To be absolutely stoned with my 6 yr old?

hanginglikefawkes · 2024-03-02T23:48:10+00:00

We live a really normal sensible life usually. But my son has autism. I spent years without sleep , emailing schools, tracking his development .usually tonight is my night off, I work in a very demanding industry and I’m perpetually drained but dad has him on a Saturday night. I usually attack a bottle of wine, a Camberwell carrot and then just relax. Tonight dad is ill and I’ve been handed back my son , and he’s absolutely happy and gorgeous, and we’ve spent the last hour mirroring on the guitar. We’ve then had some food and I’ve just put him to bed .ive never been in charge of my son when im under the influence though. I feel like we’re fine. He is fast asleep and cosy in his room , im still anxious though. Obviously I stopped drinking and smoking when he came home. It’s just a weird situation for me, these two things are so dichotomised.

Sexisthairdressers · 03/03/2024 00:03

Obviously YABU to be stoned with a young child. But you can't do anything about it now. If he's happy/sleeping/ok, I'm sure you'll be fine.

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 03/03/2024 00:07

what would you say / do if you found your child's dad does the same when he is in charge of the boy's care ?

Twonewcats · 03/03/2024 00:07

Well, you didn't choose to be stoned with him, and I'm sure a lot of people do do it by choice. I know that a lot of parents will have alcohol regardless of the child's age, so it's unusual for you but prob not for many folk.
The fact you're even worrying about it shows you're a good parent x

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hanginglikefawkes · 03/03/2024 00:09

@Sexisthairdressers yeah he definitely ate more shite than he should have this evening and it was a bit off piste. But as you say , he’s safe and asleep now. I’m gonna take this as a learning curve tbh.

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Twonewcats · 03/03/2024 00:09

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 03/03/2024 00:07

what would you say / do if you found your child's dad does the same when he is in charge of the boy's care ?

If he was unexpectedly in his care, that's very different from a planned night while in charge of a child!

QuinceBlossom · 03/03/2024 00:10

Sounds like a lovely evening. You feel like you're fine because you are fine. You didn't plan to be stoned in charge of him and that's good. No need to be anxious; that's probably the dope talking 😊 You're both fine.

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hanginglikefawkes · 03/03/2024 00:16

QuinceBlossom · 03/03/2024 00:10

Sounds like a lovely evening. You feel like you're fine because you are fine. You didn't plan to be stoned in charge of him and that's good. No need to be anxious; that's probably the dope talking 😊 You're both fine.

Well yes , it’s fine. We had a nice evening and I’ve enjoyed settling him. I’m more worried about the fact I was definitely a bit hammered when he came home. I’m bonkers aren’t I? I worry about if I wasn’t awake enough and didn’t see a risk soon enough or something. It’s just different. To be fair he looks well relaxed atm. I wish I felt the same !

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alphajuliet123 · 03/03/2024 00:16

He’s asleep, no harm done!

QuinceBlossom · 03/03/2024 00:32

Ok, so you were a bit hammered earlier but nothing bad happened.

As you said in your OP, these were uniquely unusual circumstances for you as a mum. Two worlds unexpectedly colliding like that is bound to be disorientating - and that's without factoring in any psychotropic substances!

QuinceBlossom · 03/03/2024 00:34

I'd be skinning up again now that I know he's fast asleep but I'm an incorrigible old pothead and bad at boundaries.

meganorks · 03/03/2024 00:36

Well it was an unexpected situation and you've dealt with it. If you were getting stoned with a 6 year old, obviously not OK. But that's not your situation.

WhateverMate · 03/03/2024 00:41

Couldn't be helped could it? 🤷‍♀️

But you know what MN can be like so I'm wondering why you even started this thread considering there's nothing you can do about it?

Even the thread title is a bit click baity.

BungleandGeorge · 03/03/2024 00:41

How unwell is his dad? It surely would have been better for him to stay there?

