I’m done with my dad - AIBU

[Lilllypad11]

Today my dad and I had a disagreement. I admittedly do always say “who you texting” when he’s on the phone. He asked me last night who I was texting. So I went “doesn’t matter” he said “you’ve been on that phone all of dinner and you always ask me who I’m texting and why I’m texting them so I don’t see what your problem is all of a sudden we can’t ask you”

I walked off.

I ignored him all today. I just chose not to bother or engage in any convo. He then says “I don’t know why you’re still not talking to me” so I said “yesterday you kept probing me for an answer like a kid and wouldn’t leave me alone” so then he decided to flip out and start arguing and said “I’m so fed up of you constantly having a moan lately. You always say it’s your period that makes you moody but everyone and every other woman just gets on with it. Then on top of that I’ve done everything to console you through the break up and I’ve dealt with the tears and the tantrums and it’s now been 4 months later. Fuck the stupid guy who’s clearly fucked off with another woman stop being a loser and waiting for that cnt to turn around and go and find someone better than him. You’re crying tears over some stupid fuck and you’re not understanding that he clearly doesn’t give a sit and had no respect for you. Why are you constantly wasting these tears on him. We’ve constantly been there for you but you need to stop” so of course, I’m not tolerating being called a loser by my father. I got in his face and told him what a loser he was for being such an unsupportive ahole and that quite frankly he could shove new year up his as.

I would also like to add he shouts very loudly so I shout even louder.

I picked up my keys and I’ve stormed off. My mums called me and said come and talk it out with him. I’ve refused. I’m just not tolerating being called a loser. It’s not nice and it’s so uncalled for.

Should I bother listening to his drivel.

Well it’s common sense you’re a parent. It’s what you sign up for.

Not when you are 27 its not.

Your dad appears to be having to take responsibility for his 27yr old who’s suddenly moved back home and behaving like a brat. What more responsibility should he take on?

This can’t possibly be real! Wow you are really really awful.

I reckon whatever daylight robbery figure that locksmith charges your ma and pa when you move out will still be money well spent, @Lilllypad11 . Here's to a well-deserved, restful 2024 to them.

You’re 27, are you? That’s weird because on your post on Christmas Day about online dating you were 28.

Either way, you sound entirely unbearable to me and you are wholly in the wrong here.

“AIBU”
”Yes. Totally. 100%”
”no I’m not”
”no you absolutely are”
”no I’m not and I’m going to tantrum about it until everyone agrees”

What a marvellous use of time

This is when one moves out, pays their own way in life and can feel perfectly free to say fuck off to anyone they like.

However you’ll be too busy working your ass off to survive to bother with telling him to fuck off. Also you’re wasting money on a hotel that could go towards long term housing!

You're right, at 27 you don't need to answer to your dad. Given your dad is also an adult, why do you expect him to answer to you?

So you do something to him and when he did it back you took a strop like a child? Reading this post I realised my teenager is more mature and was shocked to see you’re 27.

Ever thought he might have called you a loser because you’re acting like one? Food for thought.

I’ve done a search on the OP and she’s said in other posts she’s a teacher. I think they do go back soon, don’t they?

You need to leave home. You’re too old to live with your dad but at the same time you are very immature. You sound as bad as each other though.

However you’ll be too busy working your ass off to survive to bother with telling him to fuck off. Also you’re wasting money on a hotel that could go towards long term housing!

Considering the OP wants lip fillers but can only pay her parents whatever she can when she can long term housing seems a way off. Funny how lip fillers are an essential to the OP but paying her way at her parents is not. Small wonder her dad is at the end of his tether.

Really? Oh dear.

Was about to ask, are you 14?

My profession has nothing to do with the poor relationship I have with my dad.

Then leave! You sound awful but maybe when you’ve permanently left your mood and attitude will improve, as will his.

Why doesn't he ask you to leave?

“Stating I pay no bills when I contribute whatever I can”

So he is supporting you. Aged 27. And still acting like a spoiled brat. Bravo.

I had every intention of coming on here and being supportive of a teenage girl who was clearly struggling with her emotions and a break up. Then I realised you were an adult who had essentially thrown a huge strop when someone dared to treat her like she treats them (with questioning etc). When your father then tried to encourage you to move on, likely out of love but admittedly not in the softest way, you’ve thrown another strop. It sounds like you expect everyone to tiptoe around you but you expect to behave however you want, such as being rude to guests, without being challenged. Time to grow up I’m afraid and take a long hard look at yourself.

This.

Your dad didn’t paint himself in glory but neither have you. For a 27 year old you sound incredibly immature.

No but it has a lot to do with the fact that you have a decently paid job but only ‘contribute when you can.’

Says it all really…

Your dad may have his faults, but it sounds like they’ve been financially supporting you for a while- and in all of his angry words he was actually telling you that you’re worth more than crying over a bloke who doesn’t want you.

Maybe listen to him?

And a teacher! Of what I wonder? I don’t expect all teachers to have great relationships with their parents but the attitude and immaturity coming off these posts seems pretty shocking to me for a supposed ‘educated’ teacher.

This really made me chuckle…

Aunty Sue be like ‘honestly Dave, you REALLY don’t need to force her to talk to me…😂😂😂’

You sound very immature for 27 you need to move out