new baby it’s a lovely name.

Yay! A happy resolution. Wishing you and Louisa health and happiness. Congratulations!

Welcome to the world Loisa.

OP don't let him near the register office just in case he has another brain fart.

Louisa, sorry for the typo

Congratulations. I think Louisa is a very pretty name. 💕

Louisa is also not 4 syllables, how did you swing that 😂

Over reaction much? Nothing I said doesn’t stand regardless of the update from OP. Emmeline and Little Bean do sound alike. This still makes sense whether they chose Louisa or not. It’s just a comment.
The fact mothers should get final say in the name is also a valid comment not just for the OP’s situation but in general. I’m just adding to the consensus that the father was in the wrong, I’m not telling the OP what she must do.

Is it really worth fighting about if you had the name at the top of your list anyway? Sorry I disagree with everyone and don’t think this is a big deal. It’s a beautiful name and he is the dad so us made a decision while you’ve been recovering. I certainly wouldn’t consider leaving my husband because he made a decision on a name.

Hmmm. I went to school with a Georgie and people would called her Georgie Porgie, like the nursery rhyme, which I always thought was unfortunate. It has put me right off the names George or Georgina.

I think Emmeline is beautiful and musical-sounding.

We had difficulty deciding on a name for our daughter and she was nameless for a few days, but my husband would never have made a unilateral decision! (We both like the name we went for.)

I can only applaud your excellent taste - my only daughter is Louisa.

Absolutely bonkers behaviour and I'd be livid !
He would be ringing round everyone and telling them her actual name .
Is he always this manipulative and controlling ?

Just seen the update congratulations on Louisa your husband is still a d!ck for changing your child's name behind your back because his mother didn't like it , not her child she gets NO opinion

I’d be tempted to put a Facebook post announcing the birth of Georgina and then (your maiden name). See that he says to that.

Why would you do that given they've now decided on a different name?

Maiden name?How antiquated Do women still give up their names, I hope not
Anyway it’s all resolved they chose an entirely other name