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I’m done with my dad - AIBU

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Lilllypad11 · 30/12/2023 18:27

Today my dad and I had a disagreement. I admittedly do always say “who you texting” when he’s on the phone. He asked me last night who I was texting. So I went “doesn’t matter” he said “you’ve been on that phone all of dinner and you always ask me who I’m texting and why I’m texting them so I don’t see what your problem is all of a sudden we can’t ask you”

I walked off.

I ignored him all today. I just chose not to bother or engage in any convo. He then says “I don’t know why you’re still not talking to me” so I said “yesterday you kept probing me for an answer like a kid and wouldn’t leave me alone” so then he decided to flip out and start arguing and said “I’m so fed up of you constantly having a moan lately. You always say it’s your period that makes you moody but everyone and every other woman just gets on with it. Then on top of that I’ve done everything to console you through the break up and I’ve dealt with the tears and the tantrums and it’s now been 4 months later. Fuck the stupid guy who’s clearly fucked off with another woman stop being a loser and waiting for that cnt to turn around and go and find someone better than him. You’re crying tears over some stupid fuck and you’re not understanding that he clearly doesn’t give a sit and had no respect for you. Why are you constantly wasting these tears on him. We’ve constantly been there for you but you need to stop” so of course, I’m not tolerating being called a loser by my father. I got in his face and told him what a loser he was for being such an unsupportive ahole and that quite frankly he could shove new year up his as.

I would also like to add he shouts very loudly so I shout even louder.

I picked up my keys and I’ve stormed off. My mums called me and said come and talk it out with him. I’ve refused. I’m just not tolerating being called a loser. It’s not nice and it’s so uncalled for.

Should I bother listening to his drivel.

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Lilllypad11 · 30/12/2023 18:28

Oh and I’m 27 years of age therefore. Don’t need to answer to anyone. Nor be shouted at by my dad at my age. I will obviously shout back. Which I did.

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Shouldershoulder · 30/12/2023 18:30

I think you behaved very childishly regarding the text messages.

Didimum · 30/12/2023 18:31

You sound hugely immature, OP. I feel sorry for your dad.

Thehop · 30/12/2023 18:31

You're 27? Blimey

FionnulaTheCooler · 30/12/2023 18:32

Neither of you have covered yourselves in glory here. Obviously him shouting and swearing in your face isn't acceptable but it sounds like you have been behaving like a moody adolescent and he was at the end of his tether. Your poor mum, being stuck trying to mediate this.

Meowandthen · 30/12/2023 18:32

How old are you? You sound like a moody teenager.

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Lilllypad11 · 30/12/2023 18:32

Didimum · 30/12/2023 18:31

You sound hugely immature, OP. I feel sorry for your dad.

So you think it’s okay for him to call me a loser and start shouting. Stating I pay no bills when I contribute whatever I can. Then proceeds to drop me in it about a secret I told him to keep. So I just did the exact same to him.

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Lilllypad11 · 30/12/2023 18:33

FionnulaTheCooler · 30/12/2023 18:32

Neither of you have covered yourselves in glory here. Obviously him shouting and swearing in your face isn't acceptable but it sounds like you have been behaving like a moody adolescent and he was at the end of his tether. Your poor mum, being stuck trying to mediate this.

He’s an abhorrent asshole. I’m sick of his sh*t. He will find a reason to create a disagreement which is what he’s done here.

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Meowandthen · 30/12/2023 18:33

Lilllypad11 · 30/12/2023 18:28

Oh and I’m 27 years of age therefore. Don’t need to answer to anyone. Nor be shouted at by my dad at my age. I will obviously shout back. Which I did.

You are living under his roof. And behaving like a brat.

Shouldershoulder · 30/12/2023 18:33

You sound like a pain in the arse tbh.

Meowandthen · 30/12/2023 18:33

Lilllypad11 · 30/12/2023 18:33

He’s an abhorrent asshole. I’m sick of his sh*t. He will find a reason to create a disagreement which is what he’s done here.

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Then move out.

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Lilllypad11 · 30/12/2023 18:33

Meowandthen · 30/12/2023 18:33

You are living under his roof. And behaving like a brat.

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So that means he can speak to me however he wishes. Absolutely not.

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Lilllypad11 · 30/12/2023 18:33

Meowandthen · 30/12/2023 18:33

Then move out.

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Planning to.

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Testina · 30/12/2023 18:33

You sound like very hard work.
You were rude to him. Then you ignored him. You have form for tantrums?
You don’t sound 27.
But then, it sounds like you’ve learned your, um, dramatic style of communication from him so 🤷🏻‍♀️

This one sounds 50/50 at most, but probably more on you.

PlacidPenelope · 30/12/2023 18:34

So it is okay for you to treat your dad as a child by asking who he is texting and why but not okay for him to ask you?

Then you do the incredibly immature silent treatment.

You don't sound like an adult, more like a spoilt, defensive toddler.

Sparklfairy · 30/12/2023 18:34

If you were 17 that would be one thing, but fgs OP, you're pushing 30. Isn't it time you grew up?

Meowandthen · 30/12/2023 18:34

Lilllypad11 · 30/12/2023 18:33

So that means he can speak to me however he wishes. Absolutely not.

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And you don’t get to do whatever you like either, or be a brat.

You demand to know who he is messaging but had a stop when he asked you the same. Very childish.

Testina · 30/12/2023 18:35

Oh Lordy, you’re still living there and not even paying proper board? No wonder he treats you like a child.

tuvamoodyson · 30/12/2023 18:35

27 you say? 🤔

Spirallingdownwards · 30/12/2023 18:35

I can see his point of view re the texts and then you behaved like a spoiled teen giving him the silent treatment. Your own treatment of him was what prompted his eventual outburst.

So perhaps re read your own first post and realise that whilst he let out some things that may have been better off kept inside it was your own pettiness that led to him losing his temper.

Thehop · 30/12/2023 18:35

You don't even pay your way properly?!

Throwawayme · 30/12/2023 18:36

You're acting like a brat.

Testina · 30/12/2023 18:36

I assumed this was one of those, “back home for Xmas, had enough of each other” things 😳

Spirallingdownwards · 30/12/2023 18:37

Yes do your parents a favour and move out.

Samsonsmum · 30/12/2023 18:37

I think you have done him a favor