DH's scruffy friend

[ScruffinessIsContagious]

Mostly lighthearted but I'm also curious.

For the past 6+ years, we’ve been a group of 5. A few months ago, one of DH’s childhood mates came back to oz after spending a couple of years abroad, and we’ve since been a band of 6. We all just got back from a week-long city break, and looking through the photos, her scruffiness is apparent and it actually really bothers me. I know the reasons definitely aren’t financial so I was wondering why.

Her “uniform” (even when not on vacation) consists of chino shorts, oversized tees, and sandals. That’s it. She wore that to museums, walks around the city, fancy cafes, and even restaurants??!! I’m not a fashionista but surely there’s a time and place for a nice dress, some slim-fit trousers and a fitted top, or even a button-down linen shirt to go with her shorts? She’s very slim so surely it’s easy to find clothes that fit? Saw her after work once and she wore a tee, oversized “parachute trousers”, and huge sneakers so it’s not just us she doesn’t smarten up for!

AIBU to wonder why someone would choose to be like that?

I wear what I feel comfortable in, I wouldn't GAF what you think and would judge you immensely for being so shallow.

Erghhh I hate these posts.

in the politest way possible, what she wears is nothing to do with you. She may not like how you dress. I may not like how my friends or husbands dress at time but it’s none of my business. I was taught up with the manner of the only time you comment on someone’s clothes is to tell them their skirt is tucked in their knickers etc….

I am slim and wear oversized clothes most of the time... gosh, what must people think of me??? 😱. Her clothing sounds fine, no one is under any obligation to wear a dress for you. I hope the other friends in the group are less judgemental. Two things spring to mind, either she is "scruffy" but attractive and you have a problem with that, or she's not straight and you have a problem with that

That actually sounds very typical of a younger person these days and is bang on trend.

Whereas your slim fitting trousers and button down shirt sound frumpy AF.

You sound jealous.

A shame minding-your-own-business isn't contagious

Who’s betting the op won’t be back 😂😂😂

You sound very unkind

Wow I feel almost personally offended! I dress exactly like that in the summer.

Clothes are important to you and not your husband's "slim" friend. Maybe find something else to do rather than bitch

if she is, it'll be to reveal it was a reverse.

If this wasn’t so obviously a wind up I’d be in despair at the lack of intelligence you have OP.

This reminds me of my old boss who thought we looked “scruffy” unless we dressed like her - high heeled boots, pleather leggings and a black appliqué jumper 🙄 I’m a hairdresser and we all looked a lot cooler than her in our DMs/Nikes/jeans/tees.

If I were you I would totally tell her... "look love, you need to make more of an effort to be in our gang..."
Totally reasonable and not in the slightest bit childish...

OP you sound like a real dull twat 😅

Why does it bother you? I wouldn't dress like that personally but I wouldn't care if someone else does.

No it doesn't help

You sound like a horrible judgemental person. You need a good look at YOURSELF not your friend.

I definitely have a different idea of scruffy from the OP.

In my head scruffy is crumpled/unclean/torn/very worn clothing, unwashed/unbrushed hair and dirt under the finger nails.

It's an odd thing to be worked up about, how a partner's friend prefers casual, loose fitting clothes...that happens to be in fashion at the moment. @ScruffinessIsContagious you're either jealous or judgemental - neither is an attractive personality trait and much more difficult to overcome than fashion choices

@takealettermsjones

Gosh Really. You think?

👍🏻🤣🤣🤣

I’m in the 3% that agree with you. Life dictates that you dress appropriately for what you’re doing, and she sounds like a scruff. I’d be embarrassed going to a restaurant with her dressed like that.

@ScruffinessIsContagious

why is it contagious? Do you find your DH mirroring her style?

it actually really bothers me

why???

On Wednesdays we wear pink....

I’d delete this post, OP. It doesn’t reflect well on you.

This friend sounds a lot more fun to be around than you, Princess Judgy-Pants.

To stuck up for me are you the one that made a thread about frumpy looking clothes.
I look like a tramp to day and dont give a fuck what others think.
Actions speak louder than what someone is wearing and for the sounds of it you bloody red with jealousy.
She`s happy with herself but your not happy with you point your finger at yourself.
OP WONT BE BACK AS SHE DID NOT GET THE COMMENTS SHE WANTED.