QueenBitch666 · 03/03/2024 00:43

Camberwell Carrot 😎

albaalba351 · 03/03/2024 00:43

You should be ashamed of yourself (if you are in the UK), you are partaking in illegal drugs and looking after a young child. I suggest you find something else rather than drugs to take your mind off of the stresses in your life - you need to as it's a very damaging and dangerous path to go down. You are meant to be a role model for your child. I have actually had very close family members go down the path of drugs such as cannabis, and it's safe to say that their children have been destroyed by their actions.

sprigatito · 03/03/2024 00:44

albaalba351 · 03/03/2024 00:43

You should be ashamed of yourself (if you are in the UK), you are partaking in illegal drugs and looking after a young child. I suggest you find something else rather than drugs to take your mind off of the stresses in your life - you need to as it's a very damaging and dangerous path to go down. You are meant to be a role model for your child. I have actually had very close family members go down the path of drugs such as cannabis, and it's safe to say that their children have been destroyed by their actions.

lol

floppybit · 03/03/2024 00:44

QuinceBlossom · 03/03/2024 00:34

I'd be skinning up again now that I know he's fast asleep but I'm an incorrigible old pothead and bad at boundaries.

Hahahaha this cracked me up, love it @QuinceBlossom

WhateverMate · 03/03/2024 00:59

albaalba351 · 03/03/2024 00:43

You should be ashamed of yourself (if you are in the UK), you are partaking in illegal drugs and looking after a young child. I suggest you find something else rather than drugs to take your mind off of the stresses in your life - you need to as it's a very damaging and dangerous path to go down. You are meant to be a role model for your child. I have actually had very close family members go down the path of drugs such as cannabis, and it's safe to say that their children have been destroyed by their actions.

you are partaking in illegal drugs and looking after a young child.

Yeah except if you read the thread, she wasn't partaking while looking after a young child 🤷‍♂️

DodgeDoggie · 03/03/2024 01:07

The reason you feel bad is because as a rule you’re never in charge of your kid while indulging. Best stop giving yourself a hard time. He’s safe.

GingerSquid · 03/03/2024 01:15

The fact you can type out a long and coherent message on here, shows you aren’t that stoned - all will be fine. Try to sober up as much as possible with lots of water and good food and grab an early night. I have friends with children with ASD and it’s all encompassing and full on; dont be too hard on yourself.

TeaAndTattoos · 03/03/2024 01:59

He’s fine he’s safe in bed fast asleep cut yourself some slack roll up another one and enjoy what’s left of your night like you said it was an unexpected thing you don’t normally get high around your child from one stoned person to another relax all will be fine.

TeaAndTattoos · 03/03/2024 02:00

albaalba351 · 03/03/2024 00:43

You should be ashamed of yourself (if you are in the UK), you are partaking in illegal drugs and looking after a young child. I suggest you find something else rather than drugs to take your mind off of the stresses in your life - you need to as it's a very damaging and dangerous path to go down. You are meant to be a role model for your child. I have actually had very close family members go down the path of drugs such as cannabis, and it's safe to say that their children have been destroyed by their actions.

lol unclench it was a little bit of weed not crack. Calm down dear.

MrsTerryPratchett · 03/03/2024 02:02

albaalba351 · 03/03/2024 00:43

You should be ashamed of yourself (if you are in the UK), you are partaking in illegal drugs and looking after a young child. I suggest you find something else rather than drugs to take your mind off of the stresses in your life - you need to as it's a very damaging and dangerous path to go down. You are meant to be a role model for your child. I have actually had very close family members go down the path of drugs such as cannabis, and it's safe to say that their children have been destroyed by their actions.

I don't smoke at all. Nothing.

But cannabis is illegal because of culture and racism. It's MUCH less harmful than alcohol. I'd legalise immediately and I'd be right.

thebestinterest · 03/03/2024 02:08

😂 enjoy it… stop drinking early and drink lots of water; reality sets in again tomorrow!

BeingStonedIsStupid · 03/03/2024 02:41

Reporting you to MNHQ for celebrating being stoned with a child. No one should glorify drugs usage.