I’m done with my dad - AIBU

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Today my dad and I had a disagreement. I admittedly do always say “who you texting” when he’s on the phone. He asked me last night who I was texting. So I went “doesn’t matter” he said “you’ve been on that phone all of dinner and you always ask me who I’m texting and why I’m texting them so I don’t see what your problem is all of a sudden we can’t ask you”

I walked off.

I ignored him all today. I just chose not to bother or engage in any convo. He then says “I don’t know why you’re still not talking to me” so I said “yesterday you kept probing me for an answer like a kid and wouldn’t leave me alone” so then he decided to flip out and start arguing and said “I’m so fed up of you constantly having a moan lately. You always say it’s your period that makes you moody but everyone and every other woman just gets on with it. Then on top of that I’ve done everything to console you through the break up and I’ve dealt with the tears and the tantrums and it’s now been 4 months later. Fuck the stupid guy who’s clearly fucked off with another woman stop being a loser and waiting for that cnt to turn around and go and find someone better than him. You’re crying tears over some stupid fuck and you’re not understanding that he clearly doesn’t give a sit and had no respect for you. Why are you constantly wasting these tears on him. We’ve constantly been there for you but you need to stop” so of course, I’m not tolerating being called a loser by my father. I got in his face and told him what a loser he was for being such an unsupportive ahole and that quite frankly he could shove new year up his as.

I would also like to add he shouts very loudly so I shout even louder.

I picked up my keys and I’ve stormed off. My mums called me and said come and talk it out with him. I’ve refused. I’m just not tolerating being called a loser. It’s not nice and it’s so uncalled for.

Should I bother listening to his drivel.

Bet he’s doing this right now…..

Yes of course it isn't you at all

Make it three OP and give them time to get the locks changed.

He’s an arrogant idiot. I’m fed up of his shit. Dealt with it when I was younger. Not dealing with it now.

This

The way this thread is written and having looked at some of Op's other threads...

Leave and get a place on your own. Yes you will need a better job but you need to get away from your family and live your own life. Good luck.

im wrong too. Won’t deny it at all.

I'd be asking if you can extend that booking until you've found yourself somewhere permanent to live, where you can sulk to your heart's content.

Yeah they’re totally unsupportive. He just never takes responsibility

You’ve been really rude to guests, really rude the person whose home you are living in, and are blaming him for getting irritated with you.

You need a sense check. You don’t get to be rude to everyone because you are sad about a break up.

You do t have to be the life and soul, but you need to be polite.

Kindly, it’s time you grew up.

A 27 year old adult child living under your roof and barely contributing can get really grating. You mentioned your aunt, that was a guest in his home if you’re there don’t be rude and talk to aunt sue, you’re not a 14 year old. Grow up. Get your own place if this living situation is not working for you.

Hmm, arrogance is coming off you in waves OP.

Your poor dad

Move out today OP. Be best for everyone. You have just got on each others nerves and need to live separately .

“He argued with me on Christmas Day because I didn’t feel up to talking to my aunty who was a guest and instead of actually saying “hey I know you’re having a crap day because you cried all morning but you need to make an effort” he went “you’ve just sat there and not bothered talking to aunt sue.”

He should not need to tell/ask you to be polite to a guest. Surely that is common knowledge and manners to make people feel welcome and as an ‘adult’ you should know that

Ah, still school holidays

“Yeah they’re totally unsupportive”

Apart from the bit where they’re housing your grown adult arse for free?

did.... did you mean you're 2.7? That is the only way this ridiculous behaviour is acceptable.

You sound incredibly immature OP. You ask him who he's texting all the time, but he does the same and you flip a lid?

The end of a 6year relationship is tough, but it's not an excuse to treat people around you like shit.

The whole nonsense on Xmas day sounds like your immature doing as well OP. It's one day, just engage with your aunt.

Think it's best you move out asap to salvage the familial relationships

Bloody hell

Were you auditioning for Jeremy Kyle? Sounds like you're in with a good chance if so!

Yeah they’re totally unsupportive.

No they are not.

He just never takes responsibility

What is he supposed to take responsibility for? Your break up? The person taking no responsibility here is you OP.

You sound like your going through a tough break up but thats not an excuse to act like a spoilt brat unfortunately. I think it's best you move out, your relationship with your dad will likely improve.

You clearly have comprehension problems. It is entirely you!

I can't accept that this is real tbh