To be absolutely stoned with my 6 yr old?

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We live a really normal sensible life usually. But my son has autism. I spent years without sleep , emailing schools, tracking his development .usually tonight is my night off, I work in a very demanding industry and I’m perpetually drained but dad has him on a Saturday night. I usually attack a bottle of wine, a Camberwell carrot and then just relax. Tonight dad is ill and I’ve been handed back my son , and he’s absolutely happy and gorgeous, and we’ve spent the last hour mirroring on the guitar. We’ve then had some food and I’ve just put him to bed .ive never been in charge of my son when im under the influence though. I feel like we’re fine. He is fast asleep and cosy in his room , im still anxious though. Obviously I stopped drinking and smoking when he came home. It’s just a weird situation for me, these two things are so dichotomised.

I’d probably be more worried about the alcohol than the weed in a childcare situation if I’m honest, but it’s the norm for plenty of parents to drink around their kids in an evening. Anyway you’ve written a coherent post so I’m assuming you’re not unreasonably drunk/ stoned, it wasn’t planned and your son is fine so really it’s no problem.

I have never drank nor taken drugs. I am not clever enough for this kind of activities: I need my whole brain to keep my shit together. You were obviously under influence for wanting to write this stuff online. Please do not drive today: I listened to this lady on bbc morning who took something in the evening and the day after made an horrific accident involving two of her friends and herself. It does not dissipate just like that. Also, how do you do this ? Cigarette stays in the walls and the clothes, is it not the same for cannabis ? How could a child thrive in this kind of environment ? The cannabis that you are taking is illegal, how do you know what's in it ? I plead with you to do you best to stop this habit. For me this would be a warning, there are always a few before shit comes to fan. You love your son, you are a decent person, just don't.

Totally agree with others that a pissed parent is much more of a liability than a stoned one. Some people need to lighten up a bit. It's not like the OP was happily sharing a joint with her 6 year old (which is what I thought she was going to say when I read the first line 😂)

You know what you’re right…OP should have tied her child to her washing line outside with a bit of rope - much safer than being in his cosy bed fast asleep whilst god forbid mum tried to relax (whilst her child was in the care of his father)

She’s absolutely not celebrating it - she is worrying about it. Her child wasn’t supposed to be home.

OP, hopefully it was an uneventful night. There was nothing you could have done differently - if it ever happened again I’d get a standby to be on call if an emergency happened - like a grandparent? Because you’d get in trouble if you had to take your son to A&E and you were under the influence - though hopefully there would be a rare chance of that happening!!

It was unavoidable. Assuming he was extremely ill and there was absolutely no-one else he could have asked to take the child eg a grandparent. Presumably he knew you’d been drinking and smoking and you both knew it wasn’t ideal for you to have him back at that point but needs must etc

I’d just be concerned that if all is well this time you’ll just convince yourself in your head that it didn’t necessarily need to be a one off and you’ll be tempted to justify it to yourself in future as the reason to do it with your child there.

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This thread is giving Gavin and Stacy Christmas special 2018 vibes..’is that it, a bit of weed?!’

Everything in moderation. FYI the vape pens are much better for the smell etc than traditional joints.

Don't sweat it all all. You've done nothing wrong and I've learned a new term so thanks for that!

Ah cannabis.

It's all fun and games until you get drug induced psychosis.

Ask me how I know.

And no, no prior history of psychosis or significant mental illness.

But it was fiiiiiiiiine.. until it wasn't 🙄

My neighbours smoke weed every day. Their house and young child stink of it.

Your posts are incredibly articulate for one who is "stoned" - am impressed at your mental capacity in such a state...

The situation with your son is just one of those things and he sounds perfectly safe.

What bothers me is the cannabis. I know it’s not the worst drug but it is illegal so when you are buying it you are funding county lines who exploit vulnerable young people and the people running county lines are involved in sexual abuse, violence, even modern day slavery. Until there is some legalisation of the lower category drugs I just cannot get on board with anyone buying them.

Pathetic.

Stop taking drugs. You're a parent.

😂😂 didn’t take long

To me, when you have a child you need to grow up and leave the drugs and heavy drinking behind you completely. If you're not ready to do that then don't have kids.
You're not 'bonkers' but you sound pretty feckless. I realise you're probably self medicating but when you have kids you really need to find healthier, more functional ways to deal with stress and anxiety. Otherwise you end up passing your dysfunctional ways of coping with life on to them.

I think people are falling over themselves to be cool on this thread.

I'm going to the funeral of a young man next week whose life was ruined by pot. And my brother was the same - depression, psychosis.

But you crack on if that's your bag 🙄

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Either smoking it or growing it at home is nothing to gloat about when you have kids, sorry. It’s also the people you invite into your lives such as other addicts and dealers. My friend had to move house because someone kept breaking into her home to steal her partner’s weed.

The smell is vile, and it will remain in all soft furnishings, clothes etc including that it your son so even smoking it in the house whilst he is away should be a huge nono.

Mumsnet is full of white middle class women trying to act "kool" by smoking cannabis.

Weed is legal in so many countries now it’s so easy to get hold of, I know people who get it delivered in the post - ordered online.

Most people I know who smoke it actually vape it, and you wouldn’t be able to tell difference between a weed vape pen and a nicotine vape pen.

The people I know who smoke the actual plant, that too comes in proper branded packages, with barcodes etc, as it’s all been brought into the country from places where it’s legalised and regulated. Actually the legalisation in other countries means many dealers aren’t taken the risk of growing it illegally here and that’s only a good thing.

Slightly off topic but once again reading MN has expanded my education.
I am a bit concerned though about Google ‘suggested’ posts having searched Camberwell Carrot.

@LittlePinkLampshade

cringing for you hun.

😂😂😂 I was hoping for a few of these. Classic.

Man, I miss a good bifta now and then. Being an adult sucks.

I feel very sorry for people who think that being a parent means you can’t do anything fun ever again, even when your children are not supposed to be in your care.